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43 M Portland, OR

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  • Ages 28–37
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  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has dogs
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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i'm in austin/san antonio at the moment. live in portland, ore most of the time, choosing to winter down here, as i am from here, have family/friends here. that said, i'm a bit in-between the two these days, so i'm keeping my options open (both in terms of whom i date and where i will be at any given moment). if that bothers you, my not being in your 'hood year-round, best look elsewhere. although if i found the right partner, my stints in the opposite city might be a bit shorter. but that's a ways off...let's stick with the now for now...


i remember a couple years back, listening to a song by e, you’ll be the scarecrow. i hadn’t listened to the song in at least a half dozen years, but something just told me to spin it up, and so i did, over and over. it always tugs at me, this song that references the end of the wizard of oz, when dorothy tiptoes up to the scarecrow’s ear and whispers, ‘i think i’m going to miss you most of all’. the next morning, i had a dentist appointment. i signed in, walked over to the waiting area, and as i went to sit down, i noticed in the kid area a flat-screen tele, playing the wizard of oz. and not just any moment in the film, but the exact moment where dorothy whispers this goodbye to the scarecrow. i stepped up to the screen, mesmerized and perplexed, and, believing deeply in such signs, immediately wondered: when i leave this world, who’ll be my scarecrow?

i’ve learned some hard and lovely lessons of late, about loss and giving. and i now know i have to be fearless in love, that holding back protects no one’s heart. as a close friend twice told me, we have to love fully no matter what. it may only last a week, but we still have to strive to be someone’s scarecrow. maybe then, we’ll find ours…


i'm not 'looking for love'. i am 'looking' to hang with someone, have some laughs, wander about, and discover some things about another and about myself. the other will happen. or not.

"Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity.” ― Gilda Radner
What I’m doing with my life
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keeping my space positive, learning to appreciate myself and others much more. capturing some of this in song, by learning the guitar and writing songs. taking photos that capture the beauty that most others miss. getting my house in a state that lets it be self-sustaining (and me, too;). dreaming of nepal in the fall.
I’m really good at
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making people laugh. laughing at myself. being sincere. being sarcastic. wandering. writing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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my eyes. my style. my sincerity.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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wind-up bird chronicle (h. murakami)
when you are engulfed in flames (d. sedaris)
a language older than words (d. jensen)

in the loop
les glaneurs et la glaneuse (the gleaners & i)

pride (phosphorescent)
benji (sun kil moon)
built on glass (chet faker)

interior or baja mexican
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
goodwill (the store and the feeling...does that count as two?!)
taste buds
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
overpopulation + over consumption = spontaneous combustion
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
avoiding the crowds...thursday tends to be my friday. i'll stick in and watch a movie, or go to a pub i know won't smell like a meat market.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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i'll do nearly anything for a story.
You should message me if
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you're intrigued by what i've said, possess a goofy and unpretentious sense of humor, and are up (or down) for adventures and wandering.