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45 Brooklyn, NY Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 36–52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 20
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Christianity, and laughing about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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First, let me say I love the concept of OKC's Crazy Blind Date app but I can't use it bc it won't work with my phone! Bummer :(

As for me: "Girly-girl", "nerdy-girl", "goody-goody" and "badass" are all appropriate ways to describe me. I'm a blend of cultures and I consider them all, separately and together to represent who I am: (1) Upper East Side prep-school and Seven Sisters graduate; (2) ex-Fortune500 careerist; and (3) geekified Jamerican - Brooklyn blend.

I'm easy-going, fun-loving, irreverent, and soulful. I'm just living a typical everyday life. I have been told by some that when they are first getting to know me, they find me intimidating. That may be because in new group situations I tend to be a quiet observer, taking everything in to process later. One-on-one is a different matter.

Right now I spend more time than I'd like at work but there's more to life than that, there's something missing - that extra spark that life can have when you're sharing it with your own special someone.

I'm looking forward to meeting an honest, kind, fun-loving man here. A man with the je ne sais quoi that keeps me smiling just because he is who he is. Like most people on this site, I want to find someone to be with for the long run but that's not an instant process. I'm open to the unexpected. My personal experiences have taught me that life often provides exactly what you're looking for when you're busy looking in a different direction. The challenge is keeping your eyes open to what's right in front of your face. Every life needs its yin and its yang.

As long as you're not looking for casual "hook-ups" let's get to know each other and see where we should go from there.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Nothing spectacular or extraordinary for now, just working and living. I'm reworking my priorities in the post-2008 financial meltdown world. In addition to my full-time job, I spend a portion of my free time volunteering in the education field and practicing my own version of Facebook activism. Over the past 4 years my life became a little too focused on the basics, though and it's time to spice things up a little and add some new ingedients to the fresh salad.

I love to travel, have a wry sense of humor, I'm a news junkie with strong opinions and I enjoy the occasional lively debate. Although at heart I'm really quite shy, I can pretty much talk to anybody about almost anything and I usually do.

If you want to see an example what makes me laugh-out-loud, check this out:

And I just learned a new word "glamping". Sweeeeeet!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being a sounding-board for my friends and family, being organized (admittedly, in some ways more than others) and setting and reaching my goals.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People always tell me I look like someone they know, constantly - since I was a kid. I am also very tall for a woman and my hair is an afro. Some people do also comment on the "articulate" way I speak.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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When it comes to the arts, I'm a bit of a dilettante; I know a bit about a lot but I can't really say I know everything (or 'a lot') about too many things.

Favorite Movies: I have a wide range of tastes in film. In general, I love artsy, foreign, action/adventure, international intrigue, etc. But I like other stuff, too. The common thread is that they are intelligent and that you have to pay attention to understand what's happening or what the director is trying to communicate. Some specific Directors - Hitchcock, Tarantino, Godard, Kubrick, Polansky (despite his ick-factor), Clint Eastwood (before Mystic River plus Gran Torino), George Clooney (Up in the Air, The Descendants). Some specific Films: Tampopo, Dr. Strangelove, A Bout de Souffle, Matrix, Frantic, Das Leben der Anderen, Au Revoir les Enfants, Goodbye Lenin, Don Juan DeMarco, A Clockwork Orange, Usual Suspects, Kick-Ass, Lola Rennt (aka Run Lola Run), Gone Baby Gone, Kill Bill v.I-II, Pulp Fiction, LA Confidential, Fifth Element, etc...and stuff like The International and Stieg Larsson's Dragon Tattoo Trilogy (Swedish version) for a little variety, I also like most Denzel, anything Marvel/comic-based (especially X-men) and Harry Potter (all). And I saw The Lovely Bones again... excellent!

Favorite Books: Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance (I've been reading it for years, in parts as I can "grok" it, One Hundred Years of Solitude, Jazz (Toni Morrison), The Great Gatsby, Another Country, Animal Farm, The God of Small Things, John Grisham and Dan Brown's novels, select romance novels, Harry Potter (the series), German: How to Speak it and Write it, Proverbs, Job and Ecclesiastes in The Bible (although I don't think of myself as especially religulous), Stranger in a Strange Land, The Tao teh Ching, Slaughterhouse 5, Born to Win by Lewis Timberlake and so much more...

Favorite TV Shows: Grimm, The Good Wife, Scandal, MI-5, Criminal Minds, Hannibal, CSI, Dexter, the Closer, Psych, Monk, Justified, Breaking Bad, South Park, Malcolm in the Middle, The Simpsons, My Name is Earl, Globe Trekker, Rick Steves, Law & Order (original & Criminal Intent only), Star Trek, X-Files, Wendy Williams, The View, SNL, The Daily Show & Colbert Report, The Newshour, DeutscheWelle Euromaxx, 60 Minutes, Bill Moyers, Bill Maher, etc... (No I'm not perpetually glued to my TV, I watch what I can and catch-up online when it's convenient.)

Favorite Music: All - but primarily classic rock, alternative, old-school hip-hop, old-school reggae/dancehall and old-school R&B. I don't listen to the radio as much as I used to... Some of the artists on my mp3 player now: Norah Jones, Erasure, Elton John, Lenny Kravitz, Paul McCartney, Meatloaf, Queen, Bob Marley, U2, Lauryn Hill, Sade and I also love Train, Florence and the Machine, Coldplay, Adele (of course) and Maroon5. I 've also been meaning to check out more Goody Mob and Outkast.

Favorite Food: SPICY!! Jamaican/West-Indian, Italian, Tex-Mex, Indian and Chinese would top the general list. Oh, and a robust, juicy red wine - I get some great, tasty red wines for reasonable prices (read: "for cheap") at Trader Joe's.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Six things I really appreciate:
traveling/learning new things,
the sun/fresh air, daily walks,
the whirlpool/steamroom/sauna at my gym,
my family and friends,
books, words, the beauty in the rhyme and lyricism of language,
hulu and the internet in general...

Ooops, more than six... Oh well!

Honesty and integrity are also very important to me. My trust starts out as a delicate thing which grows and solidifies as I get to know people.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
my goals, current affairs, my family and friends, and...

The story of stuff:

The tiny house movement: and

I was really captivated by this design competition back in early 2011. I still think about it a lot: and I also think often about living off the grid and/or how to create a lifestyle that minimizes my impact on mother earth while maintaining some degree of modernity and convenience. Here is the winner of the Jovoto competition, implemented:

Travelling. I recently spent a few days exploring Iceland. I would definitely go back. I'd love to visit Universal's Harry Potter world at Disney land and Buenos Aires and Copenhagen are probably next. A tour of the African Continent is also on my bucket list.

I also really appreciate the men on this site who are straightforward about their age and height and have updated, genuine pictures... Yes, we are all putting our best foot forward and on the wwweb, a little coyness might be wise (we all do that in one way or another, for good reason) - but it's a good feeling when people are liking the real you, right? And after all, we ARE going to SEE each other when we meet. :)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working. I rarely get Friday nights off and it's starting to get on my nerves. However on my version of Friday night, I'm usually home chilling with the TV and computer and sometimes out to a nearby watering-hole for a friendly drink or two. Since I have so few actual Friday nights to work with, when I do have one, I try to round up my pals for Margaritas at our old-tme hang-out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Lots!! I'm a private person about private things (especially on the internet) but with my close friends, I'm pretty much an open book on most things.
You should message me if
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-you're interested in me :),
-you are not married,
-your profile will give me a reasonable idea of who you are and you are interested in something long-term,
-you have a generally positive outlook on life.

We'll take it from there.

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