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okstupiid

35 M Helsinki, Finland

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 19–38
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 15
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of Ph.D program
Job
Other
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Swedish (Poorly), Finnish (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Yksi ihminen
minua vain, minussa
velloo rykelmä
virhemarginaaleja.
Elämän Excelissä.

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Jos ero tulee
vuoden sisällä, tuskin
alunperinkään
olitte toisillenne
oikeat viikkoakaan.

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Everything I am, all of what I do, 100% of what I say is a demonstrution. My every day is a revolution. My every date is a revolution. My every relationship is a new galaxy. My every poem is a microcosmos. A new dimension. All of my dating profiles suck. Your soul. So here I am for your viewing pleasure. Interviewing pleasure as well. DISCLAIMER: my words can cause a choking hazard.

If you want your share of NLP, well here it is: Isn't attraction incredible? Imaging relaxing into strong arms that hold you.

Did you feel anything? Well, I must confess that is just a copy-pasted part of one pick up artist's (a man, not a woman, to our surprise...) dating profile example. He used that for a long time and told that it works like a wonder. I am sure it works. It starts to program your brains... To get excited about the man. To start fantasizing about his very strong arms. You can almost feel them. Ooh, they are so soft and warm and... Safe... Appreciated... You feel like at home... But I am not that man, so... From now on just my own words. Plus some quotes, but you notice when they happen. I don't even have strong arms. Quite average arms. But holding someone close to you doesn't take strength...

Deliciously bohemian, an urban explorer, the connoisseur of the street, passionate lover of wind and rain. So genuine and tender you will weep your ears off.

"Are you the new person drawn toward me?
To begin with, take warning -- I am surely far different from what you suppose;
Do you suppose you will find in me your ideal?
Do you think it so easy to have me become your lover?
Do you think the friendship of me would be unalloy'd satisfaction?"
- Walt Whitman

"One of God's own prototypes. A high-powered mutant of some kind never even considered for mass production." - Hunter S Thompson

"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth." - Henry David Thoreau

I am a licensed coffee drinker.

I value integrity a lot. And eccentricity. If both are found on the same person, then I am interested.

Do you like pineapples?

"Partly truth and partly fiction, a walking contradiction." - Taxi Driver

If you let me, I can show you 66 shades of pink.

Välittäminen
on sitä, että tekee
tai sanoo jotain
mikä tuntuu toisesta
vain välittämiseltä.

In a world where there are so many not-forward, dishonest, ungenuine, not open, conservative, careful, petty, phoney, small talk people, I see why I can be considered "intimidating", shaking your world view, feeling you lack something. I am not one of those calculated players, who take baby steps to see what strikes a note, I am not thinking about my image, I prefer to show you my both hands instantly, I do not bluff when it comes to human relations. I am not here to win anything for myself, or to rob something from you. I am here more to make myself known, and then anyone can do whatever fits them, starting to get to know me, or that other option.

Olennaista ei
ole se tupeksitko
rankkarin, saatko
punaisen, teetkö oman
maalin - vaan se voitatko.

Yksi nollan hinnalla. Oman elämänsä itseoppinut elämäntapa-Tomi. Tuttu tv:stä! Nyt sisäänheittohintaan! I can't translate that.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am turning my life into art. That is very enjoyable. Woman inspiration is very welcome.

Being me. Being creative. Creating. Poetry and photographs.

Living my life. Trying to get close to your life. So it would encircle me some day.

Drowning my sorrows in coffee. The black liquid seems to take it away quite easily usually, who needs Zoloft when we have coffee! Finding my pleasures in kiwi.

Planning all kinds of things, dreaming to do some of them.

Thinking of Jack Nicholson shouting "YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!!!".

Eating bananas. Trying to eat and sleep healthy. Succeeding most of the time lately.

Second hand shopping.

Adding this quote here because it just feels right:
"The earth turned to bring us closer,
it spun on itself and within us,
and finally joined us together in this dream." - Eugenio Montejo
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Tweeting.

Getting inspired. Writing haiku. Counting syllables. Spending all the money I have with me (_with me_, that means with me, not all the money that I own... Because I only use cash, so I usually have only 50 euros with me) to books and dvds on a second hand shop. Read: I am a hoarder. I accumulate stuff so that my life wouldn't feel so empty. I don't have a woman/love in my life, so I try to fill the void with objects of art. I don't have anything to kiss and make out with, so I watch films and read books. Well, I was a little bit provocative there, and used a little bit of self-irony. But you got a point, I think.

Getting teary eyes... It happens when I write something. Or watch some film. Read some news. Almost a daily occurrence. I can act like I am crying, and my face is full of tears, and then I can just tell you that I just thought about some event in my childhood, so I could act sad, and show you how good I am at acting.. It's my bravura... ;]

I can sleep for 12-15 hours quite easily. Or stay awake for 2 days, try it sometimes, it might open your eyes!

Finding a woman that I consider my obvious soulmate from this site, sending a message to her, and not getting a reply. Sending a second message to her, and still not getting a reply. Spending time to think whether or not to send her a third message.

Sending that. Not getting a reply. Spending ti... Well you get the point.

Getting a message from a woman that messaged with me 1-3 years ago, and had dumped her boyfriend the day before. Accepting her date suggestion after 1-2 messages. Thinking it can lead somewhere. Closing my eyes from the truth.

Attending miracles. What do I mean... Well you just need to be in my company to find out. I can give you one example: I was in a large store with one woman. I told her my head hurts, and that maybe it is because of all those bright lights. 0,5 seconds after that all the lights went black, in the whole large department store. And after 15 seconds they came back. Events like that are almost weekly for me. Amazing coincidences that feel like huge miracles. For other people quite a minor event, but for me stuff to make poetry of etc...

Baking banana pie. And baking many other fun stuff to have with coffee or tea. Welcome to my place to get fat!! Well, baking is easy. I am good at finding interesting recipies.

I know a lot about art. I am a kind of walking Wikipedia, I know a lot of stuff about all kinds of things. I have strong opinions. I have an opinion on everything. I have thought all kinds of things 10-20 years ago, that most people hear for the first time from me, and say "Gee, why haven't I realized that before". My feelings are very strong, a little thing can be huge to me, it is easy to excite or disappoint me. To put it shortly: I have a great heart and mind.

I can count 13^4 etc in 10 seconds.

I can lick my elbow. I can try yours also if you want. I have never done that to women. I don't even remember kissing or sniffing anyone's pelvis bones. I wanna try that this summer.

I am also very modest and humble.

I have a good attention to details. Read: I am very neurotic.

I have a great talent for pointing out the obvious flaws in the emperor's new and old clothes. Read: I am L'enfant terrible, a rebel, a maverick, a dissident, a starter of revolutions, to put it mildly..!

I am good in getting random people confused, not knowing what they should do or say. But I don't meet random people online, I concentrate on kindred spirits.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I am very very lonely. So it's the same that most people noticed instantly when they saw Marilyn Monroe - "She must be the loneliest person I have ever seen." Even though she was in a company and was smiling etc...

That I punch them in the face and when they are knocked out in the ground I pee all over them.

Just kidding.

Many women that I pass by on the street might notice me staring at their cleavages. Or at their noses if it is winter. Well, maybe not - I am quite shy. And finnish - people here do not look towards a stranger they are passing on the street.

That I have a Canon digital camera around my neck. That I have long hair and that I look like Jesus/Charles Manson. That I don't take much eye contact and appear shy or arrogant. That I am not like them. And that I am the most direct and honest person they have ever met; I don't play games, I don't do small talk. Many have said that I am straight from Aki Kaurismäki films, or from some other film anyway.

And that I kid a lot. When they get to know me. But before that they might think how serious I am all the time.

10% of the time (when it is about a month since I clipped them last time, because I do that only about once a month, and because they seem to grow quite fast) I have longer fingernails than most women. Not because I play guitar or anything, I just don't try to be like other men, just to be like other men, so that I would seem to be like other men, so that women would think I am not weird or something, so that they would like me more, etc. Other things are important to me than the length of nails.

Ja netissä monet suominaiset sanoo että oon pelottava. Kukaan kymmenistä ei ole toistaiseksi suostunut/osannut kertoa tarkemmin mitä he sillä tarkoittavat. Yksi unelma olisi joskus saada kuulla tuokin mysteeri perinpohjin. Ei kuitenkaan ihan se isoin unelma. Yksi unelma olisi keksiä sinuun liittyviä sanoja, ja sanajonoja, ja sanasarjoja, ja sanaryhmiä, ja sanakokonaisuuksia.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Catcher in the Rye by J D Salinger
Amerika by Franz Kafka
The New York Trilogy by Paul Auster
The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde
Most stuff by Milan Kundera, Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Henry Miller, Erlend Loe and Louis Ferdinand Celine.
Short stories by Raymond Carver.
My favourite poets are Pentti Saarikoski, Pablo Neruda, Charles Bukowski, Walt Whitman, Allen Ginsberg and William Carlos Williams.
Elias Canetti.

Some of my favourite artists:
Mark Rothko
Jackson Pollock
Wassily Kandinsky
Antoni Tapies
Cy Twombly
Edvard Munch
Vincent van Gogh
One of my favourite paintings

It's films that I love, but I mostly watch movies.

Some of my favourite films:
Buffalo 66 by Vincent Gallo
Me and You and Everyone We Know by Miranda July
Werckmeister Harmonies by Bela Tarr
Ratcatcher by Lynne Ramsay.
Shame by Steve McQueen.
Berlin Alexanderplatz by Rainer Werner Fassbinder.
Piano Teacher by Michael Haneke.
Stranger than Paradise by Jim Jarmusch.
Taxi Driver by Martin Scorsese.
A Special Day by Ettore Scola.
Happy Together and Chungking Express by Wong Kar-Wai.
Last Tango in Paris by Bernardo Bertolucci.
Plus all films by Tarkovsky, Bresson, Fellini, Antonioni, Bergman, Kieslowski, Truffaut, Kubrick and Shunji Iwai. And most films by Werner Herzog, Aki Kaurismäki, Wim Wenders, Lars von Trier, Charlie Chaplin and Jean-Luc Godard. Some of the older films of Woody Allen. Atonement. Gardener of Eden. Paper Man. La fée (The Fairy).

Some of my favourite independent films: Monster's Ball, Good Will Hunting, The Libertine, She's So Lovely.

Have you seen Tristram Shandy?

I don't watch a lot of tv (actively, but it might be open for 10 hours while I do something else), but I enjoy Frasier and Seinfeld, and most art and history documentaries.

My favourite music:
Mostly classical; my favourites are Beethoven, Bach, Liszt, Shostakovich, Prokofiev, Mahler, Satie,Xenakis and Debussy.

Jazz - John Coltrane, Miles Davis, Billie Holiday, Pat Metheny.

Hundreds of rock and pop bands, mostly from 1965-1995. For example: The Doors, Yes, Cocteau Twins, Radiohead, Morphine, Joanna Newsom, Sigur Ros, Mazzy Star, The Cure.

Some new favourites: Tempelhof, Future Islands, Kings of Convenience, The Eels, The Shins, Supertramp.

I don't have anything against opera. I am quite open to most genres. Chanson, fado - you name it. And you don't have to even name them. I am pretty sure they already have names.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Poetry - mine and others.
Digital camera - Canon EOS 450D.
Coffee - with milk and without sugar usually, but I like cold black coffee too, if I have some cookies or other sweet things with it.
Feelings - a littlest thing can give me strong feelings.
Katharsis. Hhhhuuuuuuuummmourrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
Films - I have about 3000 dvds.
My inner child - it is the essence of me. Give it some new toys and become my muse.
My EGO! - I hope you like it too. And it blends well with your EGO.
Breaking the borders and the barriers. Going over limitations. Doing something other people are afraid to do. Doing something for the first time. Using creativity to escape the obstacles of everyday life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My poetry. Poetry of my favourite poets. The visual world. My favourite films. Dvds I want to watch.

Twitter. Tinder. New interesting net pages / apps.

Movie scenes. Dialogue. Memories. Future dreams. Nostalghia. The seasons. "Hmmm, maybe just 2 or 3 weeks and the first snow might appear suddenly, cool. Now where's my coffee."

And things concerning the thing most people call love. And other big issues.

And I almost always have some woman on my mind. That inspires a lot of thoughts out of my depthest deepppbppspbbBBSPBSPBSsssss.

Sports.

I also think plentyfully about the wheels over my heads.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Tweeting. Tindering. Poemizing.

Editing my haiku and waka poetry. Browsing and photoshopping some of my photographs. Watching some dvd. Eating healthy and delicious food (for example talkkuna). Reading Wikipedia articles about painters/poets. Reading some poetry book in my bed. Sometimes going to do some stuff that might inspire poetry out of me, it might be just taking the trash out, or going to get some milk. So do I sound like a mysterious fellow or what? Taking the trash out. Getting some milk. Just wow! Imagine being my escort or avec in those things. Who needs rollercoasters when you can accompany me in my typical Fridays! Welcome on board darling.

Cleaning and tidying my apartment, so I could invite you there. Well not really. I only have about 2 dates a year, so that is not much. And usually the woman arrives at friday, so the days I am tidying are tuesday-thursday...

Writing love letters that I keep for myself because they turned out so amazing. Wait a minute... That isn't true at all. I write letters maybe once in 3-4 years. And they are not love letters. So, what did I mean by that love letter thing? Maybe nothing. Maybe I was trying to underline the fact that I really don't have typical Friday routines. It's not a special day for me. I do whatever I want, undependant on what day it is.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I cry a lot. Meaning about once a month, but I think that's a lot for a MALE.
Every sentence that makes the probability that a woman replies me go down must be somewhat private. But at the same time when I do get a reply I know that she isn't just some random woman, but someone who can accept and even understand most of the stuff she has read here.
Sometimes I feel the loneliest man on the planet.
I don't have many real friends (maybe 1 or 2, I hope).
I need love.
About once a month I feel empty like the space.
I am not proud of my nickname here, but it is what it is, a spur of the moment thing back in 2004 (I started to use this actively in August 2012).
I love the color pink, and I might wear a pink jacket when we meet (well not really, because I don't own one, and have never seen them, but that was just to make a point, I think that is the best colour in clothes).
I am bi-polar. Manic depressive sounds better.

I can not think of anything too private. I don't have a lot of taboos.

[I had something here that I censored]
(About a year after that: I would include it here if I remembered it.. Hmm, maybe it was about suicide attempts?)

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you like everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting." - e e cummings
You should message me if
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you enjoy and create art, and you want to be a part of my artmosphere.
You understand the previous word was not a spelling error, but just my "poetic humour", playing with words.
If you think we have quite a lot in common.
And if you want to do happy stuff with me. Like crying together. Because we are out of candy. Well happy for us, we can go get some. WOW! Ain't that awesome. A pretty universe this is.
And if you think I have something that you want and need. Other than fame and fortune.

If you feel lonely.

And if you can't wait to get a message from me (if you see me in your visitor list, probably I have favorited you, and would message you in 4-10 days - IF I get over the fact that you live so far away from me, like most of the women here do).

No reason to contact me if you don't want anything from me.

I hope your match with me is over 77,23% (if 77,22% or less, no french kisses), friend match over 70%, and enemy percentage less than 23% (there are internet dates, and then there is The Gulf War). I hope you have time to browse what I have answered, and some of my explanations. Words and numbers are both important. About 3% of my answers are clicking/thinking mistakes, or I would answer differently now. People change every day. People Get Ready is an awesome Jeff Beck song by the way.

Don't message me if you are neutral and normal and mainstream. Or uptight. Or conservative and politically correct. Or emotionally cold, or mean, or selfish, or a sadist. Or very social and outgoing. Unless I had messaged you, in which case please send me a message saying for example "I am emotionally cold, so too bad for you" or something like that.

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You are most welcome to inlifetrate my life.

(almost all I have written here and answered in the match questions are based on looong-term dating.)