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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32-49
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, casual sex

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Last online
Today – 10:26am
White, Other
5' 9" (1.75m)
Other and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Somewhat), French (Somewhat), Arabic (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
(Custom okcupid ?s. My answers are below. :) )
1. Consider the quote "Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." - reading that, what pops into your mind?

2. What's the scariest, most complicated, taboo, or shameful thing about your sexuality?

3. What were you doing the last time you met someone? The time before that?

4. Consider Venkatesh Rao's definition of social objects. What are yours? What are mine? Wild guesses and imaginative flights of fancy are encouraged.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
"And I never started to plow in my life
That some one did not stop in the road
And take me away to a dance or picnic.
I ended up with forty acres;
I ended up with a broken fiddle—
And a broken laugh, and a thousand memories,
And not a single regret."
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing patterns. Being curious. Understanding systems. Balancing things on my chin. Cocreating scenius. Being inspired by good ideas. More.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
1: At the moment, it's writing custom OKCupid questions. :) I know, it's a cop out, but true.
And more generally it's making/doing/organizing things; one of my dream jobs is building a camp for contact improv dancers at burningman. Sexy self-aware people, in touch with their bodies, and into connection and play. Me building and managing and fixing and making it all work.
Maybe I'll do the same sortof thing in a Jordanian refugee camp, or in a trans rights NGO in the city, or....

2: Heh. Not tellin'. but I'll probably tell you on our first date if you ask. I'm a big fan of Brene Brown's concept of the power of vulnerabilty. Also I'm very kinky, so it's helpful to know, for example, if the idea us going to a rope bondage workshop is enticing.

3: was, come to think of it, at a rope bondage workshop. :) I was paired up with a random partner, and we got to play verbally without the job-interview style first-date questioning, while both doing something else we enjoyed (me tying her up.) The time before that was building shit at burningman; before that, rock climbing.

4. Coffee. (but I might just be saying that cause it's morning, and coffee. :) ) Mac laptops. iPhones. High quality tools that come with lifetime warranties. REI. climbing shoes. playa dust. IPA. Robert Anton Wilson. a passport. hmm. this is a fun question, and I bet my answer will be completely different over time.
You should message me if
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My favorite people are intelligent, playful, quick to laugh, perceptive, and appreciative of the wonder of being alive. If that's you, come on over to this side of the table.