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66 M Stratford, CT

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 50–70
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  • For new friends

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6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
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Has dogs

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My self-summary
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I'm Tom and I live in Connecticut. I’m 65 years old and holding up pretty well. I’ve been married to the same (wonderful) woman for 41 years and we’ve had different views on my sexuality and this marriage over the years. The present version is that a gay person can be married to a straight person, but shouldn’t suppress that gay side. Of course it’s hard to know how that fits into the OKCupid universe, but I know I’ve never gotten anywhere good with anyone by being dishonest, so there it is. I’ve called myself retired but I work a lot - teaching college courses, consulting in the field of early childhood education, writing. I spend a lot of my free time on my bicycle, on skis, or in a canoe or a kayak. Or in the garden, or reading, or writing. I'm looking for a relationship with someone who hasn’t completely given up on their straight side, or at least gets it that there’s a lot of diversity when it comes to sexuality. I’m impressed that many people write in these essays that they are appealing in so many ways (their bodies, their interests, their lovability). I tend to identify more with Popeye who said “I yam what I yam.” I’m strong and healthy and still have hair on my head. If you can connect with any of this, drop me a line. If you are full of yourself I might have trouble connecting.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am writing and teaching and enjoying the outdoors, my family, my dog - moving into a new adventurous phase of my life
I’m really good at
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being me. Or at least I'm trying.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Movies: About 90% of the time I think the last movie I saw was one of the "best” ever, but within a few weeks I can’t remember what it was called. This year “Philomena” and “Blue is the Warmest Color” are two that I haven’t forgotten.
I watch less than 2 hours of TV a month so the real question is “Why do I keep paying for all those channels?”
“100 Years of Solitude,” “Transatlantic,” “Nobody’s Fool,” “The Mambo Kings Play Songs of Love,” are a few novels that I’ve liked. Roddy Doyle, “Moby Dick,” lots of biographies and history as well. I enjoy reading first novels - by far the best this year was a transgender story called “For Today I am a Boy” by Kim Fu.
My musical tastes are all over the place - Regina Spektor, John Coltrane, Robyn, Doc Watson, Yo La Tengo, James Brown, Sharon Van Etten, Lou Reed. And so on.
The six things I could never do without
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My kayak
My family
My dog
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Private is private not an on-line essay
You should message me if
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You are not scared off by the fact that I am married, and if you feel like it.