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  • Ages 39–49
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:35pm
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Has kids and doesn’t want more
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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The only difference between thieves and me is not who we are, but what we do. I find myself feeling compassion for the arrogant and angry because they’re human beings doing their best. I’m kind, courageous and optimistic. Comfortable in both my masculinity and my expanding compassion for others, including myself. I don’t engage in gossip. People say I look far, far younger than my years. Healthy living, good genes, luck. I play the guitar (no the ukulele) while crooning country-western ballads. I prefer oatmeal raisin cookies to chocolate chip. I love sports underdog movies. Any underdog movies.

Am I looking for love or the perfect mate? Wrong question. I’m interested in moments of scintillating transparency with a woman in all her authenticity. Those moments where two people can say what they’re thinking and feeling, without judgment or vitriol. And I trust that if I just keep showing up (Woody Allen once said that's 80% of life), the right woman will be there.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
For a living, I'm a writer, producer, playwright and teacher. For fun, I do the same thing.

I practice yoga regularly and volunteer at Yoga on the Labyrinth. I meditate every day. I have a weekly improv work-out.) I play soccer twice a week so often I walk with a sexy limp. (Hmm, maybe limping isn't so sexy.)

I am helping and witnessing my son turn into a good man.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Skipping stones
Solving anagrams
Making children laugh
Fly fishing
Hiking far afield
Quoting Shakespeare
Courage, compassion and self-expression
The first things people usually notice about me
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are none of my business.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Don Delillo, Shakespeare, Bill Bryson, Jim Harrison, Rumi, Noel Coward, Wallace Stegner, Cormac McCarthy, John McPhee. Elmore Leonard, J.D. Salinger, Nicholson Baker, John Steinbeck, Spalding Gray, John Nichols, P.G Wodehouse, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, W.B Yeats, John Updike, Milan Kundera, Raymond Chandler, John D. McDonald, Robertson Davies.

Recently read - "Will Not Attend" by Paul Resnick, "Tantric Sex For Men", "Radical Acceptance" by Tara Brach, "The Boys in the Boat", Tao Te Ching (daily), "Chronicles" by Bob Dylan, "The Stench of Honolulu" by Jack Handey (made me guffaw), "Undaunted Courage"

Movies that make me cry - It's a Wonderful Life, Wall-E, The Iron Giant, Cinema Paradiso, Seeking a Friend for the End of the World, Ordinary People, To Kill a Mockingbird, Il Postino, The Visitor, Tender Mercies, Pride (from England last year, awesome)

Movies/TV shows that make me guffaw – Step Brothers, Harold and Kumar Go To the White Castle, Duck Soup, Airplane, Blazing Saddles, Community, Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Portlandia, Arrested Development, Bob's Burgers, Family Guy (remember I have a 17-year old son), the original The Office.

Movies that make me feel human - Sense & Sensibility, The Bridge on the River Kwai, The King's Speech, My Dinner With Andre, The Dresser, To Kill a Mockingbird, Goon, Singin' in the Rain, The American President, Boyhood, Gravity, Waiting For Guffman, The Royal Tenenbaums, Headhunters, and, of course, Wings of Desire. Wait, new addition - The Castle.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The only thing I couldn't do without is my goofy/sullen/brilliant/evolving 17-year old son in my life. The rest are simply preferences...

Morning meditation
Tenor ukulele
San Francisco coffee shops
The High Sierra
A really good pair of jeans
The scent of a woman
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
... how to let go of thinking.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Often teaching. But I'd rather be cooking dinner, watching a movie, sprawled out on an overstuffed sofa.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'re a woman who practices presence, awareness and compassion. (No wounded birds or damsels in distress, please.) And if you enjoy rustic cabins on distant rivers, roaring fires and sheepskin rugs, that's a plus. Not to mention wandering Greek beaches.