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35 Wellington, New Zealand Woman


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  • Ages 26–99
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Sep 28
5' 2" (1.57m)
Body Type
Has kids and might want more
Has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
.work in progress.
(self and profile)

I ought to mention that I'm rocking a platinum faux-hawk/ pixie cut presently. Will post pics soon, but have been swamped with move... But yeah. And, my eyes are not green -- they are blue. ;)

I like curious. I like rebel. If you're neither, we are likely not going to get along long.


If you under 30, please understand, we will only ever be friends. I'm totally open to friendship. :)

American living in NZ for 6 years. On holiday in the U.S. as now.

I've some idealistic notion that you (my future love, heart, soul... partner in all) are going to find me.

Curiouser and curiouser... and then curiouser some more.

Admittedly, I am embarrassingly geeky, and generally attracted to the like. Regarding previous sentence: no, I'm not really embarrassed. ;)

I am a myriad of contradictions, complexities and passions.

Very abstract. I also find myself entirely non-linear. Innately rebellious.


Endlessly fascinated.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
avoiding filling out these essays for the time being
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am working to perfect my skills regarding certain passions: photography, writing, learning, and tech in general.

Words. I love language(s), communication and storytelling in any form. I find story comes quite naturally to me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
-I'm short... I like to call it petite, but that doesn't change the reality :) I'm 5'2" ... (that is American measure)... I tend to date very tall men, over 6', and I love heels.
-I've got a funny US accent (I think I'm the only person that keeps forgetting this)

--another day--
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My goodness, just as I was great at procrastinating I arrive here, and feel so inclined to just start writing for ages (and I could, and I will at some point). I'll just summarize -- I'm hopeless at this, so don't expect much:


Reading Rendezvous with Rama again, as now. So good! :)
Okay; done w/ above and a few PKD on, and have now read all PKD. Reading Clarke -- recommendations of hard sci-fi most welcome!

A few notable books/authors I have enjoyed:
-Catch 22, Dune, Ender's Game, Brave New World, Do Androids Dream..., 1984, The Shining, the Stand, And Then There Were None (this kind of thing)
-H.P. Lovecraft, Vonnegut, Huxley, Clarke, Philip K. Dick, Stephen King, Michael Crichton, Agatha Christie, Neal Stephenson
- The Giving Tree, Good Omens, Women Who Run With the Wolves, Joseph Campbell, Gabriel Garcia Marquez

TV Series:
LOST, True Blood, Game of Thrones, Six Feet Under, Star Trek, Breaking Bad, The Walking Dead, House of Cards, Firefly, Mad Men, The Wire

Generally speaking I prefer really high quality Sci-Fi, post apocalyptic stuff, intense psychological thrillers, fantasy, foreign cinema and intense dramas. I do enjoy comedy and animation as well. Overall, I love, love, love film...

Some favorites would be:
Grave of the Fireflies, Matrix, Shining, Pan's Labyrinth, Twelve Monkeys, Labyrinth, Die Hard, Moon, The Game, The Godfather, Requiem for a Dream, Bladerunner, Treasure of the Sierra Madre, Neverending Story, Schindler's List, LOTR, Fight Club, The Hours, La Vie En Rose, The Usual Suspects, Life is Beautiful, Blue is the Warmest Color, 21 Grams, Sunset Blvd, 2001 Space Odyssey, Alien(s), Terminator, Memento, The Usual Suspects, Groundhog Day, Casino, Inception, Shutter Island, Dr Zhivago, Gone with the Wind, A Fish Called Wanda...
Planet Earth, Blue Planet, 7Up (all so far)

Stones, Joy Division, The Beatles, Led Zeppelin, Ray LaMontagne, Joan Baez, Neil Young, Crosby Stills Nash (and Young), Simon and Garfunkel, Bob Dylan, Nina Simone, Gordon Lightfoot, GNR, NIN, Radiohead, Bon Iver, Billy Joel, Fleetwood Mac, Damien Rice, Johnny Cash, Depeche Mode, Pink Floyd, Phish, Bowie, Tom Petty, The Cure, The Cars, Bob Seger, Lana Del Rey, Bon Iver, Cat Power, Al Bowlly,Hendrix, Nick Drake... The aforementioned are just what's on my playlist. I like a lot of music. I especially like music that tells a story or takes me back to a meaningful place in my past
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
It is all relative.
That said -- apart from the obvious necessities that sustain life -- I would not want to be without my: child, family, friends, health, hope, passion, curiosity, residence in a country during peacetime, and emotional and intellectual intelligence.

I'm also quite fond of 24/7 access to strong internet, and all my iGadgets.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future. The potential futures of: science, space, medicine, earth, technology, learning, and the various known species of earth (including our own).

I often find myself quite passionate about (in)Justice, (in)equality, freedom and the lack thereof.

Fostering gratitude for the many things in life I might take for granted.

Obviously, like all humans, I am stuck inside my own head. Thus, I spend a lot of time thinking about how to attain clarity and insight into the various aspects of self. I then try to consistently evolve to become a more balanced, and high-functioning version of myself in this reality.

Other people's realities.

How very relative it all is.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home on Reddit. :p
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
D/s - me 's' -- only in the bedroom. ;)
I have no interest in casual sex. Please don't inquire.
I'm looking for a man -- NOT a boy.

I am going to make my future partner a very, very happy man ;)
You should message me if
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I had a boyfriend once... He was in love with me (only later disclosed, to the deep chagrin of fate). I thought, at the time, that I loved him, although this would be a question I would deeply search, even now. I mean, I think I loved him... I loved his sense of humor, his clever wit, his capability, his smile, his laughter -- all these things brought me great joy. Anyway, we were sitting in Tony's in Portland, OR. If you are not familiar with this establishment (and likely you are not) it was a dive bar... the diviest of all dive bars, catering mostly to those that were living on the streets, or close to it. Damn, if it didn't have the best Jukebox. EVER! Anyway, Jeff (yes, real name, unlikely he will find this, or mind I've used his name) and I, were sitting in Tony's in Portland. We were sandwiched between the homeless (a particularly friendly gentleman claiming to have jammed with Hendrix, and another woman, as I recollect, running from the law).... Zeppelin playing on the jukebox, and after 2 years, on-and-off, of dating I told him "I love you!" and he got all shy, and started laughing. I asked him if he loved me. His response: "like, a kind of love where if an alligator bit off your face, I would still love you!?" and I, taken aback, thought about that for a mildly drunken (it was Pabst on tap...) moment, and eventually came to the conclusion: "Yes, do you love me, even if an alligator bit off my face?" Needless to say, Jeff and I never saw each other again.

If you did not write about your love of the oxford comma... I mean, seriously, I wonder who the first person on OkC was that wrote they loved the oxford comma? What a phenomenon. ha.

You've a global perspective. The US is such a tiny part of the world. So many are suffering and struggling the world outside. If you've no concept of this, ignorance is bliss, yet unforgivable, IMHO.

You're a Dom, feminist. ;)... and, go... :)