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35 Santa Monica, CA Woman


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  • Ages 26–99
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Last online
Today – 6:01am
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Has a kid, and might want more
Likes dogs and has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
OMG- pls do NOT ask me to SnapChat -- NOT interested.

.work in progress.

(self and profile)

If you under 30, please understand, we will only ever be friends. I'm totally open to friendship. :)

American living in NZ for 5-1/2 years. Moving back to LA in about 5 -6 weeks. ... so heaps on, going into prep for this -- please be openminded if I can't/don't respond straight away. I do read all my messages eventually. :) And, I do appreciate any efforts, Thank you :)

Curiouser and curiouser... and then curiouser some more.

Admittedly, I am embarrassingly geeky, and generally attracted to the like. Regarding previous sentence: no, I'm not really embarrassed. ;)

I am a myriad of contradictions, complexities and passions.

Very abstract. I also find myself entirely non-linear. Innately rebellious.

Sapiosexual. I would normally cringe at putting this in a profile (hand to god --- I don't believe in) ;) -- I'm smart as hell. Please. Please. Don't send me unintelligent correspondence. I will shudder and pass it by... and plenty of intelligent people are guilty of this (myself included). So, please have intention if you're going to reach out. If you say "Hey!" or something thereabouts, I'll likely ignore the message. Sorry! Just too many clever men on this site, and in the ... you know ...real world! They may not have six-pack abs, but that isn't what I'm looking for... Also, please look up Sapiosexual before you message me and ask what it means. ;)

Endlessly fascinated.

OkC really struggled to upload my second album pics... they are all --very beautifully -- high res, but uploaded super blurry which is really a shame. Ugh, c'est la vie.

I've been on OkC for a few years and have received many mails (I'm being kind here... there have been thousands). The thing is, I'm very selective about the people I allow into my life, and I am not looking for trivial partnerships. I've met a total of 4 people on this site, out of thousands of mails. I've 'dated' 2 of these (both ended up being fairly significant relationships). I'm very selective. I guess what I've gathered of myself in this process, is that I'm not interested in casual relationships. It just isn't my thing. I mean, I wish it was, but it's not. It's just not. I am a single mother, to a 5 year old -- amazing -- child. I have a very happy, complete, and full life. I have my own life. It's mine. I like that. I like owning my own life. I'm interested in sharing my interests, passions, love, and time with another, but I'm very selective. I am not looking for a father for my child -- she has one. I'm not looking to be taken care of. I can do that on my own. I am interested in a life partner -- somebody that compliments my life, that I can share life with (and I do mean life's great ups and downs, because life does have both!), that I can grow with, and learn with. I am looking for something real. Time-Bending real. I don't really care to waste time with anything other. I guess, I am writing this, to weed out the "Hey, sexy" messages, I'm not interested in that. What I am interested in, is a partnership with a person that -- at this time -- doesn't seem to exist on this little rock we call Earth. If he does exist, I know that I will make him endlessly happy, and likewise. That is what I am looking for. :) That would be very nice. :)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
avoiding filling out these essays for the time being
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am working to perfect my skills regarding certain passions: photography, writing, learning, and tech in general.

Words. I love language(s), communication and storytelling in any form. I find story comes quite naturally to me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
-I'm short... I like to call it petite, but that doesn't change the reality :) I'm 5'2" ... (that is American measure)... I tend to date very tall men, over 6', and I love heels.
-I've got a funny US accent (I think I'm the only person that keeps forgetting this)

--another day--
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My goodness, just as I was great at procrastinating I arrive here, and feel so inclined to just start writing for ages (and I could, and I will at some point). I'll just summarize -- I'm hopeless at this, so don't expect much:


Back again to finish A Song of Ice and Fire series.

A few notable books/authors I have enjoyed:
-Catch 22, Dune, Ender's Game, Brave New World, Do Androids Dream..., 1984, The Shining, the Stand, And Then There Were None (this kind of thing)
-H.P. Lovecraft, Vonnegut, Huxley, Clarke, Philip K. Dick, Stephen King, Michael Crichton, Agatha Christie, Neal Stephenson
- The Giving Tree, Good Omens, Women Who Run With the Wolves, Joseph Campbell, Gabriel Garcia Marquez

TV Series:
LOST, True Blood, Game of Thrones, Six Feet Under, Star Trek, Breaking Bad, The Walking Dead, House of Cards, Firefly, Mad Men, The Wire

Generally speaking I prefer really high quality Sci-Fi, post apocalyptic stuff, intense psychological thrillers, fantasy, foreign cinema and intense dramas. I do enjoy comedy and animation as well. Overall, I love, love, love film...

Some favorites would be:
Grave of the Fireflies, Matrix, Shining, Pan's Labyrinth, Twelve Monkeys, Labyrinth, Die Hard, Moon, The Game, The Godfather, Requiem for a Dream, Bladerunner, Treasure of the Sierra Madre, Neverending Story, Schindler's List, LOTR, Fight Club, The Hours, La Vie En Rose, Life is Beautiful, Blue is the Warmest Color, 21 Grams, Sunset Blvd, 2001 Space Odyssey, Alien(s), Terminator, Memento, Groundhog Day, Casino, Inception, Shutter Island, Dr Zhivago, Gone with the Wind, A Fish Called Wanda...
Planet Earth, Blue Planet, 7Up (all so far)

Stones, Joy Division, The Beatles, Led Zeppelin, Ray LaMontagne, Joan Baez, Neil Young, Crosby Stills Nash (and Young), Simon and Garfunkel, Bob Dylan, Nina Simone, Gordon Lightfoot, GNR, NIN, Radiohead, Bon Iver, Billy Joel, Fleetwood Mac, Damien Rice, Johnny Cash, Depeche Mode, Pink Floyd, Phish, Bowie, Tom Petty, The Cure, The Cars, Bob Seger, Lana Del Rey, Bon Iver, Cat Power, Al Bowlly,Hendrix, Nick Drake... The aforementioned are just what's on my playlist. I like a lot of music. I especially like music that tells a story or takes me back to a meaningful place in my past
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
It is all relative.
That said -- apart from the obvious necessities that sustain life -- I would not want to be without my: child, family, friends, health, hope, passion, curiosity, residence in a country during peacetime, and emotional and intellectual intelligence.

I'm also quite fond of 24/7 access to strong internet, and all my iGadgets.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future. The potential futures of: science, space, medicine, earth, technology, learning, and the various known species of earth (including our own).

I often find myself quite passionate about (in)Justice, (in)equality, freedom and the lack thereof.

Fostering gratitude for the many things in life I might take for granted.

Obviously, like all humans, I am stuck inside my own head. Thus, I spend a lot of time thinking about how to attain clarity and insight into the various aspects of self. I then try to consistently evolve to become a more balanced, and high-functioning version of myself in this reality.

Other people's realities.

How very relative it all is.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home on Reddit. :p
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
D/s - me 's' -- only in the bedroom. ;)
I have no interest in casual sex -- please don't inquire.
I'm looking for a man -- NOT a boy.
The following probably tells more about me than my entire 1000+ question/answers and my complete profile (and I realize nobody ever clicks links... just saying):
Somebody just sent me 'the sexiest song ever'... my top pics: Chris Isaak, ..., NIN: ...and INXS: ... Depeche Mode:
... and Tom Waits:
Oh, and I so dig this one, Bill Withers: And, well ... Cyndi Lauper:
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you did not write about your love of the oxford comma... I mean, seriously, I wonder who the first person on OkC was that wrote they loved the oxford comma? What a phenomenon. ha.

Eyes are awesome. I love mine! Really. They help me be the visual person that I am... please don't write me about them! Not that I don't appreciate compliments. I am just saying that if you write something about my eyes, and that is the entire content of the message, I'll likely pass it by. Thanks though! :)

You've a global perspective. The US is such a tiny part of the world. So many are suffering and struggling the world outside. If you've no concept of this, ignorance is bliss, yet unforgivable, IMHO.