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oncesilentflame

40 Vancouver, British Columbia, CA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from space camp
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Is there anything more awkward or difficult than describing yourself? Feels a bit like narcissistic preening or over-positive idealization a lot of the time. Here's my attempt at keepin' it real:

I adore kindness, thoughtfulness, openness, humour, and intelligence. I can be seriously silly. I am irresistibly drawn to all of the worst first-date topics of conversation. The -isms (sexism/racism/etc) of the world disturb me and I will nearly always openly challenge them.

I want to collect all the arts movies books foods games in a giant pile and just roll around in them, forever. Preferably with someone. Being single is awesome, and I truly like my own company, but some things are better with a companion.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Figuring out what to do with the increasing amount of free time I have. Hobbies? Dating? Bring it. I'm the single dad of a late-teenage daughter, and raising her has been both the most insanely difficult and rewarding challenge of my life.

Pounding the keyboard, hoping that I'm not contributing to Skynet. Programming is pretty neat.

Mostly, trying to be present, and a decent human being.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking; it's probably the thing I'm best at that I would never do professionally.

Problem-solving; it's my bread and butter.

Listening, and there's nothing I like more than a good conversation.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Realistically? Probable my glorious lack of hair.

What I'd like to think? My smile. I smile genuinely, and often.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I could write a book here. It's like a thanks speech at the Oscars, there's always going to be someone important you leave out.

Reading: Most sci-fi and fantasy. Both Dune and Lord of the Rings have an enormous impact on my life. Kurt Vonnegut, Mark Twain, Dave Eggers, Rumi, Pema Chodron. Calvin and Hobbes. Franny and Zoe. I always have a book (or stack) on the go.

Movies/TV: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Princess Bride, Labyrinth, The Dark Crystal, any Pixar, Iron Giant, Shaun of the Dead, Zombieland, The Thing, Big Trouble in Little China, Office Space, Goonies, Superbad, Amelie, Blade Runner, Hot Fuzz, Inception, The Fountain, Kung Fu Hustle, Monty Python, Venture Brothers, Firefly, Arrested Development, Adventure Time, Breaking Bad, House of Cards, Game of Thrones. All Miyazaki, Kurosawa, Wes Anderson, Guillermo del Toro, Terry Gilliam, Christopher Nolan, Kubrick. Good sci-fi, bad sci-fi, kung fu, spaghetti westerns, you name it, I’ll watch it.

Music: tons of classic rock/90's. The past while I've been on a Radiohead / Modest Mouse / Metric / Muse kick.

Food: All Asian, curries, Mexican. Fine dining, burger joints, holes in the wall, corner cafes. I love finding new amazing eateries and discovering a new one with someone is pretty much the best thing ever. What started me cooking long ago was a transcendental Thai food experience.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This category bugs me unreasonably and anytime I see someone fill it out with "air / my phone / water" I do a little dance of frustration.

Really, though, there are only a few things beyond the banal:

My daughter. Lovely, amazing, a delight and a treasure. I wouldn’t be the person I am today without her.

Love. In all its forms.

Being a silly twit and laughing my ass off.

Alone time to introspect and recharge.

Friends time to share and feel connected.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to get people to care more. Why chinchillas are so freaking cute. What other people are thinking. Space travel, deep-sea freaky creatures, Thali platters, cats with hands, butts.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Substitute Friday for Unwinding Time.

Netflix and rotis. Group dinners. If it's nice, beach picnic til after dark. Walking halfway across the city cause walking is awesome. Occasional live music. I love a good drink but I'm not a bar star.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't drive.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You like to laugh and watch movies with takeout and fool around and go for long walks where we discuss interesting and inane stuff.

If this Dr Seuss quote means something to you: "We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love."

If you dig a guy who quotes Dr Seuss.