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onebrumbygrl

42 / F / straight / Single

Hopkins, South Carolina

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Ethnicity
Black, Native American, White
Height
6' 1" (1.85m).
Body Type
A little extra
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Virgo and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Medicine / Health
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Doesn’t want children
Pets
Owns dogs and Likes cats
Languages
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), German (Poorly), Spanish (Okay)

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I am funny, tall, and sensual.

My Self-Summary

I feel like I'm a person who's trying to learn, live, grow, and evolve. Seeking to experience as much of life as is possible within certain sanity limits. I want to push the limitations of my mind and my spirit.

I've always been a gypsy at heart. I'm a healer and a good friend. I'm outspoken.

Ideally I would like to meet someone whom I can learn from, who is intelligent and down to earth. I am interested in learning to be more vulnerable, Which in my humble opinion can be very difficult for women today because so many view vulnerablity as weakness. I believe to truely learn to let go and be completely free with another person, you must learn to be vulnerable. That is a tall order and I need to work on that.
Which is not to say that I want to be weak, or a doormat, I think that only true strenghth is even capable of surrender. Because if you are weak to begin with then your sacrifice means nothing, you would have given it to anyone who was stronger or had a greater will than yours.
In my opinion, no man was ever well served by a weak woman. and only weak men, want weak women. A strong and confident man wants a woman who can meet him on an even playing field, support him and as well as be a soft place to land. It takes alot to go through good and bad with another human being, shit sometimes it is damn near impossible to do it on your own.
I believe that in order to have a constructive relationship of any kind, weather business, friendship, romantic or otherwise, both parties must have a strong sense of self, but still have enough humility to be able to see and respect another persons right to be who they are. Who knows you might learn something and even still, you might realize you where wrong about something you thought your where right about. When strenghth meets Strenghth in matched desire and purpose, there is no limit to the possiblities. In the end, when two strong people set out to accomplish things, In my experience, that is when miracles happen.

I am very interested in studying Tantra with a trusted partner. for those who do not know what Tantra is, Wikipedia is an excellent source of information. I only suggest this so I do not have to write a novel about Tantra here on my profile. "O)

Not really the marrying type, would much rather have a relationship with a person based on mutual respect and admiration, friendship, and passion without all the trappings of conventional relationships. Im 90% certain that I do not want to have children, but I always try to leave room for possiblity and the unknown. Hence the 10% that I leave open for fate or something that I may be incapable of seeing at this point in my life.

I am very aware that I can write the perfect essay here and if there is no chemistry with another person it just isn't going to work out. With that said, I also enjoy talking to people with similar intrests, people with interests completely different from mine, anyone on a similar path of self discovery who would like to share their experiences on that journey so far. People with a heart for teaching, learning, sharing etc. knowledge is never a bad thing and I enjoy hearing about alternative lifestyles, religious beliefs, politics, you name it. I may not agree with you, but I would like to understand your point of view. So I am not only on this site seeking the ideal mate, but friends and teachers as well.

I have a lot to learn about myself as a woman and I am seeking friends to help me broaden my horizons, think of things in a way that I have never thought of them before and help me to discard old ideas and embrace new ones, when they arise and I see that a new truth is more reasonable than the one I had. when it comes to relationship matters, I am seeking to meet that special someone,a man who can help me explore and grow. Someone who understands that I am my own person and that I only seek someone to enhance me...not to complete me. A friend, partner and lover.

What I’m doing with my life

I'm trying to become self sufficient and get out of the mainstream. I want to be a human being instead of a 'citizen'. I am in the process of starting my own business, but I am a Surgical Tech by profession. I do not fit very well in the work force at this time and instead of beating my head up against a stone wall, I just decided to create my own reality. Let's see how it goes. "O) Sometime in my life I would like to join the peace corps. I am in the process of expanding my mind and spirit and finding out what some of the great mysteries of life are. I am learning to let go and just be. I have come along way in my journey, but I am definately still "Under Construction" I am also a bit of a neat freak, but it comes and goes, never goes to the extreme that my house is torn up, but I might not dust for a week, or sweep the floor for a week. My friends call me "The Twitcher" cause Im always wiping off surfaces or putting things in the dishwasher, or fluffing pillows or fabreezing. It's a sickness, but my house looks so nice! "O)

I’m really good at

Talking, cooking, being a good friend, cleaning organization, research. I give good advice. throwing a party, not the wild kind, but the intimate gatherings with a good mix of people kind, picking a good movie, speaking other languages. creating a comfortable home environment, my homes are always cozy and inviting. Seeing the potential in others, forgiveness. trying new things.

The first things people usually notice about me

I'm tall, and I'm not easily categorized. I enjoy being alone, I think a lot and I am funny and witty. I say what I mean, I don't care if everyone likes me or not. Im opinionated. I am always cleaning my house.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Favorite books are: Currently reading "House of Leaves" by Mark Z. Danilewski, I really love childrens books: The Lion, The Witch, and The Wardrobe, Where the Wild Things Are,Stone Soup, The 5 Chinese brothers, Alexander's Horrible, awful no good day. anything Dean Koontz, and too many others to mention here. I like to read, but I am not a book snob. If it's interesting I'll read it.
Favorite movies are: The Usual Suspects, The Color Purple, anything Merchant Ivory did, Sid and Nancy, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Dangerous Beauty, The Lover, Dune, Kiss of the Spiderwoman. Favorite Music: Nina Simone, Van Morrison, Stevie Ray Vaughan, Billie Holiday, Edith Piaf, Michael Buble, D'Angelo, Maxwell, Chaka Kahn, Patsy Cline
Favorite Foods: Mediterranean, Southern Cuisine, I like lots of different kinds of food, but I'm a picky eater.

The six things I could never do without

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Sensuality, politics,Philosophy, social issues,Quantum Physics for dummies, anybody I have a crush on, ways of making money without working for other people, self expansion, how to live a fuller and more fullfilling life, being a better human being, letting go of anger and not living in the past. breaking down barriers in my mind, changing perceptions. Being open to the wonder of life and trying to see things in a way that I have never seen them before.

On a typical Friday night I am

Im a homebody, so I will probably be home,sitting around with my friends talking about philosophy or politics, what is wrong with the world, what is right with it. telling war stories about our lives, laughing, playing truth or dare. Watching a movie, or at a friends,yelling at my cat's to stop doing one thing or another, they are really a pair.Other than that, there's no telling what I might be doing.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I have a very interesting backround and have had many cool and curious things happen to me. Life has been both extremely kind and extremely cruel to me.

You should message me if

Friends who don't mind sharing their life experiences, who have something they feel they want to share, that they believe may be beneficial to others. I also would like to find a life partner, Ask yourself these questions: Can you can see that there is still so much to learn from our experiences on this earth. If you want to share growth and life experience with another person. If you are passionate, not horny. If you are sensual not sexy, if you are deep thinking and feeling without being psychotic, arrogant or self-centered (the bad kind)"O). If you can handle being vulnerable with another human being. If you want to push yourself mentally, physically and spiritually so that you can really find out what you could be. and experience life more fully. If you are a lover and not a "fuck buddy" If you can be with a woman and not feel like you have to own her, if you can see the beauty of a person choosing to be with you because she wants to not because she doesn't have a choice. I could go on for an hour, but you get the general idea.