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26 M New London, CT

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–30
  • Near me
  • For short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 20
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Working on masters program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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My name's Kando; people tend to think I'm saying Gandolf.

I'm all zen and smile, and kind of a goonie.
I'm also not on often, so no offense for slow replies.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm trying to connect with quirky people intimately, all forms. I have a loving passion and curiosity about humanity; I think it makes me something of a taoist. There's no quantative goal really. More or less, I'm quirky too and I'm busy being a guy; not a manchild or a machismo, not a slob or a pickle. I live to socialize and interact, to be inappropriate and to be challenging; I get along with most anybody. I'm looking for anyone making her own tracks; I really respect that, and I'm attracted to it.

I support myself with a monday-thru-friday, but beside work, I keep busy. I try to stay somewhat read; I flippin' love good fiction, I know it's not everyone's bag. No dog yet but I keep a ton of exotic plants; I don't name them but contrarily, the car's called Cheddar. I don't mind the outdoors but it's always better with a bit of company, even when nobody is saying much, and I don't bother with tv; I gave mine away a long time ago, along with most social media. (No facebook nor tweets; no check-ins nor instagram.)

Still, I love to curl up for movies and to cook for guests. I like to make faces at kids at the grocery and get the day's silly walks out early so I can come up with a few more. I do my spring cleaning in booty shorts, to loud music, shaking it while I dust, and I eat off friends' plates when they're not looking, when they'll know it was me anyway. Mostly I like getting physical and meshing the mind, so I try to be able to stand up in both. I write poems or ride my bike a bit with my spare time, a few boardgames with friends when I can, anything stimulating really. I give to life twice as good as I get, and I always make good on that. If you don't seem the same silly though, I won't push it on you; I'll have no qualms. I'll keep it as embedded as this paragraph, as you glance right over.

For work, I help design submarine motors during the week and I also study adaptive control for my master's. I'm excited to develop a sustainable energies power grid someday, but it's not everybody's bag; I generally try to keep work and personal life separate.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I hear I'm gregarious.

They notice I'm tall, but that's boring. They notice I always have a smile on; I've got cheek marks from smiling so often. That I'm no smooth talker and I'm without a doubt the absolute worst at lying, and also poker. I was once described as acidic and welcoming, like a fresh orange without rinds or peel; she may have been dead-on. I hear I have good bone structure for sketches, and that I'm comfortable in a way. That last bit is something I strive the most for.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
If you go home with somebody, and they don't have any books ...
-John Waters

I'm into art house and cheeseball-wholesome flicks, the electric folk revival, and this sweet potato curry naan-pizza that I make as a specialty. I also make a bitchin' meatless lasagna and tangy gorditas.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I've got a real appreciation for open space and natural light. I live in a studio with loaded up with skylights and greenery. Someday I might live in a greenhouse or have a glass ceilings or walls; it's much more liberating to me.

Still, these are a few of my favorite things:
scent: tarragon.
feel: sitting on someone's butt to give a massage
taste: chocolate salted pretzels
sight: the rusty glow of streetlamps
sound: split-second arias used as an exclamation
extra: a secret place I found in Donostia
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Social norms. I like faux pas.
What defines a 'Real' person.

"When you do it any different than me in one or so many ways,
which is often, why do you assume I'd be judging you for that?"

I'm polyamorous, but it's not who I am
I don't think of it but often
it takes precedence, how others think of me
writing me off sooner than i could write -–—
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually, I'm in central RI on weekends.
You can all go to hell; I'm going to Providence.

I don't really have a routine. Some weekends I meet with familiar faces and others I go on my own to meet someone new or try something out that I wanted to do. Discovery and all that. Suggestions taken.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a guy and I enjoy ... themed parties.
I don't even know what the allure is; I get excited and everything.
It's like everyone's playing pictionary, but their body is the paper.

I've got a huge beaming grin, but I can't fake smiles for photos. They look so awkward; I skip all but one or two pics each year, most posted.

I left most of the details for conversation;
I'm not into listing myself — I'm an onion.
I'm not bi either, it just filters non-progressive folk;
real good time saver on my part. Sorry guys.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You can laugh at yourself sometimes. That says enough about someone I'd be cool with meeting; it's about having charm without all the caked-on grace.

I'm not meeting with people with one-night stands in mind. I've had plenty of lovely and amazing meet-ups with really awesome people, but I meet with people when it seems like we'll have the chemistry and the comfort and the click to easily want to see each other again. No guarantees, but it's what I'm at least striving for.