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26 Chicago, IL Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 24
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Working on Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), German (Fluently), Ancient Greek (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I'm very reserved. Never exactly the life of the party-- almost always a mysterious and black-clad presence, but politely smiling :) And a pretty hard-core intellectual. Once I open up, you'll also find me quite eccentric-- wise beyond my years, with an off-the-wall kind of humor, and a touch morbid. Or very, depending on the day. My mood ranges from the very silly, childish even, to the excessively serious. I'm also highly empathic. Thus, if you regard yourself to only feel and live at dire extremes, best stay far, far away. I appreciate, and resonate with many kinds of crazy, but not that kind.

As for you, please do not be an ethereal intellectual-- that's my job. Not to say you can't be smart; it'd be great if you were even fiercely so. I'm not practical or worldly (think "Professor Head-in-the-clouds," but without the job or the prestige), so I find these to be attractive traits in men. Also, I'm partial to masculine features and physiques-- not pretty boys, because I can look just like one if I want to (see photos). And I like you to be slightly older, though not creepily so.
What I’m doing with my life
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phd student, shooting for an academic career.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
thinking, writing, drawing, and being a goofball.
The first things people usually notice about me
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my shyness or reserve, and my unsettling habit of intent observation. if you see me alone, i probably look like i could never smile. but i'm not necessarily angry or sad-- maybe just puzzling something out. or the tag in my shirt is itchy, in which case i am angry after all.
then, all the black i wear. for some reason, my personal aesthetic means a lot to me-- probably the closest thing i have to a religion. except i don't want to impose it on everyone else, or even significant others; it's emphatically my own.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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mainly stuff by dead german guys, but some by dead french guys too.
i'm not a fancy cinephile, so... the neverending story? tron? love horror films in general, though. and a fair amount of anime. my favorite american cartoons are animaniacs and pinky and the brain.
as for music-- industrial, goth, prog rock, synth pop, kraut rock... anything dark wave really. was once a true nine inch nails obsessive.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
cats, comfy bed, internet, black coats, cats with black coats.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
my future. the psychologies of people in my life. finding the right person. things which might exist but which are beyond the realm of our experience. synthesizing ideas, complicating an ever bigger and messier picture in the hope that it will somehow become simpler and more elegant... alas.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
very much alive.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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wouldn't know where to begin :)
You should message me if
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i didn't do a good job of scaring you off.