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27 Chicago, IL Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30-40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Sep 19
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and it’s important
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), German (Fluently), Ancient Greek (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm pretty reserved. Never exactly the life of the party-- almost always a mysterious and black-clad presence, but politely smiling :) And a fairly hard-core intellectual. Once you get to know me, you'll probably find me a bit eccentric, or optimally, charmingly weird. I mix the high and the low-- a darkest, even morbid, sobriety, with childish levity.

I am also highly empathic.
What I’m doing with my life
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phd student, shooting for an academic career.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
thinking, writing, drawing, and being a goofball.
The first things people usually notice about me
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my shyness or reserve, my seriousness, and my smile. i've been told that i have a "mona lisa smile." i think that means it's a bit opaque.

then, all the black i wear (technically grayscale, but people associate me with black). my personal aesthetic means a lot to me-- probably the closest thing i have to a religion. except i don't want to impose it on everyone else, or even significant others; it's emphatically my own.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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to read, mainly stuff by dead german guys, some by dead french guys too.

i'm not a fancy cinephile, so... the neverending story? tron? love horror films in general. the scarier the better, preferably involving the supernatural. and a fair amount of anime. my favorite american cartoons are animaniacs and pinky and the brain.

as for music, industrial, goth, prog rock, synth pop, kraut rock... anything dark wave really. was once a true nine inch nails obsessive.

food-- spicy as f*ck, at least by white person standards. *may be a hormonal preference.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
cats, comfy bed, internet, black coats, cats with black coats.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
my future. how people tick. finding the right person. things which might exist but which are beyond the realm of our experience. synthesizing ideas, complicating an ever bigger and messier picture in the hope that it will somehow become simpler and more elegant... alas.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
alive, i think.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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wouldn't know where to begin.
You should message me if
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i didn't do a good job of scaring you off.