What I wish most for my partner--is for you to have the space to always speak your inner truth, no matter what it is, and to be in communication. In other words, you never have to "be careful", "walk on eggshells", "second guess" what you're saying--no, you know that you can speak your inner truth and be heard. Two people doing that, creates a space for deep connection and love--everything is coming from authenticity.
Growth is a lifetime commitment, and that is a necessary priority for a great match, for me. Here's who I've created myself to be:
I am a courageous explorer of life,
a hero for possibility,
love and play passionately expressed in the world.
Major commitments: being present to NOW, being a great daddy to my 14 year old daughter, living a conscious life, having great relationships, making a difference in the world, leaving people empowered, respected, and loved.
Listening is more important than talking.
I think people are defined by who they be and their commitments, not what they do for a living.
Incurable romantic, relationships want feeding with tender care. And massages, and surprise flowers, and taking a moment in the day to just look in each other's eyes and say "One of the things I love about you is..."
My favorite way to start the day is with coffee in the hot tub, followed by meditation by the fire.
Like to cook for other people...or with someone special.
I stay very fit from an active life and working out at home; not a gym rat. Volunteer work is an important part of my life.
The wilderness is my temple. I love to hike, bike (including touring), backpack to wild hot springs, downhill and xcountry ski, sail, climb, multi-day canoe trips, you name it.
You'll find me working with CEOs to hanging at Burning Man.
And you? Well of course you are self-aware, gorgeous and sexy, successful and confident, leap tall 14'ers in a single hour, raised 4 kids on your own while finishing a PhD, climb 5.11, do your own dental work, cook amazing souffles, have a massage degree just for fun, have climbed Denali, and volunteer for hospice. Or maybe you're a real person with quirks and feelings and great qualities and some stuff you don't really like about yourself but don't want people to really know...just like me, only different flavors.
Excellent references available from ex-wife.