Back from an amazing, relaxing, inspiring train vacation. My trip away from the Bay to remember why I love the Bay worked.
Been thinking a lot about emotional intelligence lately. I dont think I want to be involved with anyone who doesn't have a good understanding of what they feel and where those feelings are coming from.
I have a great long term partner currently and we're in a healthy open relationship so anyone contacting me should be cool with that. Poly and open relationships seem to work best for me. I actually really enjoy talking about relationships, sex, the dynamics involved in poly or open relationships, etc so if you're curious ask and I'll gladly dork out on it for a while.

Im passionate about what I do...in all senses of the word. My emotions and passions are what drive my life. This makes me a very driven person when it comes to things I love. I really love social time but value time alone to reflect. I stay pretty busy between activism, soccer and music, volunteer work, partner time, and gardening when I can (still amateur at best so if youve got some hints let me know)...but there's always room for more interesting people.

For work I clean windows...you know- hang off fire escapes and ropes. Its a nice view but kind of a head trip to work on the craziest mansions in SF. I also helped open a political/social center in Oakland that I help with.

Staying physically active- super important to my sanity. I play soccer, coach soccer, play drums in a punk/surf band, and generally try to get my hands dirty.

Right now Im trying to be a little less safe in my life. Get on the road for some adventures and be a bit more reckless in general (I think its possible to be reckless in life while responsible to other people).

Eating, laughing, drinking whiskey, sports on the ground (NOT the ones with skates or wheels or in water...its just embarrassing really), drums, over-thinking things, finding random badass old soul and funk music, laughing at myself, listening to people, communicating, balancing taking my time in life and getting lots done...also pretty good at smelling things- random yes but smells are a good thing to take notice of.

Well the hair is pretty noticeable from a distance...then Id say either the eyes or the missing tooth...maybe the old man hands...thats a lot to notice. I obviously have no idea.

Books- Ive had a hard time getting through books in my life but enjoying some reading lately. I just read George Orwell's Homage to Catalonia right now which is amazing. I also finished a book by David Gilbert, from the Weather Underground, which was really inspiring. Currently Im reading writings from a Black Nationalist and Anarchist named Kuwasi Balagoon who had a trans partner and was openly bi in a movement dominated by machismo. One of the most interesting revolutionaries youve never heard of

Shows- Dont have a tv and havent for a long time. I look up a few shows online: Daily Show, Family Guy, Aqua Teen Hunger force...ya so I like adult cartoons.

Music- Good music in all genres but what Ive been into lately is John Prine, 70s Soul, Bad Brains, P Funk, T Rex, The Clash, John Hartford, The Coup, Tool, Iggy and the Stooges, Morphine- one of if not my favorite all time band...lately been into Bruce Springsteen's Nebraska album...if you like classic stripped down country albums check it out. Absolutely incredible. Oh and Midnight Vultures- sexiest beck album out there.

-athletic activity
-music- If certain songs come on, Im probably going to have to stop the conversation for a minute.
-GOOD WHISKEY!...or ice cream...or bourbon ice cream! I win!
-sunshine...and sunscreen! (I am a redhead)- As a redhead the screen is a must since I love the sun.
-sex- enough said really
-Sleep- oh my god I miss sleeping in so much right now!

In general- too many things. I am definitely an overthinker. Im not satisfied with going about the day to day- I need some meaning...meaning to what I spend my time doing, who I spend my time with, and a greater understanding of what the hell is going on in this world.
But lately Ive spent a lot of time thinking how happy I am getting older. Im not even a young adult anymore! But I love where Im at and having fun getting older.
I also think a lot about gender roles and how that relates to day to day interactions. I tend to be shy about making first moves a lot so I appreciate people who are forward with their interest in me.
And ya I also think about sex a lot.

Hanging out with friends, having a good beer, engaging in raucous debate or trying to get out of town to go camping somewhere!

Ive only dated women but am attracted to people of all genders....
Oh and I like cute butts :D

Right now Im really open to multiple options:
a) Someone (or multiple people) who is open minded and a bit kinky to have some great sex with
b) Somebody who is interesting in building a solid friendship that may or may not involve sexy time.
c) If you are someone interested in a more committed relationship I am also interested in pursuing that.
Either way you must be someone who understands that my schedule is pretty packed but that i still like to make some time for special people.
If youve noticed that Ive looked at your profile and you think we'd get along but I haven't messaged you- say hello!
I really need to go on some road trips so if you need a travel buddy for a quick adventure let me know.