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openandactive

32 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 21–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Oct 16
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So a smart sweetie of mine told me how these profiles only function is to help tell if youre really NOT going to get along...that the notion of getting to know who someone is, even a little bit, on these profiles is kind of a false notion. With that in mind Im simply listing words or phrases without much explanation. If it sounds like we might not hate each other, then lets kick it and find out if we like each other.

Passionate
Emotional
Political
Anarchist (who appreciates political structure)
Adverse to Academia Politics
Work hard play hard
Love to laugh (laugh at the world so it doesn't kill you)
Love to make people laugh
Pass as hetero but love all genders
Sensitive
Vers
closet jock
Punk rock drummer

Direct Communication
Emotional Intelligence
Horrible at reading hints
Enjoying the grey areas of relationships
Poly/open/non-monogamous
Dork out on relationship models, sex, gender
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
For money:
Was cleaning windows now an apprentice with Ironworkers Union

For fun:
Staying physically active
Drums
Soccer
Backpacking

For more fun:
Seeing a consistent sweetie a couple times a week
Appreciate open communication and comfort talking about other partners (sometimes it can be quite sexy)

In theory:
Trying to break the routine...road trips, getting into the woods, other trips.... ;-)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Eating, laughing, drinking whiskey, sports on the ground (NOT the ones with skates or wheels or in water...its just embarrassing really), drums, over-thinking things, finding random badass old soul and funk music, laughing at myself, communicating, taking my time, getting lots done, smelling things
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Lots of red hair
Maybe the eyes or missing teeth
Upon a handshake...my beat up hands
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Currently:
Books: The Handmaid's Tale, Black Girl Dangerous
Music: Old school punk (before the macho amoeba), Chvrches, A Tribe Called Red, NIN, John Prine
Food- Thai Noodles...mmmm, kale salad, burritos

Recently:
Books: Mexico Unconquered, The Dispossessed, Love and Struggle, Kuwasi Balagoon (Anarchist Panther), Robert and Mabel Williams (Negroes With Guns)
Music: Buena Vista Social Club, T Rex, David Bowie, Old Crow Medicine Show
Food: NY Pizza cause I went back and aint shit out here that compares

Classics:
Books- Homage to Catalonia, The Importance of Living, Anarchism and Other Essays by Emma Goldman
Music: Morphine, Janes Addiciton, Faith No More, Nina Simone, The Coup, Amy Winehouse, Taj Mahal, Parliament, Ry Cooder, Bad Brains, Hurray for the Riff Raff
Food: Bread and cheese and ice cream
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-athletic activity
-music: playing and listening
-Bourbon ...or ice cream...or bourbon ice cream! I win!
-sunshine...and sunscreen! (redhead)
-Physical Intimacy
-Sleep- I miss sleeping in
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
In general- too many things.
Finding meaning in what I do
Who I prioritize time with

Being a white, working class, hetero passing, cis male
How the above shapes my reality
How that reality give me privilege
How that privilege plays out in political spaces and relationships

Gender roles
Labels like queer and hetero
The assumptions that come with those labels
How rejecting labels is a privilege

Consent to be dominant or dominated in bed

Being happy getting older

And ya I also think about sex a lot.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing a show
Drinking good bourbon on a stoop
Driving to the woods
Friends
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I thought the viper security system was an electronic toy snake hidden in a car until recently.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
a) Someone (or multiple) who is open minded and a bit kinky to have some great sex with
b) A friendship in the grey area
c) If you are someone interested in a more committed relationship I am also interested in pursuing that but understand I have a consistent sweetie

-If you think Bisexual as a term is way too limiting
-Im very attracted to androgyny
-I like guys with lean or toned stomachs

-If youve noticed that Ive looked at your profile and you think we'd get along but I haven't messaged you- say hello!