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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 21–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:16pm
Heteroflexible, Queer, Bisexual
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Dec 2014 Quick and to the point attempt at a description of the person I think I am: Longer updated version coming soon...

Anarchist (who appreciates political structure)
Adverse to Academia Politics
Work hard play hard
Love to laugh (laugh at the world so it doesn't kill you)
Love to make people laugh
Lover of all genders and gender benders

Direct Communication
Emotional Intelligence
Horrible at reading hints
Enjoying the grey areas of relationships
Dork out on relationship models, sex, gender
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
For money:
Construction way up on a pretty iconic SF landmark

For fun:
Staying physically active
Drums in punk bands
Running the streets

In theory:
Trying to break the routine...road trips, getting into the woods, other trips.... ;-)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Eating, laughing, drinking whiskey, sports on the ground (NOT the ones with skates or wheels or in water...its just embarrassing really), drums, over-thinking things, finding random badass old soul and funk music, laughing at myself, communicating, taking my time, getting lots done, smelling things...I appreciate open communication and talking about sex, relationships, and other partners (sometimes it can be quite sexy) and think Im pretty good at that
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Lots of red hair
Maybe the eyes or missing teeth
Upon a beat up hands
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: The Handmaid's Tale, Black Girl Dangerous
Music: Old school punk (before the macho amoeba), Chvrches, A Tribe Called Red, NIN, John Prine
Food- Thai Noodles...mmmm, kale salad, burritos

Books: Mexico Unconquered, The Dispossessed, Love and Struggle, Kuwasi Balagoon (Anarchist Panther), Robert and Mabel Williams (Negroes With Guns)
Music: Buena Vista Social Club, T Rex, David Bowie, Old Crow Medicine Show
Food: NY Pizza cause I went back and aint shit out here that compares

Books- Homage to Catalonia, The Importance of Living, Anarchism and Other Essays by Emma Goldman
Music: Morphine, Janes Addiciton, Faith No More, Nina Simone, The Coup, Amy Winehouse, Taj Mahal, Parliament, Ry Cooder, Bad Brains, Hurray for the Riff Raff
Food: Bread and cheese and ice cream
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-athletic activity
-music: playing and listening
-Bourbon ...or ice cream...or bourbon ice cream! I win!
-sunshine...and sunscreen! (redhead)
-Physical Intimacy
-Sleep- I miss sleeping in
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
In general- too many things.
Finding meaning in what I do
Who I prioritize time with

Being a white, working class, hetero passing, cis male
How the above shapes my reality
How that reality give me privilege
How that privilege plays out in political spaces and relationships

Gender roles
Labels like queer and hetero
The assumptions that come with those labels
How rejecting labels is a privilege

Consent to be dominant or dominated in bed

Being happy getting older

And ya I also think about sex a lot. I like cute butts
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing a show
Drinking good bourbon on a stoop
Driving to the woods
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I thought the viper security system was an electronic toy snake hidden in a car until recently.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
a) Someone (or multiple) who is open minded and a bit kinky to have some great sex with
b) A friendship in the grey area
c) If you are someone interested in a more committed relationship but comfortable discussing and exploring different ideas around polyamory

-If you think Bisexual as a term is way too limiting and furthers the idea that gender is binary
-Im very attracted to androgyny

-If youve noticed that Ive looked at your profile and you think we'd get along but I haven't messaged you- say hello!