Id say Im definitely a passionate person. I let myself feel strongly for the things that I decide matter in my life. Generally that involves political work and the people around me. Emotions fuel my life but I try and do a good job of having the emotional intelligence to communicate. Been thinking a lot about emotional intelligence lately. I dont think I want to be involved with anyone who doesn't have a good understanding of what they feel and where those feelings are coming from.
Im either a good balance of a few things or to some people maybe a contradiction. Im an anarchist who is very interested in structure and process. That said my anarchism is more rooted in how people treat each other than the latest ground-breaking "academic analysis". I dedicate myself to political change and take many things very seriously, but I love and need lots of laughter and goofiness from people I date. I like to laugh at the world so the horrible parts dont kill me.
I pass as hetero but love people all over the gender spectrum. I appear very masculine but am often too sensitive for my own good...and certainly into a variety of roles in bed. Im not a jock but play a lot of sports. I look like a hippie but have been playing in a punk band. In short I feel like Ive got a good grasp on what makes me happy and who I am...even if that doesn't fit neatly into scenes or labels.
Ive been enjoying the grey area of intimacy and friendship while still trying to be responsible to everyone involved. I find the best way to do that is to be very direct in my communication style. Im not good at hints so generally I just ask :)
Poly and open relationships seem to work best for me. I really enjoy discussing relationship models, sex, gender, the dynamics involved in poly or open relationships, etc so if you're curious please ask and I'll gladly dork out on it for a while.