I am fun, vibrant, dynamic, attractive, intelligent, witty, warm, compassionate, conscientious and athletic. An important life lesson I have learned is that I can’t change the direction or velocity of the wind, but that I can adjust my sails. The more that I can accept the things that I cannot change and focus on what is within my control, the more at peace I am. I can choose to practice compassion for myself as well as for others. When life doesn’t go my way and I fight it and try to control it, I suffer (but only 100% of the time!) The paradox involves relinquishing the illusion of control so as to better live life on life’s terms. When I can accept that “it is what it is” even though it may be painful and I don’t like it, I have freed myself from the belief that things should be otherwise and I should be able to make them different than they are.

I love my job working in a rehab program for men with substance abuse issues. I am very close to my two adult daughters and am very fortunate that both of my parents are still living. I am very active. I love to walk, hike, swim, cross-country ski and go to the beach. I also love to travel.

I am an excellent listener, very good cook and have a great sense of humor. I have been told that I am articulate and expressive. I am also devoted to friends and family.

My engaging smile

Among my favorite books are A Thousand Splendid Suns about the plight of women in Afghanistan, Angela's Ashes and all of Wally Lamb's books. I love going to the movies and also enjoy my subsription to Netflix. Currently, I am watching Homeland which is absolutely riveting. I also love live theater and have season's tickets to TheaterWorks in Hartford. Among my favorites were "High" with Kathleen Turner and more recently ,"Venus and Fur"I love seeing shows in NewYork and enjoyed La Cage Ax Folles with Kelsey Grammar, Next to Normal and Avenue Q. I enjoy a wide range of music including classical. Among my favorite artists are Elton John, Billy Joel, Simon and Garfunkel, the Beatles and going way back, Peter, Paul and Mary. I also love going out to eat as well as cooking. Favorites are Italian, continental. Greek/Middle Eastern and good old American.

love
a sense of purpose
chocolate
coffee
exercise
fun

The people in my life who I care about.

tired! That doesn't mean that I am a couch potato but I am fine staying home and watching a DVD or getting together with a friend for dinner and a movie.

I still eat Oreos like a kid.

you are an active, intelligent, interesting guy with compatible interests and values.