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35 M Sunnyvale, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:36pm
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from two-year college
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I am a fierce, passionate, intense, geeky, kinky, poly, switching, adventurous, loving, tender, flirtatious, fitness-seeking, self-improving, spiritual, paternal, Chicago refugee with a big heart.

An extrovert by nature, outgoing by choice.

I am ethically poly seeking a primary partner.
If you're not sure what that means, then by all means ask...

"How can it be that a shared good makes a greater number of possessors richer by it than if it is owned by a few?’ And he to me: ‘Because you fix your eyes, again, only on earthly things, you produce darkness from true light. That infinite and ineffable good, that is up there, rushes towards love as a ray of light rushes towards a bright body. The more ardour it finds, the more it gives of itself, so that, however far love extends, eternal good causes its increase: and the more people there are up there who understand each other, the more there are to love truly, and the more love there is, and, like a mirror, the one increase reflects the other." --Purgatorio Canto XV:37-81
What I’m doing with my life
Working hard, studying for certification exams (I just passed my second!), learning to be a better gentleman, finding my creative streak (writing and a short film project I'm trying to storyboard for, Burning Man), DJing, trying to teach myself web design, and working (of course)

I've taken up Kendo and go to class from 7-8 on Tuesdays or Thursday nights (depending on my schedule)

I've started cycling around town a lot lately (usually while hunting Ingress portals)

Recently joined Planet Granite and I'm enjoying indoor climbing...

When I'm not doing all that I'm discussing relationships, games, and movies with good friends.

I currently work weekends (Friday-Monday with Tuesday-Thursday off), which is stressful but I still manage to find energy to get out after my shifts...
I’m really good at
finding the right words, making people laugh, and improvising when plans go awry
The first things people usually notice about me
The bouncy, puppy-like behavior and/or the intense gaze.

I always want to make my friends laugh and smile, and have been known to say what probably shouldn't be said in order to get there
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Stranger in a Strange Land, the Dresden Files, the Age of Unreason books by J. Gregory Keyes, Daemon & Freedom by Daniel Suarez, The MarketPlace novels by Laura Antoniou, and not much else (most of the reading I've been doing lately has been for studying instead of pleasure

TV: The Muppet Show, Supernatural, Neon Genesis Evangelion, Warehouse 13, Castle, Big Bang Theory, Sherlock, Tin Man, Arrow, Game of Thrones, Torchwood, pre Moffat Doctor Who.

Movies: A Scanner Darkly, Strange Days, Brick, Tron, Rifftrax of various films, Plan 9 from Outer Space, Rocky Horror, old Star Wars, old kung-fu movies, Repo: The Genetic Opera, Clue, The Devil's Carnival

Music: Icon of Coil, Bad Religion, Apocalyptica, Garbage, Lords of Acid, Lacuna Coil, Save Ferris, Bif Naked, Pennywise, Rise Against etc., etc.

Food: Simple chinese dishes, mediterranean, a good burger, a decent salad, etc. For me the company is more important than the food. Although finding a calm center at one of my favorite little taverns with a shepard's pie is a wonderful thing...
The six things I could never do without
Comedy, journal, shinai, music, my kitties, and the warmth and love I feel with the right people.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
film projects I want to do, remixing, kendo, mortality, sexuality, music, movies, jokes, and the rhythms/patterns of people and the world around them.
On a typical Friday night I am
I currently work weekends (Friday-Monday with Tuesday-Thursday off), which is troublesome but I still manage to find energy to get out after my shifts...

On my nights off...
Hooking up a bad-movie night with my friends, talking, reading, going to a munch, working, DJing (if I can get a gig), prepping for Burning Man, or just relaxing at home with my kitty laying across my stomach

I'm kinda in love with bicycling (especially at night) I find it meditative and fun...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have trust issues and occasionally have a hard time accepting help from people (damned foolish pride)

I get pangs of paternal energy which I resolve by being a caring friend and partner (or doting on my pets)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–44
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're weird, geeky, flirty, and fun! :)
You're okay dating an ethically poly guy.
You're reasonably independent.
You're big on self-improvement.