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oraclemonkey

57 / M / Straight / Single

Hawthorne, New Jersey

His Details

Last Online
Today – 6:00pm
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m).
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Religion
Buddhism
Sign
Education
Working on space camp
Job
Income
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
i have an artisanal haircut that could fairly be called outsider art - and that will likely remain inscrutable to nearly all of you.

sapiosexual.

i fence with life and play orbit capture with strong women. opinionated, creative, anti-authoritarian by nature. independent. intensely loyal. compassionate troublemaker, master of context, fool for detail, champion of the underdog, enemy of the state, plays well with others. recovering pedagogue, steiner schools division.

atypical. wannabe suburban wheatgrass farmer, feminist in wolf's clothing, unrepentant slam dancer, machinegunner housewife. culturally insurgent, aesthetically fluent, politically inept.

baltimore still defines me.

age is accurate. GGG.

if you bother going through to the bottom of this page and have above-average insight you might end up actually getting a bead on me.
What I’m doing with my life
i was the primary caregiver for my daughters for their first twelve plus years and remain deeply connected to them all. the girls are now scattering into their adult lives in different regions of the country and i'm looking to get into some variant on an arts-based nonprofit.

i like to see live music involving quirky or lesser-known names in small clubs and bootleg spaces. i used to do a lot of photography and i'd like to get back to that.

i either stumble across or search out abandoned industrial zones, old manufacturing neighborhoods and urban wastelands and do some serious exploration. i love sprawling, battered old brick buildings that have yet to be repurposed. paterson, brooklyn and baltimore still have surprising amounts of this stuff left. camden is, unfortunately, a vacant lot. trenton and philly are on my expedition list.

ask me what i think about gentrification some time if you're ready to get an earful.

i do some of the usual workout suspects. i've got caving gear that i haven't used in too long. rope and harnesses and stuff.
I’m really good at
kids. driving. parallel parking. overthinking.

until recently i've been really terrible at setting goals, but here's a small one: i want to be the last person on earth with a dumbphone.

i can render convention invisible.
The first things people usually notice about me
that i am in their way when they are texting on the sidewalk.

i stole that.

eyes, intensity. asylum haircut. diddy-boppin'.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
auto-da-fé, the orphan master's son, grimm's fairy tales, the motion of light in water, in sunlight and in shadow, matterhorn, moon palace, the chemistry between us, the idiot, alif the unseen, 1Q84, alice's adventures in wonderland/through the looking glass, nanjing 1937, times square red times square blue, netherland, the shock doctrine, the inferno, dhalgren, the fountain at the center of the world, the fairy tales of oscar wilde, frog and toad, killer on the road, parasites like us, the philosophy of freiheit, against the day, goodnight moon, skagboys, the impossible state, female ejaculation and the g spot, a naked singularity, pynchon, delillo, delany, murakami, helprin, welsh.

+i sincerely hope you found the alchemist to be one of the most extravagantly painful books you have ever read+

female trouble, the affair, bad guy, city of life and death, biutiful, beautiful, spring/summer/fall/winter . . . and spring, 3-iron, the night the lights went out, waltz with bashir, cosmopolis, taxi driver, short bus, brazil, full metal jacket, amores perros, lifeboat, john waters, kim ki-duk, alejandro gonzález iñárritu, hitchcock.

subtitles.

+you don't generally walk out on movies but came close on eternal sunshine of the spotless mind. the tree of life felt like an endless sea of screen savers laced with brad pitt outtakes from some other movie+

akino arai, archie bell & the drells, the oliver north boy choir, los campesinos!, japanther, chumbawamba, bonaparte, bliss 'n esso, melt-banana, butter 08, bleached, the go! team, thelonious monk, reggie watts, tenniscoats, queen suitcase, buck 65, 7L & esoteric, pairs, charlie parker, NYOil, eternal summers, mclusky, the maccabees, mooncake, spangle call lilli line, rachid taha, noise addict, sonic youth, my bloody valentine, slowdive, school food punishment, silversun pickups, so cow, snakefarm, the mountain goats, the eels, hedgehog, deerhoof, bow wow wow, field mice, field mouse, skip skip ben ben, mika miko, the coathangers, camera obscura, afroman, silver jews, shellac, gang of four, four tet, my little airport, petty booka, megapuss, big black, big joe little joe, earl sweatshirt, john coltrane, ninjasonik, mono, polysics, parliament/funkadelic, p.s. eliot, leo kottke, supercar, carsick cars, husker du, sugar, okay, low, hello saferide, gangstagrass, stereopony, pony up!, new young pony club, the tom-tom club, miles davis, the minutemen, the editors, the subways, the cardigans, air, atmosphere, explosions in the sky, the death set, the kills, minor threat, the jesus and mary chain, the jesus lizard, mystery squid, fra-foa, charles mingus, cadence weapon, nouvelle vague, seagull screaming kiss her kiss her, fucked up, puffy, you say party!, say hi, why?, the velvet underground, xui xui, x, world's end girlfriend, C-86, motown, northern soul, hardcore, slowcore, chipcore, cuddlecore, shitcore, piedmont blues, bluegrass, twee, texas swing, jangle pop, bebop, hip hop.

jonathan schwartz.

i am really pissed off at thurston moore when it's really none of my business.

+coldplay gets you the death stare. so does bruce+

dan savage, the stranger, the new york times, the guardian, AAWW, BBC, thought catalog, a softer world, al jazeera

+fifty shades of grey and now the marketing juggernaut trailing nose to stern. you knew your own mind on bondage way before this nonsense started. that is all+

+whatever television you watch is no concern of mine but understand that no matter how badly i want to impress you i will immediately blank on any show references. feel free to throw tropes about weather or the F train instead+

foodwise? i like street food and night markets. hereabouts, i like ottomanelli's and anything in one of the various chinatowns. i'll drive to baltimore if i'm craving a good crab cake. i like going to H-Mart and looking for the octopuses in the tanks and seven-kilo bags of kimchi. mitsuwa.

+i'm pretty unlikely to be found in any joint with the word "artisanal" anywhere anything; or less likely, any place with a dress code+

i like pho, banh mi and durian. i abhor dressing up and would wear my standard work uniform of jeans/tee/sneaks/hoodie all day and night every day if i could. sometimes i do.

i watch what i eat in the sense that i try to eat as low on the food chain as i possibly can. it's hard for me to enjoy extravagances when i think about how many people can't find daily basics.

you foodies can all go fuck yourselves. serious.

+in my world "fine dining" is hot and wrapped in wax paper+

barbara kruger. rothko. bruce nauman. shiva at the met. ganesh.

i appreciate a naive vision.

+i will not be going to "punk" at the met; thank you, anna wintour, for clarifying this+

yoshitomo nara. all his stuff speaks to me so strongly that i need to namecheck him somewhere. he's a standing ebay search. no big deal maybe but my only other searches are for jeep parts and a good woman. not so many listings for women on ebay, though.
The six things I could never do without
the laws of physics, the laws of attraction, the laws of karma.

anarchy, embryology and thermodynamics.

WNYC, uberlube and dopamine. i'm a contrarian, contrarians get nine maybe ten . . . synaesthesia.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
sex. whatever's next. refining a 1993 cherokee. all my kids.

people, places and things. is margaret thatcher dead yet? yes.

i just read that a place in virginia finally took the tsarnaev kid's body after four cemeteries in three states had rejected it. i do not recall any such issues being raised in burying mass shooters. this divergence bugs me no little bit.

es ist nur eine frage der zeit.
On a typical Friday night I am
working and then driving into the weekend.

i like quirky non-datey venues for a first meeting; say the entrance ramp to the lincoln tunnel on 30th and 10th any weeknight around 9pm? watch out for the hudson yards construction; bring signage and a hard hat.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, casual sex
You should message me if
you're looking for something beyond the usual event horizon and you find some of this appealing, or better, compelling.

you want to support folsom east before the arrivistes shut it down forever.

+too late, it's gone+

if you're bright and fit and have a blazing libido, we're going to get along. if you're wildly intelligent and insatiable i'll drop everything else right now and go devotional.

there's a lot of projection in online dating. sometimes i receive messages that distress me in their misunderstanding. i'm certain that if i were a woman i would recognize a distant violence, and i am sorry for the need and pain and confusion therein.

like everyone else, i only want to be understood.