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26 M Rochester, NY

My Details

Last Online
Apr 14
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Working on Ph.D program
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm a stable and generally happy person looking to meet new people despite a busy schedule. I have a pretty clear idea of what I'm looking for in a partner, but I won't carry any specific expectations the first few times we hang out.

I've lived in Rochester since 2009, when I moved here for grad school. I stayed on for another degree, so I'm now working on a Doctorate in music. I spend a great many waking hours (right now, at least) practicing my instruments. Also, I invest a lot of time in taking care of myself as well as possible: working out regularly, sleeping adequately, eating well, etc. Makes life so much more enjoyable.

I'm fortunate to have a strong support network among friends and family. (And some of my best friends are older than my parents.) I really don't know what I would do without them. Life's tough.

One of my favorite attributes in a person is the ability to listen with care and without judgment, and to converse on a variety of "real" subjects—the best questions have no perfect answer, after all. Every relationship is an opportunity to grow.

Favorite activities: performing music, hanging out with friends (and making them Manhattans), bowling, cycling, long walks, cuddling, watching movies.

And by the way, bisexual does not equal polyamorous. I say this for myself, and on behalf of bisexuals everywhere.
What I’m doing with my life
(See above.) :-)

I also work part-time as a church musician, serving a liberal downtown congregation.
I’m really good at
avoiding prompts like this one.
The first things people usually notice about me
hmm . . . I've never asked. Probably my smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Quite unfortunately, I read at a snail's pace. Besides the reading I have to do, I read mostly non-fiction works about politics and media issues. The Return of the Native is one of my all-time favorites, but because my plot retention skills are terrible, I can't remember exactly why. Probably because Hardy was such a great writer.

Movies: Generally, if it has a unique and honest perspective, I like it: Me and You and Everyone We Know, I Heart Huckabees, Gigantic, The Science of Sleep. And just plain silly can be nice, too: all of the Austin Powers movies are favorites.

TV: Gilmore Girls (wholesome, I know!), The Office, Arrested Development, Buffy.

Music: Mostly of the "classical" variety. Maurice Duruflé, Louis Vierne, George Gershwin, and just about anything that I've studied. I enjoy many other artists as well: Janelle Monae, Stevie Wonder, Sufjan Stevens, Caveman, Crystal Skulls, and many others.

Food: Generally, not the stuff you find on a menu at Cracker Barrel. Asian, Indian, and Mexican are big faves. But this isn't to say that I don't have a "comfort food" kick every now and then.
The six things I could never do without
Music (especially playing it)
Love (in all of its many forms)
People to talk to
Something to think about
New things to explore
Water, because I needed a sixth item.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
all of the crazy paradoxes and complexities of this world.
On a typical Friday night I am
not doing the same thing I did the previous Friday.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
It wouldn't be very private if I wrote it here!
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you've read my profile, and you want to get to know someone new, with the possibility of dating. I'm very open. I hope you are, too!