- THIS IS SO FUCKED
What are you reading? - AUTHORING REVISION (21/01/2014)
This profile is largely a place to collect my thoughts around relationships right now. Write to me if you like, or respond if I've said hi. At the moment I'm enjoying corresponding and being free to express how I've felt upon reading a profile or seeing a photo. Might be an expression of attraction, might be that you seem a great person - just means something resonated.
My 'Dating' efforts have transmuted into the below efforts.
An ace article - link beyond the extract I've chosen.
A more individual path is being undertaken and it began just a bit before this sexual health gubbins, just an irony that as the effort was gaining momentum it was galvanised externally by having me pay more attention to my sexual connections.
Enjoy the article and I hope we're all realising this as we journey through meeting interesting chaps and chapesses.
Begin by directing the unconditional, loving admiration you used to reserve for people you’re attracted to, outward toward all kinds of people in all kinds of relationships. Start ten new kinds of relationships with people you never imagined could be your dearest friends and most dependable allies. Who are the people in your life who are ready to receive your trust and vulnerability? Give your trust to them and ask the same in return. Since there are no limits to the closeness possible with another person, what fears do you have to face to get even closer? Share those fears and ask for help instead of trying to manage them alone. Let the people in your life know what it’s really like for you, and enlist their help to bring closeness back into your daily existence. If you choose to have a primary partner, please remember that no matter how strong the relationship, one person is not enough for any human being to be close with. It is in your nature to desire closeness with all people, closeness that rarely has anything to do with sex. We have yet to discover what it will be like to have so much and such varied closeness in our lives.
The passionate intensity you’ve saved only for sexual encounters can fire up all areas of your life. What else besides sex ignites that much passion? What dreams and desires for your life would you need to rekindle in order to burn as brightly about your daily existence? Take on the challenges that make waking up exciting, that fill you with a sense of wonder and magic. Expand the envelope of who you think you are. Find feelings long buried and set them free. Cry wet tears and laugh with your whole voice; tremble with fear and giggle with embarrassment; storm with outrage at the cruel ways we’ve been hurt; weep with tenderness at the beauty of our existence. We need one another to feel these glorious feelings, so ask for all the help and love and attention you need. And you do need it. We just can’t do this alone, and we should never have had to in the first place.
Reclaim Your Body:
Sensual pleasure is our birthright, and it is available in thousands of forms besides sex. Take off your shoes and walk barefoot through the grass, the mud, the rain. Learn to breathe freely, so that every breath reminds you that you are alive right now! Dance, finding and releasing the movement within you, reveling in the gorgeous organism that you are. Touch your body freely and frequently, reawakening your senses. Take joy in the movement of your muscles, the feel of your sheets sliding on your skin as you lie down to rest, the splash of cool water on your face, and the swish of that coolness in your mouth as you drink. Become aware of the food you take in, not only savoring the taste, but also cultivating a sensitivity to how it makes your body feel long after it is digested. What would it take to slow yourself down enough to notice how much feeling is always available for your awareness? As you rediscover your senses and your infinite, creative range of movement, play like you did as a boy, when no one had to teach you how. Play hard and play soft, inventing ways to be in exuberant contact with everyone in your life.
- Both in nature and as subject.
Enquiring mind - Insightful and observant - Still and contemplative.
- Largely contrary
Optimistic but wry.
Direct yet verbose - Articulate yet convoluted.
Warm yet perverse.
I am in open relationships and seeing people.
I really want to enrich and determine my life - It feels like a period of my life when I need inner focus.
- Or a slap.