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35 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 12:56pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Portuguese (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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My misspent youth was misspent getting a PhD in economics and working at the Federal Reserve. Now that I've finally got my shit together I spend my days making music, growing plants, working out, dancing, befriending strangers, hiking and launching a post-BART drunk bus between the Mission and Oakland.

My whole life whenever I came to the Bay I would think "why don't I live here?" So now I live here.

Looking for a life partner kind of drains the fun out of it, so let's just say I'm looking for someone I want to spend today with, and tomorrow, and the next day, and the next...
What I’m doing with my life
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Skydiving, showing off my abs, visiting picturesque foreign locations, and hanging out with captive tigers. Unfortunately I have no photos of any of these things.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My overpowering halitosis. Then my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My first attempt to write this section devolved into an unreadable mess, so let's keep it simple.

Music is my favorite. I like a lot of different kinds. If there's a type of music you love then just assume I love it too (I probably do) and we can have informed discussions about it and make out while listening to it.

My favorite poem is "To His Coy Mistress" by Andrew Marvell, which I think is very appropriate for this site.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the inevitability of death. How to live a good life in the meantime. Also, puppies.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably at Hoodslam.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My views on dating, love, and sex are heavily informed by the writings of Dan Savage.

We're lucky to live in a time and place that (generally speaking) lets us enjoy sex however we want with whomever we want, with minimal fear of disease, unwanted pregnancy, or social opprobrium. I like to take advantage of this, and I tend to get along with others who do the same.
You should message me if
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you're a total badass. You also think women waiting for men to ask them out is retrograde and kinda dumb.