30 Long Island City, NY
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My self-summary
Weird, upbeat, nerdy, submissive intersectional feminist. Pretty queer for a straight cis guy.

I love cats, books, fencing, weightlifting, languages, and video games. I'll try anything twice and love learning to enjoy new things.

I have been described as "a hairy lesbian" (by multiple partners), "an actual wizard" (by my students), and "prone to tangents" (by anyone who has come within earshot of me).

Feel free to peruse my FetLife (also gentle_coda) and Tumblr (
What I’m doing with my life
I fence competitively (foil and épée), draw & paint, play a lot of games (both board- and video-), and try to learn a new skill every couple of months. Last was woodworking, next up is comedy improv.

To pay the bills, I teach programming, do contract web development & curriculum writing, and sell nerdy shit that I design.
I’m really good at
Teaching people to enjoy working with computers
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: (in no particular order) Kiki's Delivery Service, Groundhog Day, and Pacific Rim. but also possibly Magic Mike XXL

Shows: Adventure Time, Steven Universe, Gravity Falls, Firefly, and Scrubs will always be a little magical to me. I enjoyed Lost, Black Books, Sense8, Orphan Black, and a host of others, too. I've been linearly working through my first viewing of X-Files over the past year or so; I'm up to Season 7 and I think Scully & Mulder have one of the healthiest relationships ever depicted on American television.

Books: Black Sun Rising by C. S. Friedman, Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins, Accelerando by Charles Stross, Imajica by Clive Barker
The six things I could never do without
0. caaaaats
1. Japanese jazz-hop
2. Henry Rollins' pecs (I want to be them when I grow up)
3. a cornucopia of sketchbooks and pens and inks and oh
4. queer kinky friends (even though I don't really identify as queer, they're often the only people whom I really feel like myself with)
5. the Container Store
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- privilege, intersectionality, and empathy
- how to stay woke
- the state of modern web development
- butts
On a typical Friday night I am
- getting ready for a fencing tournament, because foil events start so goddamn early
You should message me if
- You like to rough up charming submissive boys with nice arms and great diction

- You'll consider laughing at my awful dadjokes

- You want to play Go or League of Legends or Dark Souls

- You want to go draw some burlesque performers at Dr. Sketchy's Anti-Art School, or hit up a music/comedy show!

- You're at least a little bit genderqueer (or get along well with that crowd)