Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I was born in Manhattan, grew up on Long Island, fled to a liberal
arts college in Vermont, lived in Cleveland until the Lake Effect
drove me west, Los Angeles until the lack of pizza drove me east,
took a break in Northampton, MA, fell a little in love with San
Francisco, and then finally came back home to New York.
I love languages, fencing, Bosc pears, cats, and video games. My
favorite topic prompts for discussion are "video games are art",
"empathy is a big deal", and "gender is bullshit". I'm a big burly
manly man, and I'd rather be the femme to your butch than
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Hair: Long & curly
D/s Orientation: Submissive
Feminist: Inclusive & sex-positive
MBTI: ENFP and it's fun to think about
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Fencing, designing reference posters for computer nerds, teaching
people about the internet, learning woodworking, writing, and
drinking a lot of chai.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Helping you see from someone else's perspective. Simplifying
complex topics. Charming cats.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
- Hedwig & the Angry Inch
- chill instrumental jazz-hop
- Steven Universe
- Kiki's Delivery Service
- Dark Souls
- R. Scott Bakker's "Prince of Nothing" series
- Fancy vanilla bean ice cream
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Pen & paper
- Reliable noise-isolating headphones
- Hair products
- Nice shoes
- Temperate, soothing, rainy summer days
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
gender roles can be fun
but girly manly men exist
and I am one
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Lifting arbitrarily heavy things and putting them slowly back down
again, probably while wearing fabulous pink-laced workout sneakers
and listening to the Tron: Legacy soundtrack.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- You'd love a first date at a comedy improv show, or a burlesque
- You hate hanging out in venues where it's too loud to hear each
- You dig confident submissive boys with nice arms and impeccable
diction, especially the ones who make fun sounds when you're mean
- You can beat me at Go (or Soul Calibur II).
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