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gentle_coda

29 Brooklyn, NY Cis Man, Man

Cis Man, Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Status
Open relationship
Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Okay), Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Mostly fandom, kink, feminism, and cats. A debonair dilettante with a penchant for picking up new ways to have fun!

My ideal week would probably involve pizza, long conversations about linguistics, at least one night staying up until 4AM at dance clubs and cocktail bars, then another night staying up just as late playing video games, with a fencing tournament on the weekend.

I am a total softie who would rather empathize than criticize. (Except when it comes to the tech industry, in which case I am basically already an angry old man.)

I've lived in Boston, Northampton, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Long Island, and Cleveland, and stayed in Seattle, Portland, DC, Chicago, Houston, Bennington, Phoenix, and Tucson... but I was born in Manhattan, and New York will always feel like home!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I fence foil and épée, sketch, weightlift (praise be to Brodin; wheymen), and try to learn a new skill as often as possible. (Next up: Improv comedy!)

For my day job, I design and build stuff on the internet.

I also try not to post about Homestuck on my Tumblr, and generally succeed.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I spent all of 2014 teaching programming to adults, and one of my students described me via feedback form as "actually a wizard." (It's all in the hair.) The hardest thing about learning is emotional, not intellectual. I love teaching because I get to be my students' cheerleader, who's always there to give them the confidence to keep trying!

Also really good at: making friends with strangers, backrubs, parallel parking.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Video Games
Dark Souls is my favorite game because it's actually an allegory about the strength of the human spirit. Final Fantasy 3/6 has the best soundtrack, and I'm always looking for an excuse to play Minecraft & Terraria again.

Books
I am a practitioner of pathological tsundoku, but R. Scott Bakker's The Darkness That Comes Before and Marc Ian Barasch's Field Notes on the Compassionate Life grabbed me until I had absorbed every single page.

Animation
Cowboy Bebop is still the best animated thing I'm aware of, but Steven Universe, FMA: Brotherhood, and Avatar: The Last Airbender come close. (Sword Art Online gets an honorable mention.)

Movies
When I'm bummed out, I watch Kiki's Delivery Service and feel better again.

Music
BT, KMFDM, World/Inferno Friendship Society, Zero 7 , E.S. Posthumus, Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeros, The Album Leaf, most of the Homestuck soundtrack, Yoko Kanno, Carbon Leaf, Pendulum, Stratovarius, The Glitch Mob, Rilo Kiley, They Might Be Giants, SO many musicals (especially Wicked), Vienna Teng, MURS, the list goes on...

Sometimes I listen to this playlist before bedtime, this one on lazy afternoons, and this one when I'm dealing with some heavy shit.

Tabletop Games
Toss-up between Netrunner (the card game) and Go (the ancient Chinese strategy game), but sometimes when I'm feeling particularly masochistic I'll try to get a bunch of friends together to play Twilight Imperium.

Food
Curry. Just give me all the curries.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The smell of rain on earth (which Tumblr recently taught me is called "petrichor")

My Google Calendar, without which I would never have any idea where I'm supposed to be at a given time.

Cats and their jellybean toes and floof and ugh

Thunderstorms and their soothing distant rumbling

Friends who can oscillate between dick & fart jokes and unironic conversations about morality, art, metaphysics, and social justice.

Photoshop
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Code (language design and data structures and HTTP request headers and...)

How to convince people that being nice to each other is the bomb.

How to become the best version of myself.

Pizza
You should message me if
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You love concerts, drink-'n-draws, burlesque shows, and open mic nights.

You're at least a little queer, or generally just get on well with the LGBTQ* crowd.

You like big burly dudes with big beautiful submissive streaks.

You hate crowded bars where you need a megaphone and smoke signals to communicate.

You think guys with foot fetishes can be cute (POSSIBLY EVEN SEXY) if we don't get all fuckin' weird about it in the first couple of messages (seriously fellas, learn to be a little patient, will ya?).

You can finally convince me to run the tabletop role-playing campaign that every other person I meet keeps asking me to run.

You wanna do a SKILL TRADE!!!1 (aw yeah)