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gentle_coda

29 Brooklyn, NY Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 15
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Education
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Polyamorous, kinky (submissive), feminist, nerdy, long-haired, relentlessly optimistic ENFP cat-person.

I give my heart to everyone I meet; my only rule is that you must treat it with respect and share it with others.

Patience, compassion, empathy, and non-violent communication are some of my highest values.

Feel free to peek at my FetLife profile! My username there is also gentle_coda. I'm open about my sexuality, but please do not presume that we have some kind of D/s thing happening already in our first messages. I make friends first and sex/play partners later--no casual hookups, thanks!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I see the potential in everyone. That's why I teach programming for a living: it's considered to be an inborn talent unachievable to those without the gift, but really, anyone can do it, they just need someone who believes in them... like me!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Voice-acting. One day I'll do it for real, but I frequently drop into jokey character voices (usually without actually realizing that I'm doing it), and my "teaching voice" is most frequently described as "NPR commentator".
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
PHILOSOPHER COMEDIANS
[Louis CK, George Carlin]

CURRIES
[Chicken Tikka Masala, Massaman Curry]

UNDERSTATED SLICE-OF-LIFE/EXISTENTIAL MOVIES
[Groundhog Day, Kiki's Delivery Service]

MUSIC FROM AND HEAVILY INSPIRED BY VIDEO GAMES
[Anamanaguchi, Big Giant Circles, Savant]

CHILL MUSIC
[The Album Leaf, El Ten Eleven, Sigur Ros]

CARTOONS FOR PEOPLE WHO DON'T CARE WHETHER IT'S A CARTOON OR NOT
[Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann, Adventure Time, Avatar: The Last Airbender, Sword Art Online]

TV DRAMAS THAT MAKE YOU CRY AFTER MAKING YOU LAUGH
[Orange is the New Black, West Wing]

ALSO
[Glass-bottle Coke, Community, BT, KMFDM]
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Watching people get "Ah-ha" moments
- Really, really, really nice pens. Like fountain pens and shit, have you ever written with one? Seriously, it's amazing.
- Cat headbutts
- Calm, soothing, overcast days and the thunderstorms & rain scent that come with them
- Pizza. Just plain, tasty, New York pizza.
- Unconditional compassion
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
privilege, game design, pizza, and butts
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I come off like a big broad-shouldered tough guy, but I am actually a total softie, and I routinely get choked up while reading or watching TV shows and movies (LOOKING AT YOU, PIXAR'S "UP"), especially when characters make really powerful gestures of trust to each other.
You should message me if
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- You want to have a sketch picnic in the Brooklyn Botanical Gardens

- You enjoy getting foot rubs

- You'd like to marathon ridiculous sci-fi series on Netflix with me and compare fan theories about the overwrought plot twists

- You want to help me find the best pizza in Brooklyn

- You like to make things and want to make things with me! (paintings, games, music, robots, etc.)

- You are kinky and like being mean to boys who make fun sounds when tormented, or are interested in meeting someone experienced with whom you can explore D/s!

- You like it when people can drop the judgmental guard-up bullshit, skip the small talk, and listen to each other as human beings. Tell me what you love!

- You believe that "feminism" and "egalitarianism" would mean the same thing, if everyone actually had equal rights and privileges.

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