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gentle_coda

30 Brooklyn, NY Cis Man, Man

Cis Man, Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 24
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Religion
Other
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Status
Open relationship
Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hello! I'm Max, and at this very second, I'm probably either really sleepy or REALLY excited about something.

Important facts about me:

- I like when local businesses have a shop cat who chills out with you while you're in the checkout line. I am an expert cat-confuser.
- I think "get a thicker skin" is always worthless advice.
- My favorite color is eggplant purple.
- MBTI types are fun to think about, even though they're scientifically meaningless! Mine is ENFP, and the cheesy descriptions tend to be pretty spot on for me.

Now that we're intimate, let's get some standard deal-breakers out of the way.

POLYAMORY: I am open to many possibilities.

It would be splendid to meet and date a whatever-it-is-you-call-a-"soul mate" when you're too much of a stubborn realist to actually use the term "soul mate". "Spirit buddy", maybe?

It's also great to just meet delightful people and see what happens!

I'm currently in a committed non-monogamous relationship with someone who also has other involvements. No interaction is required, but I do love it when everyone ends up being friends!

KINK: Kink and D/s are very important to me. I am submissive! If that's a turn-off for you, or there simply isn't a dominant bone in your body, we probably should not date.

FEMINISM: Inclusive feminism is very important to me.

I do not write people off just because they are "anti-feminist"; as a Recovering Nice Guy, I try to stay mostly quiet & supportive in feminist circles, and shoulder some of the emotional labor by serving as a guide to positive understanding for other skeptical dudes who don't "get it" yet.

PIZZA: Pizza is very important to me. I know, I know... it's rather forward to bring up pizza before we've even met, but I'm just sayin', good luck finding another guy on this site who likes pizza as much as I do. I'd eat it every day if I could. You don't have to eat any, but I will countenance no judgment of my penchant for a plain cheese slice.

All right?

All right!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a senior engineer at a small web development consulting studio. I mentor other programmers, provide guidance for startup founders, and make a LOT of bulleted lists. (Oh yeah, and I guess there are some computers and programming in there somewhere.) Sometimes I speak at meetups & conferences, but I'm not important enough to have been protectively invited to one yet (yet!).

My hobbies span far and wide: I fence competitively (foil and épée), draw & paint, play a lot of games (both board- and video-), and try to learn a new skill every couple of months. Last was woodworking, next up is comedy improv.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Taking complex ideas and explaining them simply. (Go ahead, ask me to explain something about the internet / programming / games / fencing. I double dragon dare you!)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Movies: (in no particular order) Kiki's Delivery Service, Groundhog Day, and Pacific Rim.

Shows: Adventure Time, Steven Universe, Gravity Falls, Firefly, and Scrubs will always be a little magical to me. I enjoyed Lost, Black Books, Sense8, Orphan Black, and a host of others, too.

Books: Black Sun Rising by C. S. Friedman, Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- privilege
- the state of modern web development
- butts
You should message me if
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Let's go draw some burlesque performers at Dr. Sketchy's Anti-Art School, or hit up a music/comedy show!