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46 M Oakland, CA

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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
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Atheism, and laughing about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Working on space camp
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Has dogs
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm a California boy, raised in the coastal hills, who loves natures, politics, social change, and tech. I spent a few years in the Silicon Valley before dropping out of mainstream culture and choosing an environmental activist path.

I'm incredibly passionate about social change. At the moment that includes web work for good groups, studying the history of social movements, and far-reaching talks on anything from ethics to economics to feminism to science. I have a Grand Plan for Overthrowing Everybody and Achieving Utopia though there's a few minor details to work out such as rebuilding the left in America.

I'm currently finished an extended working visit to Puerto Rico (amazing!), and I'm headed to the SF Bay Area next to visit family and friends. Though I travel quite a bit now the Bay Area continues to be my spiritual home and long-term residence plan.
What I’m doing with my life
Coding websites for nonprofits and other worthy causes. Reading about organizing, social change, and project management. Organizing anarchists. Riding the motorcycle across NYC. A bit of travel and adventure.

I'm often debating political philosophy with my partner mediacritik. She and I are in a open relationship; we both date others.
I’m really good at
Communicating, adventure, exploration, creating safe space, reading, research, crafting bad puns, and anything to do with my hands — massage, mechanics, construction, caress.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I look a bit like Anthony Bourdain, totally thwarting my desire to look more like George Clooney. And that while I look really masculine I'm often quite feminine in action.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Mostly science (esp. mind, ethics, and atheism), science-fiction, history, and some general fiction.

Nonfiction: Jennifer Hecht, Jared Diamond, Steven Pinker, Douglas Hofstadter, and Daniel Dennet.

Fiction: Margaret Atwood, Cormac McCarthy, T.C. Boyle. I have a soft spot for magical realism like The Man Who Fell in Love with the Moon, Stone Junction, and Tex and Molly in the Afterlife.

SF/fantasy: Octavia Butler, Kim Stanley Robinson, Ursula K. Le Guin, Connie Willis, Terry Pratchett, Kurt Vonnegut, Cory Doctorow, and Charles Stross, and almost anything dystopic or utopic.

I read Nonviolent Communication: a Language of Life a few years ago and I'm very pleased to have NVC as a primary communication/conflict resolution tool.

Movies: Cloud Atlas, Like Water for Chocolate, Man Facing Southeast, Shrek, Spirited Away, The Fall, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Waking Life, Twelve Monkeys, Garden State.

Music: I have wide tastes. Alternative, bluegrass, latin, electronic, folk, hip hop, punk, metal, industrial, and world music all grace my MP3s. Newest additions: Rasputina, Beats Antique, and the Cloud Atlas soundtrack.

Podcasts: This American Life, Radiolab, Infinite Monkey Cage.

Websites: Ars Technica, Boing Boing, and Arbroath are daily reads.
The six things I could never do without
Trees, music, travel, falling in love with the world (I'm working on this one!), activism, reading, and breaking-arbitrarily imposed limits.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything. Yarg! Rub my head, make it stop!

How to 'save the world.' How to combine art and organizing into a viable revolution.

I think about why humans ever wandered out of Africa and self-domesticated on the Levant. And about how that was a probably a mistake. Well, coming down out of the trees was probably a mistake. Or maybe leaving the oceans. It's hard to tell where we went so wrong. =)

The state of this world, how I can help, being centered and grounded, how to find and expand upon more love in the world, why we are here, what we should be doing here, and how much lunch is going to cost.
On a typical Friday night I am
Asleep, reading, driving, or dorking out on the internet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i genderbend. Well, that's not really all that private, actually. =)
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Definitely message me if you have an interest in conversation about philosophy, ethics, politics, history, and/or organizing, and you'd like to make friends.

You want to help me meet one of these life goals: learn the guitar and/or ukulele, write an Idiot's Guide to Social Change in America, work out in the gym on a regular schedule, or find cool Brooklyn cafés with decent coffee where I can geek out and work.

You are seriously thinking, perhaps over-thinking, about changing the way this world works in some way large or small.

You prefer a relationship to develop through time and aren't strongly partner-driven; as a friend put it, "I'm neither intimacy-phobic nor commitment-driven at this point. It's half the fun to see what our dynamic turns into and where the journey takes us."

You are not cruising for purely casual sex. Even a casual relationship must have a degree intimacy and connection or it's simply not satisfying.