Find better matches with our advanced matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


47 M Hoboken, NJ

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 5:13am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism, and laughing about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Working on space camp
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

Similar Users

My self-summary
I'm a California boy, raised in the coastal hills, who loves nature, social change, travel, and tech. I spent a few years in the Silicon Valley before dropping out of mainstream culture and choosing an environmental activist path. Now I'm doing tech for good causes.

I'm passionate about social change. At the moment that includes web work for good groups, studying the history of social movements, and far-reaching talks on anything from ethics to economics to feminism to science. I have a Mad Plan for Overthrowing Everybody and Achieving Utopia, though there's a few, you know, minor details to work out.

I'm just returned from extended working visit to Puerto Rico (amazing!) and then the SF Bay Area for family, friends, and tech conferences. I'm now in the New York City metropolitan area.
What I’m doing with my life
Coding websites for nonprofits and other worthy causes. Reading about organizing, social change, and economics. Organizing anarchists and collaborative software. Riding on my motorcycle across NY — city and state. A bit of travel and adventure where I can find it.

I'm in an open relationship with mediacritik. I'm often hanging out with her engaged in debate, food adventures, and/or parties with the socialistas.
I’m really good at
Communicating, adventure, exploration, creating safe space, reading, research, crafting bad puns, and anything to do with my hands — massage, mechanics, construction, caress.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I look a bit like Anthony Bourdain, totally thwarting my desire to look more like George Clooney. And that while I look really masculine I can be a mix of masculine and feminine in action.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
2014: Piketty's Capital in the Twenty First Century (awesome) and Marx's Capital (frustratingly obtuse).

Books: Mostly science (esp. mind, ethics, and atheism), science-fiction, history, and some general fiction.

Nonfiction: Jennifer Hecht's Doubt, Jared Diamond, Steven Pinker, Douglas Hofstadter, and Daniel Dennet.

Fiction: Margaret Atwood, Cormac McCarthy, T.C. Boyle. I have a soft spot for magical realism like The Man Who Fell in Love with the Moon, Stone Junction, and Tex and Molly in the Afterlife.

SF/fantasy: Octavia Butler, Kim Stanley Robinson, Ursula K. Le Guin, Connie Willis, Terry Pratchett, Kurt Vonnegut, Cory Doctorow, and Charles Stross, and almost anything dystopic or utopic.

I read Nonviolent Communication: a Language of Life a few years ago and I'm very pleased to have NVC as a primary communication/conflict resolution tool.

Movies: Cloud Atlas, Like Water for Chocolate, Man Facing Southeast, Shrek, Spirited Away, The Fall, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Twelve Monkeys.

Music: I have wide tastes. Alternative, bluegrass, latin, electronic, folk, hip hop, punk, metal, industrial, and world music all grace my MP3s. Newest additions: Rasputina, Beats Antique, and the Cloud Atlas soundtrack.

Podcasts: This American Life, Radiolab, Infinite Monkey Cage.

Websites: Ars Technica, Boing Boing, and Arbroath are daily reads.
The six things I could never do without
Trees, music, travel, falling in love with the world (I'm working on this one!), activism, reading, and breaking-arbitrarily imposed limits.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything. Yarg! Rub my head, make it stop!

How to 'save the world.' How to combine art and organizing into a viable revolution.

I think about why humans ever wandered out of Africa and self-domesticated on the Levant. And about how that was a probably a mistake. Well, coming down out of the trees was probably a mistake. Or maybe leaving the oceans. It's hard to tell where we went so wrong. =)

On a typical Friday night I am
Asleep, reading, driving, or dorking out on the internet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i genderbend. Well, that's not really all that private, actually. =)
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You want intellect with your passion — and a lot of both. Seriously, no good pillow talk = no sex. If you're interested in getting into each others minds and pants we'll get on like a California wildfire in an anthropic global warming environment.

Definitely message me if you have an interest in conversation about philosophy, ethics, politics, economics, history, and/or organizing, and you'd like to make friends.

You are seriously thinking, perhaps over-thinking, about changing the way this world works in some way large or small.

You prefer a relationship to develop through time and aren't strongly partner-driven; as a friend put it, "I'm neither intimacy-phobic nor commitment-driven at this point. It's half the fun to see what our dynamic turns into and where the journey takes us."

You are not cruising for purely casual sex. Even a casual relationship must have a degree intimacy, connection, and vulnerability, or it's simply not satisfying.