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oughtnaught

47 M Hoboken, NJ

My Details

Last Online
Aug 25
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on space camp
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a California boy who loves nature, travel, adventure, and tech. I spent a few years in the Silicon Valley before dropping out of mainstream culture and choosing an environmental activist path. Now I'm doing web and database tech for good causes.

I'm passionate about social change. At the moment that includes web work for good groups, studying the history of social movements, and engaging in talks on anything from ethics to economics to feminism to science.

I'm just returned from extended working vacation in Puerto Rico (amazing!) and then the SF Bay Area for family, friends, and tech conferences. I'm now in the New York City metropolitan area.
What I’m doing with my life
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Coding websites for nonprofits and other worthy causes. Reading about organizing, social change, and economics. Organizing anarchists and collaborative software. Riding on my motorcycle across NY City and state. A bit of travel and adventure where I can find it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Communicating, adventure, exploration, creating safe space, reading, research, crafting bad puns, erotic adventure, and anything to do with my hands — massage, mechanics, construction, caress.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I look a bit like Anthony Bourdain, totally thwarting my desire to look more like George Clooney.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Recent reading: Piketty's Capital in the Twenty First Century (awesome) and Marx's Capital (frustratingly obtuse).

Books: Mostly science (esp. mind, ethics, and atheism), science-fiction, history, and some general fiction.

Nonfiction: Jennifer Hecht's Doubt, Jared Diamond, Steven Pinker, Douglas Hofstadter, and Daniel Dennet.

Fiction: Margaret Atwood, Cormac McCarthy, T.C. Boyle. I have a soft spot for magical realism like The Man Who Fell in Love with the Moon, Stone Junction, and Tex and Molly in the Afterlife.

SF/fantasy: Octavia Butler, Kim Stanley Robinson, Ursula K. Le Guin, Connie Willis, Terry Pratchett, Kurt Vonnegut, Cory Doctorow, and Charles Stross, and almost anything dystopic or utopic.

I read Nonviolent Communication: a Language of Life a few years ago and I'm very pleased to have NVC as a primary communication/conflict resolution tool.

Movies: Cloud Atlas, Like Water for Chocolate, Man Facing Southeast, Shrek, Spirited Away, The Fall, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Twelve Monkeys.

Music: I have really wide tastes. Alternative, bluegrass, latin, electronic, folk, hip hop, punk, metal, industrial, and world music. I have a soft spot for genre-shifting covers.

Podcasts: This American Life, Radiolab, Infinite Monkey Cage.

Websites: Ars Technica, Boing Boing, and Arbroath are daily reads.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Trees, music, travel, falling in love with the world (I'm working on this one!), activism, reading, and breaking-arbitrarily imposed limits.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything. Yarg! Rub my head, make it stop!

How to 'save the world.' How to combine art and organizing into a viable revolution.

I think about why humans ever wandered out of Africa and self-domesticated on the Levant. And about how that was a probably a mistake. Well, coming down out of the trees was probably a mistake. Or maybe leaving the oceans. It's hard to tell where we went so wrong. =)

Ethics.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Asleep, reading, driving, or dorking out on the internet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't seem to be able to pass dogs on the street without engaging them with pets and conversations. =)
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You got your intellect in my passion! No, you got your passion in my intellect! Hey, these taste great together...

You like rambling walks with talks about philosophy, ethics, politics, economics, history, and/or organizing, and you'd like to make friends.

You are seriously thinking, perhaps over-thinking, about changing the way this world works in some way large or small.

You prefer a relationship to develop through time and aren't strongly partner-driven; as a friend put it, "I'm neither intimacy-phobic nor commitment-driven at this point. It's half the fun to see what our dynamic turns into and where the journey takes us."

You are not cruising for purely casual sex. Even a casual relationship must have a degree intimacy, connection, and vulnerability, or it's simply not satisfying.