Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Tall, reasonably kempt conversation-er* seeks amazing person to
make goofy faces at while talking about the events of the day or
playing fun board/card games and most likely food. Adventures in
all their many forms are also encouraged.
So there's the dating page advertisement. The rest is just gravy
right? Or icing. But really, icing is the real reason for eating
cake, as cake is just a delivery system for icing (much like
pancakes/syrup, pita/hummus, everything/bacon). Whereas the
gravy/turkey/mashed potato triumvirate is much more evenly matched
in the personal "I want to eat this" equation. So therefore, "the
rest is just gravy" is a more apt statement than "the icing on the
cake" in this situation.
So here's the gravy.
A long long time ago (November 2010) I moved from Brooklyn to
Seattle amid a whole bunch of crazy debilitating drama. Thus began
the worst year of my life coupled with the most personal growth
I've experienced since I learned how to talk.
Now I'm a much more complete human. I discovered why Seattle is so
amazing. I have the best friends I've ever had in my life. I've
worked some really great jobs. I really like my current job. I'm
stable, happy, and newly married.
Oh that. I'm in a very happy non-monogamous relationship with the
most wonderful person ever. Some people can't really handle the
whole poly/non-monogamous thing. But don't let that stop you from
writing to me. I'm not really actively seeking outside romantic
relationships. Mostly I want friends for adventure,
couch-cuddling-movie-time, sushi-fishes, and whatever else the day
brings. If there's a romantic spark, that's gravy (see above
paragraph re: gravy).
I'm a bit poly-saturated these days. So while
friendship-with-groping (my term for FWB, because friendship is
benefit enough) is certainly welcome, I'm definitely more in the
market for straight up friendship. Also maybe friendship with naked
hangouts, because nudity.
*I firmly believe that any made up word is valid as long as
everyone in the conversation understands it.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I run a coffee shop. I try not to let it take up too much of my
bandwidth though. I'm also somewhat involved with the coffee
industry at large and travel a few times a year to conventions and
other gatherings of coffee professionals.
Once or twice a week I sit at a table with good friends, drink
shitty beer and pretend to be someone else. Usually a Star Wars
character. (We play Saga, if you're interested. )
I eat a lot. Most of my diet consists of the house taco from Tacos
Chukis. I'm there at least 4 times per week. It is so good. If you
haven't been I'm taking you there. Wanna go right now? I could go
for a taco...
I drink whiskey, beer and wine occasionally. Mostly at home because
recently I've been having issues with hangovers when I go out. Some
people have claimed it's a metal deficiency. I think it's a
combination of drinking quickly and the unending approach of middle
age. But if I'm not at home, usually Tommy Gun because it's close
to home, Liberty because I love it, or Cafe Mox because
I try to spend at least a little of every day with someone I care
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking. I don't cook as much as I used to though. Which is too bad
because I love to cook.
I'll kick your ass at Scrabble.
Reading entire books in a single day. Usually these are not great
works of classic literature. If you judge me based on my love of
books about the British Navy during the Napoleonic Wars, with or
without dragons (bonus points if you know the references), then you
don't understand anything Shakespeare was doing.
First dates. I seriously love first dates. My long experience in
coffee has made me really good at small talk, so even bad dates can
be fun. Good first dates get beyond small talk. Great first dates
usually end with kissing and touching. The best first date I ever
went on lasted like 4 days and started with strip scrabble (yes
it's a thing. And I maybe made it up). I married her though.*
*Ok. Technically that was the second date. My best first date was
the first one I went on after meeting my wife. It involved much
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Tall. Skinny. Curly hair. Good eye contact. Nice smile.
Sometimes I wear ties just because I can.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This is too large for words.
I was a creative writing major in school. I read a lot. But
seriously. Read a book with dragons in it once in a while. I also
read RPG books like they were novels.
Current Book(s): OK. I never update this. I'm like 20 books beyond
my last entry here. So just ask me. In reading probably 5 things at
any one time.
I'm skipping music, movies, and shows. Just assume that I like what
Food! We've already discussed my love for Tacos Chukis. Also Big
Mario's pizza. I really like to eat. I'll pretty much eat anything.
I used to have a sandwich blog called Bread:Neil:Bread in which I
was the Neil sandwich. Unfortunately it is now defunct because I
had some serious tooth issues which caused tasty crunchy bread to
be the bane of my existence. But I can eat bread again now.
Favorite sandwiches in Seattle? 1. Paseo (RIP!! So sad). Nuff said
2. The $5 sandwich at Bar Ferdinand. 3. The Reuben at Market House
Meats. You've never had it. You should now. 4. Torta at El Quetzal
in Beacon Hill. 5. Any one of a dozen sandwiches at Tat's
It's come to my attention that I have a favorite bar in every
neighborhood. If I don't have a favorite in yours, lemme know why I
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my cats, Pepper and Bill
My lady wife person
This may not be in order.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
New character names for RPG games. Recent names include
Sem-I-em(a12 year old munitions expert), Tak Otaku (a lecherous
naive melee fighting monk), a two-people in one brain
brother-sister pair named Eve and Steven, and a rather uninspired
backup character for when Sem-I-em eventually blows himself up
named Justin Case.
Ask me why my cats are named what they are.
I also spend a lot of time thinking up one topic tumblrs that will
never happen. Mostly because I don't tumbl...I'm not that
I try to be the best darned feminist I can. Consent and
communication are very important to me. So don't just expect me to
grab you and kiss you or anything if the romantic spark exists
between us. I'm a slut, yes, but an ethical one. I'm gonna ask
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Friday nights are drink shitty beer and play RPG games night. So
usually I work early, get tipsy on Rainier or Henry Weinhard's if
I'm feeling saucy, and get home around 10. Sometimes, if I feel
like getting sauced, I go hang out at Tommy Gun after.
I go out for other brands of fun during the week. Though the kind
of work I do usually means I'm exhausted by 10 so my partying
happens while the sun's up (except in winter, because the sun's not
up very late. But you get my drift.).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Um. Besides the fact I'm poly and married?
There is one song constantly rolling around in my head. It's "If I
Only had a Brain" from The Wizard of Oz. But although I've been
singing this song to myself for decades I have yet to learn all the
Or whatever else. Just ask me.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You can teach me all the words to If I Only had a Brain.
Or let's play Scrabble.
Let's go taste some sandwiches!
I need to start exercising somehow. I bought a car in July and
haven't gained weight, but have gotten softer. Which is weird for
You want to be my writing partner. I need some encouragement and
Or you want to take me hiking or some other outdoorsy thing! I'm
determined to finally take advantage of the nature factory we call
Just write me! Chances are, if I've looked at your profile more
than once either 1. You updated something and I want to see or 2. I
like you and am planning to write eventually but haven't gotten
there yet. I send very few messages. So just write me and I'll
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