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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Open relationship
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6' 4" (1.93m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
My self-summary
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Tall, reasonably kempt conversation-er* seeks amazing person to make goofy faces at while talking about the events of the day or playing fun board/card games and most likely food. Adventures in all their many forms are also encouraged.

So there's the dating page advertisement. The rest is just gravy right? Or icing. But really, icing is the real reason for eating cake, as cake is just a delivery system for icing (much like pancakes/syrup, pita/hummus, everything/bacon). Whereas the gravy/turkey/mashed potato triumvirate is much more evenly matched in the personal "I want to eat this" equation. So therefore, "the rest is just gravy" is a more apt statement than "the icing on the cake" in this situation.

So here's the gravy.

A long long time ago (November 2010) I moved from Brooklyn to Seattle amid a whole bunch of crazy debilitating drama. Thus began the worst year of my life coupled with the most personal growth I've experienced since I learned how to talk.

Now I'm a much more complete human. I discovered why Seattle is so amazing. I have the best friends I've ever had in my life. I've worked some really great jobs. I really like my current job. I'm stable, happy, and newly married.

Oh that. I'm in a very happy non-monogamous relationship with the most wonderful person ever. Some people can't really handle the whole poly/non-monogamous thing. But don't let that stop you from writing to me. I'm not really actively seeking outside romantic relationships. Mostly I want friends for adventure, couch-cuddling-movie-time, sushi-fishes, and whatever else the day brings. If there's a romantic spark, that's gravy (see above paragraph re: gravy).

I'm a bit poly-saturated these days. So while friendship-with-groping (my term for FWB, because friendship is benefit enough) is certainly welcome, I'm definitely more in the market for straight up friendship. Also maybe friendship with naked hangouts, because nudity.

*I firmly believe that any made up word is valid as long as everyone in the conversation understands it.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a professional coffee cheerleader. I try not to let it take up too much personal bandwidth, but I fail miserably at it. I'm also somewhat involved with the coffee industry at large and travel a few times a year to conventions and other gatherings of coffee professionals.

Once or twice a week I sit at a table with good friends, drink shitty beer and pretend to be someone else. Usually a Star Wars character. (We play Saga, if you're interested. )

I do a lot of bar trivia.

I eat a lot. Most of my diet consists of the house taco from Tacos Chukis. I'm there at least 4 times per week. It is so good. If you haven't been I'm taking you there. Wanna go right now? I could go for a taco...

I drink whiskey, beer and wine occasionally. Mostly at home because recently I've been having issues with hangovers when I go out. Some people have claimed it's a metal deficiency. I think it's a combination of drinking quickly and the unending approach of middle age. But if I'm not at home, usually Tommy Gun (RIP. Still looking for a suitable replacement) because it's close to home, Liberty because I love it, or Cafe Mox because GAMES.

I try to spend at least a little of every day with someone I care about.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking. I don't cook as much as I used to though. Which is too bad because I love to cook.

Petting Cats.

I'll kick your ass at Scrabble.

Reading entire books in a single day. Usually these are not great works of classic literature. If you judge me based on my love of books about the British Navy during the Napoleonic Wars, with or without dragons (bonus points if you know the references), then you don't understand anything Shakespeare was doing.

First dates. I seriously love first dates. My long experience in coffee has made me really good at small talk, so even bad dates can be fun. Good first dates get beyond small talk. Great first dates usually end with kissing and touching. The best first date I ever went on lasted like 4 days and started with strip scrabble (yes it's a thing. And I maybe made it up). I married her though.*

*Ok. Technically that was the second date. My best first date was the first one I went on after meeting my wife. It involved much chemistry.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Tall. Skinny. Curly hair. Good eye contact. Nice smile.

Sometimes I wear ties just because I can.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This is too large for words.

I was a creative writing major in school. I read a lot. But seriously. Read a book with dragons in it once in a while. I also read RPG books like they were novels.

Current Book(s): OK. I never update this. I'm like 20 books beyond my last entry here. So just ask me. In reading probably 5 things at any one time.

I'm skipping music, movies, and shows. Just assume that I like what everyone likes.

Food! We've already discussed my love for Tacos Chukis. Also Big Mario's pizza. I really like to eat. I'll pretty much eat anything. I used to have a sandwich blog called Bread:Neil:Bread in which I was the Neil sandwich. Unfortunately it is now defunct because I had some serious tooth issues which caused tasty crunchy bread to be the bane of my existence. But I can eat bread again now. Favorite sandwiches in Seattle? 1. Paseo (RIP!! So sad). Nuff said 2. The $5 sandwich at Bar Ferdinand. 3. The Reuben at Market House Meats. You've never had it. You should now. 4. Torta at El Quetzal in Beacon Hill. 5. Any one of a dozen sandwiches at Tat's Delicatessen.

It's come to my attention that I have a favorite bar in every neighborhood. If I don't have a favorite in yours, lemme know why I should!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my cats, Pepper and Bill
My lady wife person
decent whiskey
sexy times

This may not be in order.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
New character names for RPG games. Recent names include Sem-I-em(a12 year old munitions expert), Tak Otaku (a lecherous naive melee fighting monk), a two-people in one brain brother-sister pair named Eve and Steven, and a rather uninspired backup character for when Sem-I-em eventually blows himself up named Justin Case.

Ask me why my cats are named what they are.

I also spend a lot of time thinking up one topic tumblrs that will never happen. Mostly because I don't tumbl...I'm not that acrobatic.

I try to be the best darned feminist I can. Consent and communication are very important to me. So don't just expect me to grab you and kiss you or anything if the romantic spark exists between us. I'm a slut, yes, but an ethical one. I'm gonna ask permission.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Friday nights are drink shitty beer and play RPG games night. So usually I work early, get tipsy on Rainier or Henry Weinhard's if I'm feeling saucy, and get home around 10. Sometimes, if I feel like getting sauced, I go hang out elsewhere after.

I go out for other brands of fun during the week. Though the kind of work I do usually means I'm exhausted by 10 so my partying happens while the sun's up (except in winter, because the sun's not up very late. But you get my drift.).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Um. Besides the fact I'm poly and married?

I'm always singing something, but I'm very self-conscious about it so I won't repeat myself and will get super quiet if you point it out.

Or whatever else. Just ask me.
You should message me if
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Let's play Scrabble. Or do pub trivia.

Let's go taste some sandwiches!

I need to start exercising somehow. I bought a car last July and haven't gained weight, but have gotten softer. Which is weird for me.

You want to be my writing partner. I need some encouragement and deadlines.

Or you want to take me hiking or some other outdoorsy thing! I'm determined to finally take advantage of the nature factory we call the PNW.

Just write me! Chances are, if I've looked at your profile more than once either 1. You updated something and I want to see or 2. I like you and am planning to write eventually but haven't gotten there yet. I send very few messages. So just write me and I'll write back.