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29 M Brooklyn, NY

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 22–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:37am
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Scorpio, and it matters a lot
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes cats
English, Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Almost 30 years of high-minded debauchery and well-intentioned narcissism. I'm a reformer with too many causes, and I often find myself (lose myself) trying to learn the bad guys' tricks so I can use them for the good guys.

Amiably stubborn and resolutely waffling, I'm growing in to that old adage of "the more you know, the more you're aware of how little you know". Right now that means working two jobs and trying to glean what makes the world tick. Always aiming at success, though whenever it looks like I've found it I can still find a way to blame myself for failure.

Also, I am a recovering musician who had to leave that life behind because of the tenuous financial situation it put me in. Whether I'll go back to pursuing it as a career is a constant, nagging question. I sing and compose music and arrange things and play the keyboard. Want to start a queer-revolution band with me? Let me know. No guitar heroes allowed (guitar solos are the phallocentric anthems of the patriarchy).

Finally, succinctly, importantly, I have good credit and bad habits.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working full-time in social media and research for an ad agency and part-time as a bartender at a neighborhood restaurant. Recently moved to Kensington after years of a too-sweet deal in Park Slope. My new place rocks.

Because it'll save us time, I'll also say that I'm working 60-hour weeks to pay off some medical bills from a serious injury, and also debt from over-ambitious touring with my old band. This means clothes shopping is more vintage/thrift than Barney's.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Videogames, cooking, making random friends, math, reading, empathy, waiting tables, making people feel at ease, snarkiness, making lists of short phrases
The first things people usually notice about me
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Absurdly tall, and I've been told I have a very welcoming energy. Also, the blonde hair and blue eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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BOOKS: I like very long and quite serious literature from the 19th century as a general preference (I could speak to you about George Eliot for hours, but I don't think you'd want me to). Also, epic fantasy series -- I've read all the Game of Thrones books and can act as your tour guide while watching the show if you want. And I can get down with the really thoughtful modern novelists (I just read A Visit From the Goon Squad by Jennifer Egan, and it floored me). And interesting nonfiction about history or science. And biography, hopefully of historical figures or scientists. I try to read a lot, and wish that I read more.

GAMES: Know that this isn't part of the prompt, but I am an avid gamer when I have time to kill. Love RPGs and strategy games, but great platformers and fighting games are right up my alley too. Also love board and card games of all varieties as long as they require some degree of strategy in addition to the luck which makes them interesting. Unfortunately these games can bring out the worst in me, since I'm very competitive and playing to win.

MOVIES: Give me something to think about and gripping experiences, and I'll enjoy it -- if it features weeping elderly people or exploding helicopters, doesn't really matter. Also, I like porn, but not too much.

SHOWS: The Simpsons allowed me to form a tolerable personality. I also heartily enjoy Buffy the Vampire Slayer. I can't get enough of Parks and Recreation and Veep, and an OkCupid date led me to check out the bedazzled gold mine that is RuPaul's Drag Race.

MUSIC: I hate putting shit on shuffle.

The Cardigans are probably my favorite band of all time. I've been obsessed with Belle & Sebastian and Neko Case lately. Before that it was non-stop Queen, Fleetwood Mac, and Joni Mitchell. From the modern indie music scene, tUnE-yArDs, Deerhoof, Sufjan Stevens, Erykah Badu, Jens Lekman, Mirah, and Nellie McKay are all favorites.

Beyonce is mighty fine girl, but god damn open up your mind girl.

FOOD: 10 years of restaurant experience means I'm a huge fan of well-balanced flavors across cultures. More of a savory guy than a sweet guy, and I love IPAs and porters. Beer is a food group.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Being Seated
Being Unseated
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Income inequality, queer theory, my lovably dysfunctional family, the national debt, my personal debt, psychological astrology, scientific astronomy, agnostic spirituality, how much I hate the promotional machine that flooded my Facebook with Miley Cyrus's fucking tongue for what felt like an eternity in a boiling sulphuric lake

Chord progressions, voice leading, polyphony, balanced arrangements, rhythmic tension, keyboard and guitar tone, vocal blend, blah blah blah
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably having a cocktail after work and then cooking or ordering in. Maybe a short night out with friends. I don't hit da clubs much these days, because Saturday morning means preparing gallons of Bloody Mary mix with the rising sun, not sleeping in late.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am serious, there are plans afoot, and I'm waiting for the right time to execute them.

I am an astrologer who looks at it as a tool for personal development. If that seems ridiculous to you, please show yourself out.
You should message me if
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You consider yourself brave and thoughtful and truthful.

You are smart and funny and care about things beyond your own body, your own possessions, and your own circle.

Poly people welcome, but I'm (regretfully) not too comfortable with lady parts when it comes to the bedroom.