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40 Woking, UK Man


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 25-45
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, casual sex

My details

Last online
Nov 17
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), German (Somewhat), Welsh (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Mainly-gay guy in a happy polyamorous marriage with a bi girl (jenblacker), I'm also seeing another guy, who's happily married to his husband; they both helped Jenny and I move house. It works for us :-)

Politics and intellectual stimulation interest me, but I can be shallow too. I like languages and am more than happy to chat in French; my Spanish and German are okay, but sometimes a little stilted, my Welsh is nowhere near as good as I'd like it to be. I live in Woking but work in London, so if I meet anyone for a drink, it's likely to be there, not in Surrey.

J'aimerais tant avoir plus l'occasion de parler (ou écrire) en français. Donc, si tu préfères m'envoyer un message en français, je serais très heureux de le recevoir.
What I’m doing with my life
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I run a technical team at an ad agency in my day job. I'm also involved in a political transparency organisation and a technical NGO / geek politics organisation. I spend quite a bit of time contributing to Wikipedia, mainly in the area of mediæval European history, since you asked.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
procrastinating over what to put in boxes like this. Lemme get back to you...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My wife jenblacker
Our cats
The Internet
Intellectual stimulation
Sex (hey, I did say I can be shallow)

Though I reserve the right to change my mind here :o)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
politics, technology, marketing, sex, films, music…
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably chilling out at home with my wife and the cats, in front of trashy TV or a film.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a pretty open person -- sometimes more open than I should be, perhaps -- so if there's something you wanna know, just ask.

If you want something private about me, though, I have suffered from panic attacks for over 20 years. It doesn't always affect my day-to-day life, but it can be literally crippling.
You should message me if
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you think I sound interesting or you think I'll find you interesting. Or, y'know, if you think I'm hot and that I'd think the same of you.

Drop me a note!