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45 Seattle, WA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 40–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Graduated from university
Politics / Government
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Wow! Aren't we all brave putting ourselves out here? We're taking quite a risk in the hope of a rich, deep reward, aren't we --those of us interested in a long-term relationship? I have found that love is an interesting quest and not without some pain.

Anyhoo, I'm Paul. A balding blonde guy in Ballard.
I'm lefty-liberal, laid-back in my outlook but not flakey. I deliver mail in my neighborhood during the week. I'm politically aware and a conscientious voter.
-I enjoy "keeping it real" and making a sincere connection with people. I cuss frequently but I will censor myself upon request. Honesty is big to me, as well as respecting others' boundaries/space in order to let a relationship develop organically.
-If your outlook is YOLO & you pack your days with activities, I am not the guy for you and you are not the match for me. I don''t work out on a regular basis so I don't expect you to. But I do try to eat right and maintain my HWP. I want to look in the mirror & like what I see.
-Since we're all human, I tend to cut people slack but I don't suffer fools or narcissists gladly. I avoid reactionary upheaval & dysfunction. (Will the things that bother you today, matter in a year? I have to remind myself of that question too.)
-I enjoy creature comforts but I'm not going to kill myself to acquire them --plus I live in an apartment & it fills up with stuff pretty quickly.
-No kids of my own, but I enjoy their company: curiosity, laughter, optimism on a good day; pouting, sulking, cranky when it's not. I respect parents because I remember what a pain in the ass I was as a kid. But I'm a sweetheart now!
-My barfly days are over and I'm enjoying clarity & optimism in my life. I enjoy the company of light drinkers where it's not the focus of the socializing. A glass of wine with dinner works but if wine/beer-thirty/happy hour happens regularly, good luck to you. Dealbreaker for me.
-Exploring the Northwest is what I love to do. An open road with a map & a truck full o' gear & a tank full o' gas & an ipod full of tunes is heaven to me. Wanna ride shotgun?

I'm looking for a HWP woman who has the time, energy, and genuine interest in cultivating a relationship. She takes care of herself and her loved ones. She likes to laugh a lot. Nobody characterizes her as intense. She's curious about life. She wants to explore in a meandering fashion, like a river. She enjoys the outdoors, animals, kids, old people, current events, liberal politics, music, books, comedies, off-color humor. She's also assertive without being domineering, passionate, outgoing, thoughtful, tolerant, educated, stable, content.

As I see it, a relationship is a collaboration of two people interested in sharing a life together as equals. After the experience of a divorce, I know now that a relationship takes work: We team up to explore the world. We bring our gifts to the relationship and nurture it so that it grows into something beautiful. We give one another strokes along the way and offer comfort & safety. I have a lot of love to give and the right woman will see that, appreciate it, and reciprocate it. Until then, I keep putting myself out here in the hope that she's out here somewhere.

I’m not looking for you to create my happiness. I have experienced enough painful things, made enough poor choices, lived in a self-destructive way, done enough introspection, sought help from others, accepted myself for who I am, resolved to make better choices, done the heavy lifting, stabilized, hunted for happiness, and have found joy in life that I didn’t know existed. I know that it’s not in others. It is within me. I create my own happiness.

As I see it, love is a drug. Love triggers dopamine in the brain. It feels fantastic. And yes: I've broken hearts & had my heart broken (by e-mail no less!) in my dating adventures over the last few years. It sucks. But it's what you have to do to find The One. And what am I gonna do? Give up on love? Aww, hell no! You can't give up on love! It's the most powerful force in the universe. Thank god, it's regenerative! We all need it! We just wish it would show up a little sooner, right? And with the right candidate! Viva el amor!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Being a responsible, productive member of society.
Writing a daily gratitude list.
Yearning for a distraction/vacation from the hum-drum.
Keeping my eyes open for fun.
Working my mojo to charm a special lady friend.
Thinking --always thinking --'bout stuff.
Laughing at dumb shit I think or say or do.
Relaxing next to the Deschutes River when I can.

The dude abides.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
(I'm an ESTJ Personality Type if that helps.)

Affection, Intimacy, & Love (w/ the right candidate)
Clarity & Moral Support
Road tripping on my motorcycle or in my lil' truck.
Floating on a lake in summertime.
Pouring on the charm.
Chasing pretty women with problems but I'm learning.....
Blurting out inappropriate shit @ the worst times. Wait! That's bad.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
-A visitor from South Carolina said that I'm "very handsome." Awww.
-I was told recently that I'm better looking in person than my pics reveal. That's pretty flattering. : )

My sense of humor? Gregariousness?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Authors/Books: Aesop's Fables, Jack Kerouac's On the Road, just about anything by Hunter S. Thompson, some Charles Bukowski, Raymond Chandler, James Ellroy, Ernest Hemingway, John Steinbeck.

Movies: Cool Hand Luke, the Big Lebowski, School of Rock, Fearless, City of Lost Children, Rififi, Summer Hours, La Femme Nikita, Away We Go, Sideways, Blood Simple, Up in Smoke, Unforgiven, Dead Man, Dead Man Walking, At Close Range, The Crossing Guard, Little Miss Sunshine, The Fisher King, Repo Man, Kingpin, There Will be Blood, The Lives of Others, Out of the Past, American Beauty, Winter's Bone, Lock Stock & 2 Smoking Barrels, Snatch, the Sweet Hereafter, The Wild Angels, Kingpin, 44 Inch Chest, Sexy Beast, the Lord of the Rings series, Our Idiot Brother, In A World, Boyhood, Love is Strange.
Documentaries: Inequality for All, Chasing Ice, Happy, Why We Fight, Spellbound, Hoop Dreams, Dreams with Teeth, An Inconvenient Truth, the Aristocrats, No Impact Man, The Most Dangerous Man in America, The Times of Harvey Milk, The Wild Parrots of Telegraph Hill, Ralph Nader: an Unreasonable Man, Trudell, Trumbo, God Grew Tired of Us, American Movie, I Like Killing Flies, Buck, Hot Coffee, Beware Mr. Baker, Finding Joe.

Shows/TV: True Detective, The Wire, Breaking Bad, Varg Veum, the Larry Sanders Show, Frontline, Nova, Seinfeld, The Simpsons, Bob's Burgers, Barney Miller, the Phil Silvers Show, anything with Jonathan Winters or the 3 Stooges.

Food: Good coffee, grilled wild Pacific Salmon,
broccoli, red plums, Lattin's apple cider, Penn Cove mussels or shellfish in general, filet mignon, baby spinach salad, cherries, strawberries, honeycrisp apples, grilled BBQ, asparagus, Lil' Rae's cookies, apple pie, Odwalla mango tango or carrot juice.

Music: Peter Gabriel, Tool, Johnny Cash, Bruce Springsteen, Jimi Hendrix, The Beatles, Dave Mathews Band, Chris Whitley, Kings of Leon, Ray LaMontagne, Band of Horses, Howlin' Wolf, Nick Vigarino, the Meters, the Beatles, AC/DC, the Rolling Stones, Band of Horses, Hound Dog Taylor, Stevie Ray Vaughan, the Tragically Hip, the Pretenders, Faith No More, Soundgarden, Pearl Jam, the Screaming Trees, Mark Lanegan, Los Lobos, the Rev. Horton Heat, U2, Motorhead, Primus, Rush, Iggy Pop, the Church, Massive Attack, Sarah McLachlan, Kate Bush, Ella Fitzgerald & Louis Armstrong, Parliament & Funkadelic, Sting, Tom Waits, Radiohead, Morphine, Jeff Buckley, Marvin Pontiac, Cowboy Junkies, Miles Davis, the Stone Roses, the Black Keys, the Black Crowes, the Allman Brothers Band, Blues Traveler, Carl Perkins, Led Zeppelin, John Lee Hooker, ZZ Top, Queens of the Stone Age, INXS, REM, RATM, NIN, David Bowie, Bob Marley, Bob Dylan, RL Burnside,and some others.
(My musical taste is all over the place.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my glasses/contacts (I need to see you)
the moral support of others
laughin' about shit & shinola
my Bullshit Detector
the Northwest
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
lines from the Big Lebowski.
Low-key activities: dining out, movies, museums & art, Pike Place Market, farmers markets, live music, nature walks, camping, hiking, road trips, travel.
I'm curious to try snowshoeing or cross-country or downhill skiing since it's winter. Anything to get out of the city & into Nature!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
"Is this....what day is this?"

Maybe doing laundry. Chillaxing since I have to work on saturday. (The mail must go through!)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a land line and if I like you well enough, I'll give you THAT number.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
No one has characterized you as: ADD, OCD, Bipolar, insecure, neurotic, narcissistic, Bat-shit Crazy, an "adrenaline junky," a drug addict, a sex addict, an alcoholic, "having a lot of issues", "damaged goods," or a pretty woman with problems.