Anyhoo, I'm Paul. A balding blonde guy in Ballard.
I'm lefty-liberal, laid-back in my outlook but not flakey. I deliver mail in my neighborhood during the week. I'm politically aware and a conscientious voter.
-I enjoy "keeping it real" and making a sincere connection with people. I cuss frequently but I will censor myself upon request. Honesty is big to me, as well as respecting others' boundaries/space in order to let a relationship develop organically.
-If your outlook is YOLO & you pack your days with activities, I am not the guy for you and you are not the match for me. I don''t work out on a regular basis so I don't expect you to. But I do try to eat right and maintain my HWP. I want to look in the mirror & like what I see.
-Since we're all human, I tend to cut people slack but I don't suffer fools or narcissists gladly. I avoid reactionary upheaval & dysfunction. (Will the things that bother you today, matter in a year? I have to remind myself of that question too.)
-I enjoy creature comforts but I'm not going to kill myself to acquire them --plus I live in an apartment & it fills up with stuff pretty quickly.
-No kids of my own, but I enjoy their company: curiosity, laughter, optimism on a good day; pouting, sulking, cranky when it's not. I respect parents because I remember what a pain in the ass I was as a kid. But I'm a sweetheart now!
-My barfly days are over and I'm enjoying clarity & optimism in my life. I enjoy the company of light drinkers where it's not the focus of the socializing. A glass of wine with dinner works but if wine/beer-thirty/happy hour happens regularly, good luck to you. Dealbreaker for me.
-Exploring the Northwest is what I love to do. An open road with a map & a truck full o' gear & a tank full o' gas & an ipod full of tunes is heaven to me. Wanna ride shotgun?
I'm looking for a HWP woman who has the time, energy, and genuine interest in cultivating a relationship. She takes care of herself and her loved ones. She likes to laugh a lot. Nobody characterizes her as intense. She's curious about life. She wants to explore in a meandering fashion, like a river. She enjoys the outdoors, animals, kids, old people, current events, liberal politics, music, books, comedies, off-color humor. She's also assertive without being domineering, passionate, outgoing, thoughtful, tolerant, educated, stable, content.
As I see it, a relationship is a collaboration of two people interested in sharing a life together as equals. After the experience of a divorce, I know now that a relationship takes work: We team up to explore the world. We bring our gifts to the relationship and nurture it so that it grows into something beautiful. We give one another strokes along the way and offer comfort & safety. I have a lot of love to give and the right woman will see that, appreciate it, and reciprocate it. Until then, I keep putting myself out here in the hope that she's out here somewhere.
I’m not looking for you to create my happiness. I have experienced enough painful things, made enough poor choices, lived in a self-destructive way, done enough introspection, sought help from others, accepted myself for who I am, resolved to make better choices, done the heavy lifting, stabilized, hunted for happiness, and have found joy in life that I didn’t know existed. I know that it’s not in others. It is within me. I create my own happiness.
As I see it, love is a drug. Love triggers dopamine in the brain. It feels fantastic. And yes: I've broken hearts & had my heart broken (by e-mail no less!) in my dating adventures over the last few years. It sucks. But it's what you have to do to find The One. And what am I gonna do? Give up on love? Aww, hell no! You can't give up on love! It's the most powerful force in the universe. Thank god, it's regenerative! We all need it! We just wish it would show up a little sooner, right? And with the right candidate! Viva el amor!