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59 M Lafayette, CA

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 49–59
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 2:31pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Not at all
Catholicism, but not too serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids

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My self-summary
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bonus points if you can attribute these snippets:

cool gray city of angelheaded hipsters
love comes on little cat feet

Time to update the poetry: despite the timelessness of emotion in one, we share another feeling:

"Is love sympathy.
Is love gentleness.
Is love possessiveness.
Is love sexuality.
Is love friendship.
Who knows?
Maybe the rock knows,
Sitting diligently on earth,
Not flinching from cold snowstorms or baking heat.
O rock,
How much I love you:
You are the only loveable one.
Would you let me grow a little flower of love on you?
If you don’t mind,
Maybe I could grow a pine tree on you.
If you are so generous,
Maybe I could build a house on you.
If you are fantastically generous,
Maybe I could eat you up,
Or move you to my landscape garden.
It is nice to be friends with a rock!" ~ Chogyam Trungpa

A self summary implies telling you only my highlights; how inadequate!
thinker, reader, music lover, father, son, intellectual, hiker, laugher. oh, and humble! :-)

…it's only by spending time together that we can know each other….

"You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens.”

What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
working, enjoying, raising kids, being aware. I work in the financial district on New York hours. I do my best to leave my work at the office; it's not always possible. I am very involved in my kid's lives. But now that they are older, they are much more independent.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
spontaneous puns, switching gears, the Sunday Times crossword, getting from point A to B
The first things people usually notice about me
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my eyes. and an offbeat sense of humor
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Beyond the usual, like Leonard Cohen and the Beatles and the Shins, and dozens of others, this year I have seen each of these at least twice:

Jeff Campbell
Glen Phillips
Amber Rubarth
Megan Slankard
Colin Meloy/The Decemberists
Quiles and Cloud
Julian Muller

I am a huge fan of Michael Chabon and Andreas Camilleri, and Michael Ondaatje. I'll read anything they write.

( I knew I shared a birthday with Bob Dylan, but Michael Chabon shares it too! How auspicious!).

I am omnivorous, but prefer a little protein with an otherwise vegetarian meal.

A friend on Facebook nominated me to list ten books that have been meaningful to me. There are a few more that have been crucial to my life yet these ten hold a personal significance for me:

1. Winnie-the-Pooh, A.A. Milne. It was mine, my own book! And I had a record of Jimmy Stewart reading it, with that inimitable voice saying, “…under the name of Saunders.”

2. Just So Stories, Rudyard Kipling. An explanation of the world that made as much sense in second grade as anything I have heard since. A perfect book when one is ‘scruciating idle while on the banks of the grey-green, greasy Limpopo River, all set about with fever-trees.

3. Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, Roald Dahl. I picked this up at the Harrison NY Library, brand new in the Children’s section when it first came out. I was in third grade, and it opened a whole new world of fantasy to me, where anything might happen, as long as your grandparents were all in one bed and you all ate your cabbage soup.

4. Swallows and Amazons, Arthur Ransome. Yes, anyone could have a grand adventure

5. The Once and Future King, T. H. White. A week lost in the Arthurian legend, a tale of honor and avoidance of war if at all possible.

6. Steal This Book, Abbey Hoffman. A treatise on revolutionary action to stop corporate dominance.

7. Dubliners, James Joyce. A wonderful lesson on how language can be used to evoke a situation.

8. One Day in the Life of Ivan Denisovich, Alexander Solzhenitsyn. Despite the horror of a Siberian labor camp, beneath it all is a lesson on being presnt and in the moment, being as cheerful as possible, finding gratitude in a scrap of bread.

9. Myth of Sisyphus/The Stranger/The Plague, Albert Camus. Three books on existentialism that are gloomy as hell, yet necessary so that instead of slitting one’s wrist, one can whistle and dance walking down the hill to roll that stone back up.

10. Man’s Search For Meaning, Viktor Frankl. One of those books that ties so much together, not an answer, but a guide to one’s own learning and awareness.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
ears for the music that encourages me to sing along and dance through life

the sense of touch so that my face can feel the weather each and every day

eyes for the glory of the scudding clouds, the interplay of light on the water, the shaking of the trees in a breeze.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
who declares himself a Buddha

two recent quotes:

What we find in a soulmate is not something wild to tame, but something wild to run with. -Robert Brault


Grab her sometimes, and dance with her. With no music.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
at the movies, at dinner with friends, or hanging with my kids.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'll admit to you in private...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you agree that kisses are a better fate than wisdom

One person on here wrote, "I can be casual in jeans, or formal in a gown." My question: "can you be formal in jeans and casual in a gown?"