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59 M Lafayette, CA

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  • Ages 48–57
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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Not at all
Catholicism, but not too serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
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Has kids

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My self-summary
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cool gray city of angelheaded hipsters
love comes on little cat feet

Sometimes one has to update the poetry despite the timelessness of emotion in one, we share another feeling:

If one day it happens
you find yourself with someone you love
in a cafe at one end
of the Pont Mirabeau, at the zinc bar
where white wine
stands in upward opening glasses,

and if you commit then, as we did, the error
of thinking,
one day all this will only be memory,

as you stand
at this end of the bridge which arcs,
from love, you think; into enduring love
learn to reach deeper
into the sorrows
to come-to touch
the almost imaginary bones
under the face, to hear under the laughter
the wind crying across the black stones. Kiss
the mouth
which tells you, here,
here is the world. This mouth. This laughter. These temple bones.

The still undanced cadence of vanishing.
-Galway Kinnell

A self summary implies telling you only my highlights; how inadequate! thinker, reader, music lover, father, son, intellectual, hiker,'s only by spending time together that we can know each other....

"You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens.”

What I’m doing with my life
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working, enjoying, raising kids, being aware. I work in the financial district on New York hours. I do my best to leave my work at the office; it's not always possible. I am very involved in my kid's lives. But now that they are older, they are much more independent.
I’m really good at
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spontaneous puns, switching gears, the Sunday Times crossword, getting from point A to B
The first things people usually notice about me
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my eyes. and an offbeat sense of humor
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I finally saw Leonard Cohen a few months ago, and it's like someone who has been writing songs to the emotional soundtrack of my life.

I am a huge fan of Michael Chabon and Andreas Camilleri, and Michael Ondaatje. I'll read anything they write.

( I knew I shared a birthday with Bob Dylan, but Michael Chabon shares it too! How auspicious!).

I am omnivorous, but prefer a little protein with an otherwise vegetarian meal.

A friend on Facebook nominated me to list ten books that have been meaningful to me. There are a few more that have been crucial to my life yet these ten hold a personal significance for me:

1. Winnie-the-Pooh, A.A. Milne. It was mine, my own book! And I had a record of Jimmy Stewart reading it, with that inimitable voice saying, “…under the name of Saunders.”

2. Just So Stories, Rudyard Kipling. An explanation of the world that made as much sense in second grade as anything I have heard since. A perfect book when one is ‘scruciating idle while on the banks of the grey-green, greasy Limpopo River, all set about with fever-trees.

3. Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, Roald Dahl. I picked this up at the Harrison NY Library, brand new in the Children’s section when it first came out. I was in third grade, and it opened a whole new world of fantasy to me, where anything might happen, as long as your grandparents were all in one bed and you all ate your cabbage soup.

4. Swallows and Amazons, Arthur Ransome. Yes, anyone could have a grand adventure

5. The Once and Future King, T. H. White. A week lost in the Arthurian legend, a tale of honor and avoidance of war if at all possible.

6. Steal This Book, Abbey Hoffman. A treatise on revolutionary action to stop corporate dominance.

7. Dubliners, James Joyce. A wonderful lesson on how language can be used to evoke a situation.

8. One Day in the Life of Ivan Denisovich, Alexander Solzhenitsyn. Despite the horror of a Siberian labor camp, beneath it all is a lesson on being presnt and in the moment, being as cheerful as possible, finding gratitude in a scrap of bread.

9. Myth of Sisyphus/The Stranger/The Plague, Albert Camus. Three books on existentialism that are gloomy as hell, yet necessary so that instead of slitting one’s wrist, one can whistle and dance walking down the hill to roll that stone back up.

10. Man’s Search For Meaning, Viktor Frankl. One of those books that ties so much together, not an answer, but a guide to one’s own learning and awareness.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
two recent quotes:

What we find in a soulmate is not something wild to tame, but something wild to run with. -Robert Brault


Grab her sometimes, and dance with her. With no music.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
at the movies, at dinner with friends, or hanging with my kids.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'll admit to you in private...
You should message me if
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you agree that kisses are a better fate than wisdom

One person on here wrote, "I can be casual in jeans, or formal in a gown." My question: "can you be formal in jeans and casual in a gown?"