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44 M Evanston, IL

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5′ 7″ (1.70m)
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Mostly vegetarian
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
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Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats

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My self-summary
I'm a Jersey guy turned Midwesterner since arriving for college in the fab days of R.E.M. and U2 (Joshua Tree U2, that is! ... ). So, while I still have that candid East Coast personality, its all wrapped in a neat corn-fed package these days. Think of it as the difference between appreciating punk rock, and *being* a punk rocker. There's a lot of mellowing to that Jersey side once you hang out in "fly over" country for as long as I have. ;-) And I'm glad for it as well.

What else? If my age wasn't posted here online, I'd bet money you'd think I were ten years younger. And without a beard, its a slam dunk. And trust me, that wasn't always a blessing. In high school, I looked like a freshman for what seemed like forever. But, alas, there is good in everything, and as a 44 year-old, I guess I get to have the last laugh! Perhaps its that unique combination of good Irish genes, and the endless supply of wonderful perspectives I get from my youthful colleagues. Being older and working with young people has to be one of the coolest things ever. It really acts as a life-"preservative" in a sense.

A couple of extras about me: I believe the Chinese make some of the best films around, and think street food is a God-send. For me, fall is the best time of year, and I find music to be better than any high you'll ever experience. I speak my mind, yet am very open-minded. (what happened to these long-lost traits?), and find political correctness to be just that - political, and therefore lacking any real relevance. (Can you see the Jersey side here?!) ;-)

I love the little things about you that you don't notice about yourself, and enjoy being a gentleman. I'm an ever-learning musician, and unabashedly live my musical life whistling, and drumming on my steering wheel. A degree in music, and being a drummer, kinda' does that to you. ;-)

I suck at telling stories, but live for great one-liners, and I'd rather spend $177 bucks on the new Clash box set, than any single item of clothing; think David Letterman is the funniest man on earth; and that George Harrison was/is the best Beatle.

Gosh, that's a lot of stuff!

P.S. I'm okay with you putting your freezing cold feet on my thighs in bed to warm your toes. Actually, it's freakin' cold as heck, but, well, you know, it's all about sacrifices, and its good to have warm toes. ;-)
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a writer. (Can you tell with all this verbosity!?) LOL. But, I'm also an operations guy (and a musician!). Actually, I'm a lot of things, which is why my job is pretty darn cool. I handle all the marketing communications for a medical marketing firm in the suburbs, and work with a lot of crazy-smart get-stuff-done kinda' people. It's a great environment to participate in, and it's wonderful to be able to use so many parts of my personality in one cool gig.

Other than that, I'm trying to get myself back into some things I did when I was younger, like fishing for example, to bring me much closer to nature and self-sufficiency. I grew up in a semi-rural area, but love the city too dearly to really leave ... I'm trying to find that sweet spot somehow, and fortunately living in the Chicago area again makes it all possible.
I’m really good at
Listening, empathizing, and getting stuff done. Until colleagues started to call attention to these traits, I really hadn't put my finger on how central they are to my character. Then I realized that my entire life I've kinda' been that guy everyone feels they can talk to about anything ... the one who cares enough to listen, I guess.

The getting stuff done part, then, is just an extension of the first two traits 'cause usually that's why people come to me in the first place - they're stuck and can't figure out a way beyond a problem in their personal or work life. To me, at least, helping people get through that muck is one of the best, most rewarding experiences one can have in life.
The first things people usually notice about me
This is always a tough question, no?! I'm not sure - I never asked. ;-) "Hey, Jim ... when we first met ... ya' know ... what's the first thing you noticed about me?!" Ha! Silly. LOL. If I had to take a guess though, from an appearance standpoint, it would be my beard, if I'm sporting one at the time. If I'm sans beard, I'd say people are most likely to notice my friendly demeanor. While I'm not the kinda' guy who works a crowd, I can make any newbie feel like they're a part of the team in no time flat.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Oh, boy ... the mother-lode! Wow, okay ...

Books: I'm a voracious reader and usually have a few books checked out from the library at a time, not to mention a number on my Kindle app. Most of what I read is non-fiction, which is why I can read so many things at a time ... that's impossible for me to do with fiction, since the thoughts run so long. I love books about business and how to do things better, in general. When it comes to fiction, I'm a typical guy, I guess and lean toward spy or thriller stuff. Robert Ludlum has always been a favorite.

I used to own over 250 cookbooks. Yeah, I love to cook, and even spent time working as a pastry chef in Minneapolis. But, alas, after many a move, I decided to pair down, and now only own a few dozen. I miss them, but am glad I no longer have to rent a truck when I move solely because of all my darn books! ;-)

Movies: As with my choices in fiction books, I'm a bit of an action movie fan, but I also remain infatuated with foreign films, and have watched a bazillion of 'em. I've had the pleasure of spending the last 20 years of my life with close friends from Southeast Asia, so I am so influenced by everything Asian. The food, the music, the language ... everything. My parents like to jokingly call me the Caucasian Asian. My uncle was in Vietnam, which I think plays in my affection for that part of the world as well, and in 2010 I had the distinct honor to do all the research for a History Channel production about the war. It is my most proud career achievement to date. It's always funny to see that question about whether people like documentaries here on OKC ... hopefully one might appreciate watching that one, at least!

Shows? As in Broadway? Sure, that's cool. I'm from Jersey, and was in the theatre in high school, so I'm game for that. Anything goes. TV? Not so much, but friends keep suggesting I watch Game of Thrones, and I was among the many addicted to "Lost" as well.

Music. I can't imagine a world without music. I went to school for it, and worked in the music business for a number of years after graduating. It was as much fun as you might imagine. I love all types of music, and it can move me to emotions in seconds. Please like music. It's good for you. Believe it or not, some people don't!

Food. Hee ... okay ... the good stuff. Well, if you're read this crazy-long piece so far, you've seen that I was a pastry chef for awhile. That was a life-long dream, and I might still be doing it if I hadn't moved to Chicago some years ago (and if my toes hadn't gone numb in the process - all that standing in one place!).

Like most things I love to do, though, it didn't pay worth a lick, so ya' gotta' be smart too - I can always bake a mean cheesecake at home. But other than that, I truly love ethic food the most, and as you'd guess - Asian being my top fav. Remember that mention of 20 years with friends from Southeast Asia? That means some tremendously darn good food. Chinese, Indonesian, Thai, Singaporean, Malaysian, Vietnamese, you name it, I've eaten it, and cooked most of it. Find me a good bubble-tea shop with tables that *might* have been cleaned before you sat down ... with a hawker chef bustin' out some insanely good food dish and I'm in heaven. You would be as well. Trust me.
The six things I could never do without
The rain.
A dear friend.
Thought-provoking conversation.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to improve myself and the things I'm a part of, and any of the 10,000 business ideas I have running through my head on any given day. It's a curse, I swear.
On a typical Friday night I am
... probably enjoying a movie at home, and maybe screwing around on my guitar for a bit.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a wok in the trunk of my car. Seriously. With full implements.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 29–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You might like to see Dropkick Murphys with me in February.

And ... you've found a passion somewhere in life, and your musical tastes run the gamut from Rammstein to a good Ryan Adams track, to the latest band I have yet to hear. You love your family, but are independent enough to feel comfortable being away from them.

You'd recognize rudeness and a lack of manners more quickly than most, enjoy cooking, and love to try new foods. You encourage me, inspire me and teach me about things I never knew about or considered to be important. You don't find my below use of an old 50's term offensive, but recognize it in the affectionate way it is intended. Oh, and you think even my dumbest jokes are kinda' funny.

P.S. I love playful, goofy chicks. . . (there's that 'offensive' word.)

Message away!