Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
NOTE: Life circumstances demand that I become inactive on OKC for
the time being.
First, an explanation of the nom de guerre: I was not the
best-behaved child in the neighborhood, yet I was far from a
monster. I apparently heard this phrase frequently between the ages
of 3 – 6. The name “paha poiss” is Estonian for “bad boy” or, as I
recently discovered, evil man. I am rather sure that I am not evil,
but I occasionally present that way. I do have very liberal and
unconventional ideas on life, love and laughter.
Above all else, I am a hedonist. I expect to enjoy and savor life
for the time I exist; there are no do overs and no second chances.
Somewhat recently, I learned that there are many diverse sensations
with which one may attain pleasure, especially if one trusts one’s
partner(s). Having some experience in alternate sensualities, I can
offer myself asguide or companion. I wish to help others revel in
their own sensory experiences, so they too may enjoy their inner
hedonist. These experiences include, but are not limited to, touch,
music, food and drink.
Human touch – especially cuddling – is essential for mental health.
Cuddles do not always mean sex or anything more than just a cuddle.
It's human connection and nothing more. Some people need that
feeling to be happy. I for one am one of those people. It just
feels good to be held and to hold someone else. Girl/girl guy/guy
guy/girl or whatever other configuration you can come up with.(this
For almost all of my adult life, I was told that while I may love
many people, I can only be in love with one at a time. Over the
last 5 years, there have been a few very loving women who have
shown me differently. The belief that one’s “soulmate” can be all
and bring all one needs to a relationship is not as common in
practice as in theory. For this thing (polyamory, consensual
non-monogamy) to work requires truth, trust and openness. I am
currently dating someone who lives several hundred miles away. We
spend 15-20 days a year together; we have known each other for over
seven years and have been romantically involved for four and a
half. Her husband encourages our relationship.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
*** Addenda forthcoming sometime. ***
I have a job, two cars, a house, a large, goofy dog, and a
domineering small cat. I am calculating how I will survive
financially, once I stop working (January 2017 – I hope). I am
working on remodeling my house to make it mine again and I
participate in particular genres of performance art. I try to be a
good toy to my Chosen Family
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cookimg. I might have unfair advantage as I was gourmet cook and
chef for 17 years prior to current profession.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am not sure. If I could see with the eyes of others, it would be
easier to answer this question.My guess would be the dangling
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
• The Dune Series, The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings, just about
anything from James Patterson, Il Purgatorio (in English)
• The Usual Suspects, Sleeping With The Enemy, Fantasia
• The Ed Sullivan Show – with Topo Gigio, the little Italian mouse;
the original Saturday night live; Lexx, The History Channel
• Buena Vista Social Club, Lyle Lovett, Brandenburg Concertos,
Tchaikovsky’s 1st symphony (Winter Reveries), Brazilian jazz
• For health reasons, several entries no longer on diet, but they
are still favorite foods: Boullibaise, Foie Gras, Chicken Mole,
Sushi, Fresh Guacamole, Asparagus, Hard Whole Milk Cheeses,
Raspberries, Ratatouille, Toom Kah, Oysters Rockefeller, 1 1/2 inch
thick prime rib-eye steak
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
• Red wine
• Naked hugs
• Dark, rich, smooth, full-bodied, maduro wrapper cigar (but only 1
• Someone to adore and worship
• A varied music collection and something to play it on
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working on house, doing laundry, other domestic goddess stuff.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit will remain private
until grace, dignity, and ethics require that I divulge this thing.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You know what hetero-flexible means. You have experienced or wish
to experience Dark Tantra.
Who are you looking for?
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