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palecur

40 M Sunnyvale, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 11
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Married
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm in a polyamorous marriage. Polyamory means a lot of things to a lot of people, and I acknowledge the term can come with a touch of baggage. I'm not involved with anyone other than my wife right now, but I'm open to new friends.

I like to write (usually F/SF, with the occasional horror element). I read voraciously. I am always curious to hear new genres of music.

I find enthusiasm very catching -- I love hearing people who are passionate about things they do talk about it, even if it's not my hobby. I've talked writing with other writers, of course, but I've talked clay and glazes with potters, yarn with crotcheters, and security systems with cypherpunks.

I'm a pretty big dork -- I play video games, I watch anime, I sing on Rock Band with no sense of shame -- but I am happy to unplug, walk in the forest, and talk about the unseen things in our lives. Duty. Right action. The elusive nature of freedom. And then dive back into the world, because I love the world and all there is to see and do in it.
What I’m doing with my life
"All things strive." That's a line of dialogue from Hex, a fictional sort-of-computer in Terry Pratchett's Hogfather. For reasons I can't concisely articulate, that line resonates deeply. All things strive. So that is what I do.

I'm trying to shift my career onto another track. I'm kicking my creative furnaces, inching the fuel towards the pilot light.

"Plans can break down. You cannot plan the future. Only presumptuous fools plan. The wise man steers." Pratchett, again, from Making Money.
I’m really good at
"I'm an excellent critic! I automatically know when someone's done a bad job. Before you ask, yes, it's a mixed blessing." Achewood, August 1, 2005. Okay, not really. Pat's a jerk, and I hope I'm not.

I'm good at making media references. I'm good at talking. I'm good at listening, but it turns out that 'writing a lot of words about yourself' is a terrible way to showcase your listening skills, so I can understand if you're a bit skeptical about that one at this point.

I like to dance. I won't say I'm good at it -- I have no formal ballroom traning, alas -- but on a free-form floor I do what the beat tells me to, and a dance partner once said I'm good. So that's kind of a data point?

I'm good enough at turning Nerd into English that people pay me to do it professionally. I'm a technical writer by trade, which satisfies my technical curiosity and my love of language.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my long, curly hair or the shape of my eyes. At least, I hope it's one of those and not something like an unsightly stain or an open fly.

Oh, and I imagine they notice pretty soon that I'm a smartass.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Terry Pratchett -- I found it fascinating to watch his work evolve from humorist to satirist. Going Postal may be my favorite, displacing long-term title-holder Feet of Clay. While my brother, whom I love, is a Vimes man through and through, my kindred spirit in the Pratchettverse is, for better or for worse, Moist von Lipwig.

American Beauty was the first film I've ever seen where the uses of foreshadowing, symbology, and fancy tricks with narrative structure were used not to show us that someone was paying attention in film class, but because they were the best tools to tell this particular story. Astonishing work.

Kill Bill, to turn to a different bit of myth-making, is an excellent folktale about the ascension of a Fury.

Leverage is a deeply, deeply silly TV show, but it just manages to hit my brain's off switch every time and I manage to enjoy it as a consequence.

Titus, Better off Ted, and Pushing Daisies -- all too good to last. Pour out a 40 for them.

Madoka Magica may well be the finest 12 episodes of anime I've seen in 5 years. A serious deconstruction of magical girl tropes, and taut storytelling.

By contrast, Tengen Toppan Gurren Lagann is a deconstruction-by-hyperbole of the Burning Manly Vigor-style giant robot anime narrative, but done unironically and with a clear love of the source. It's a blast to watch.

I'm nuts for They Might Be Giants, Freezepop, and The Aquabats -- if they're in town, I try hard to get a ticket.
The six things I could never do without
Laughter. Touch. The presumption of adulthood. Sleeping in. Wordplay. Finessing the premise of the list.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The nature of fun.
The nature of happiness.
How to be happy -- it's not an intuitive process for most people, and learning how to be happy can be paradoxically not-fun.
The consequences of different definitions of fairness.

The externally visible results of those thoughts can sometimes look like a lot of goofing off, though.
On a typical Friday night I am
At someone's home. Often my own. Usually media is consumed, games are played, beverages are made, badinage is exchanged.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Ah, the classic OKC stumper.

I'm an embarrassingly picky eater. Olives and bell peppers are right out. I'm pretty much okay with sharing a lot of stuff, but you're going to have to ask.

I have what might be the worst transdar in the Western Hemisphere -- every trans person I've met, I had no idea until they told me (often over drinks). Apparently, if you present as a particular gender, I will believe you.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–60
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You know what polyamory is and you're ok with dating a married fellow who practices it.
You're at least a little nerdy.
You can put up with or enjoy a good deal of snappy wordplay, conversational tangents, and the occasional groaner pun.