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paleking

53 Andover, MA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 36–52
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Oct 22
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English, German (Poorly), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
On my oddy knocky, sorta ...

INTP lite, ectomorph-mesomorph hybrid. Bookish (emphasis on "ish"), irreverent, sardonic, male mammal, software engineer with a healthy sense of The Absurd. Sincere, honest (sometimes painfully, never hurtfully), tangential, and as open as a book (an open one that is). Mostly harmless. A bit reserved though easily drawn out with small effort, and occasionally delightful. It's said that I'm under-confident (one can only hope). As an atheist son-of-a preacher man I continue to be preoccupied with The Big Questions of Life, the Universe, and Everything. Also a bleeding heart liberal, with nihilistic tendencies (think Slavoj Žižek).

I've been called dark whatever the hell that means; my kids ask why I always listen to sad music. But I submit that I am a massive barrel of laughs.

With the possible exception of the Boston Marathon and Olympic track, I don't watch sports. Let me rephrase that, I loathe the entire modern sports culture (though it is a fascinating phenomenon worthy of study, from an anthropological POV). I similarly regard cars and related mania as unfortunate facts of life. I grew up in the area but don't have a Boston accent (though I do a wicka pissa imitation). I do not wear baseball caps. FYI BTW FWIW.

And though I do of course think I'm unique, complex, eclectic, paradoxical and so on (and let's not forget: normal) further reflection reveals this to be, to my simultaneous horror and relief, illusory.

Favorite spots on earth include anywhere above the tree line in the White Mountains, the island of Manhattan, and any place resembling a bookstore.

I'm easy going, unfussy, virtually unoffendable, without an agenda, and respectful and kind; looking for similar - for friendship, companionship and or beyond, for conversation, activities, hiking, drinks, food, et cetera.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Continuing to continue to pretend my life will never end. Oh, and beekeeping.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Curiosity. Reading. Software. Running. Listening. Relearning Guitar. Juggling. Being on time. Hiking (aka walking). Vi. And beginning sentences with And, But, So, and Or.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Eyes. Hands. Diffidence. Quietude.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music:
The Beatles, David Bowie, Joni Mitchell, Elliott Smith, The WHO, Radiohead, R.E.M., Jeff Buckley, Pink Floyd, Andrew Bird, Nick Drake, Simon and Garfunkel, Bob Dylan, Leonard Cohen, Tori Amos, Tom Waits, Elvis Costello, John Lennon, Led Zeppelin (Totally), Beck, Cocteau Twins, Portishead, Talking Heads, Zero 7, Gomez, Thievery Corporation, Flaming Lips, Brian Eno, Brian Ferry, Roxy Music, Warren Zevon, Bettie Serveert, Leo Kottke, Soundtrack Of Our Lives, Sufjan Stevens, Sigur Rós, American Music Club, Beethoven, Satie, Debussy, Puccini, Rodriguez

Movies:
Her, Children of Men, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Adaptation, A Serious Man, My Dinner With Andre, Lost In America, American Beauty, Examined Life, Wall-E, Lost In Translation, Diva, Almost Famous, Stop Making Sense, What Happened Was, The Royal Tenenbaums, Synecdoche, Brief Interviews With Hideous Men, Little Miss Sunshine, A.I., Full Metal Jacket, Being John Malkovich, Fight Club, Welcome to the Dollhouse, Somewhere, Brideshead Revisited, Crimes and Misdemeanors, Manhattan, Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, Spirited Away, Never Cry Wolf, Good Will Hunting, Equus, Risky Business, Being There, West Side Story

TV, Interwebs, Et cetera:
Curb Your Enthusiasm, Daily Show / Colbert, The Simpsons, The Office (US), Dexter, Breaking Bad, Fawlty Towers, Mad Men, Cosmos, The Proof, TED.com, Radiolab

Books:
The Wisdom Of Insecurity, American Pastoral, A Clockwork Orange, Good Old Neon, Betraying Spinoza, The Blank Slate, Infinite Jest, Hitch-22, The Library of Babel, I Am A Strange Loop, Gödel Escher Bach, The Glass Bead Game, Steppenwolf, Candide, Darwin's Dangerous Idea, The Brothers Karamazov, God Is Not Great, The Stuff of Thought, Brideshead Revisited, The Picture of Dorian Gray, Notes from the Underground, The Selfish Gene, The Poisonwood Bible, The Vanity of Existence, For the Time Being, A Supposedly Fun Thing I'll Never Do Again, Consider the Lobster, This Is Water, The Man Who Was Thursday, Hamlet, Macbeth, King Lear, Othello, Confessions of a Philosopher, Lolita, The Importance of Being Earnest, Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, Why I Am Not a Christian, The Art of UNIX Programming, The Monstrosity of Christ, The Nothingness of Personality, The Catcher in the Rye, John Updike, Flannery O'Connor, Jorges Luis Borges, Philip Larkin

(I don't really care what kind of music you like - well, I care because I'm curious, but it doesn't matter is what I mean - if you don't like music at all though, then that does not compute. This sentiment applies elsewhere.)

Words:
abattoir, aperitif, bathos, belletristic, bonhomie, cacophony, casuistry, crepuscular, desultory, diaphanous, doleful, ennui, evanescence, fantods, fatuous, gimcrack, halcyon, hapax legomenon, inchoate, insouciance, jejune, ken, lapidary, languid, lexicographical, limn, minatory, mordant, nugatory, obsequious, palliative, parsimonious, prandial, prolix, pulchritude, quiddity, quotidian, recondite, saturnine, senescence, shibboleth, stentorian, taciturn, torpor, truculent, umber, verdant, vermillion, wan, xeric, yttrium, zephyr

Numbers:
0, 1, 7, 42, 144, 32767, n, ∞
(Also: 4 8 15 16 23 42)

Quotes:
If you have a good conscience then you're kind of worthless. — Avital Ronell

The world is my country, science my religion. — Christiaan Huygens

An infinite time has run its course before my birth; what was I throughout all that time? The answer might be: I was always I; that is, all who during that time said I, were in fact I. — Arthur Schopenhauer

When all possible scientific questions have been answered, the problems of life remain completely unanswered. — Ludwig Wittgenstein

Be good and you will be lonesome. — Mark Twain

Aim above morality. Be not simply good; be good for something. — Henry David Thoreau

The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a Heaven of Hell, a Hell of Heaven. — John Milton

Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you will cease to be so. — John Stuart Mill

Hello, hello, hello, hello, goodbye, goodbye, goodbye, goodbye, that's all there is. And the leaves that are green turn to brown. — Simon & Garfunkel.

The truth will set you free. But not until it is finished with you. — David Foster Wallace

It always seems so righteous at the start. When there's so much laughter. When there's so much spark. When there's so much sweetness in the dark. — Joni Mitchell

Feel no shame for what you are. Feel it like a waterfall... — Jeff Buckley
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books
Music
Wine
Irony †
Poetry
The White Mountains
Coffee ††

† Though we often seem to be drowning in it.
†† Yeah, seven.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Consciousness, Evolution, Morality, Books, Words, Phonemes, Ontology, Franconia Notch, The Singularity, Software, Spinoza, Schopenhauer, Relativity, Thanatophobia, Suicide (clinically-slash-philosophically speaking that is), David Foster Wallace, Palindromes
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Reading & c.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
(1) I hate the Happy Birthday song, Larry David being my hero for refusing to sing it. (2) I may be slightly face blind - might be why I keep visiting your profile.
You should message me if
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You're into hiding the sticks and stones and feeding other people's parking meters. And at least a malenky bit horrorshow groodies (kidding! ... mostly).