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  • Ages 33–63
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 8:10pm
Relationship Type
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Post grad
Doesn’t want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I love it when October returns and the fog rolls back in. I make spicy, velvet soups and absurd casseroles and flamboyant puddings. I have a short attention span. I never use the word "spiritual" to describe myself or my interests. I'm INTP, excessively literal, and poly. Poly meaning I date whomever and whenever I want, and you get to do the same. I mean of _course_ you do. I feel silly even specifying that. And I'm not interested in package deals: The only circumstance under which I can imagine myself dating a couple is if I happened to like both members enough to want to date each of them independently. And if you happen to be David Mitchell and Victoria Coren, message me. Now. Please. Package deals aside, my general approach to life is far more both/and than either/or.

Chances are extremely good that I won't know what you're feeling or thinking or wanting until you tell me. With words. And I don't expect anyone to know what I'm f/t/w until I tell them. I can only tell you the truth of myself as I understand it.

It's unusual for me to find myself attracted to a slender person. Call it what you will; I have my tastes. And my tastes will more'n'likely sidle up and flirt if you're a little on the squishier side. And beardy. Not that I expect any of you women to be beardy. Bears encouraged to apply.

The man who was my partner for 14 years is now my best friend. I've watched friends go through difficult break-ups, and feel incredibly lucky that mine was so peaceful and friendly. That doesn't mean it was easy or painless- far from it- but it was a hell of a lot less so than it might have been.

I like things that make my hands and feet warm. And soft things. Sometimes my cat makes me weak with laughter, thereby thwarting my attempts at curmudgeonry. I am enthusiastically involved in the local handbell-ringing community; I sight-read well so lemme know if your team needs a sub. Mosquitoes think I'm the tastiest thing going, so I'm far more inclined to hike in the city than the woods, and my interest in camping approaches zero. My interest in certain video games, however, approaches unhealthy. I walk to work every day, quilt in spurts, and go to bed with books. I darn my own socks, and once, a friend's, in exchange for brunch. I finished pastry school in June of 2012, and then went right back to full time at my library job with renewed enthusiasm. Last year I made wedding cakes for friends. There might be steady baking work in my future, but no concrete plans yet.

I'm also of the opinions that a) I have zero obligation to reply to your message/favorite/chat/whatever, and b) you have zero obligation to reply to mine. If you're of the opinion that not bothering to acknowledge an attempt at OKC contact is rude, well then that will be a point of contention.
What I’m doing with my life
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Making ice cream. (Current batch: earl grey with ginger and candied peel. Last batch: blackberry ginger lime.) Enjoying the sunshine and the pretty trees and the photography opportunities. Wandering around singing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading maps. There was this one time where I was reading maps every day for weeks and I started _dreaming_ maps. Cool.
There was a time, back in the aforetime, the Dreaming, the ancestral ancient, when I was passable at DDR. I still love it to pieces and will happily play at any time.
Also finding chanterelles, but that's only useful in the fall. I don't know how or why that happened, but I love it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Origins of Virtue, Cry the Beloved Country, 100 Years of Solitude, Ursula LeGuin, Harsh Cry of the Heron, A Softer World, Of Mice and Men, Natalie Angier, Trainspotting, Kavalier and Clay, Gilgamesh, Billy Collins, the Old Man and the Sea, How Tom Beat Captain Najork and His Hired Sportsmen. I like being read to. And reading to.

Neil deGrasse Tyson's Cosmos Is the most beautiful thing i've ever seen on tv, and one of the most beautiful things I've ever seen, period. The Marzipan Pig, Only Yesterday (Takahata), Laci Green, Firefly, the Killing Fields, the Blues Brothers, Hedwig, Adventure Time, Shimotsuma Monogatari, Lewis, Christopher Hitchens, Madeline Kahn, Richard Ayoade, Samurai Champloo, Farscape, Cave of Forgotten Dreams, Torchwood, Tony Gatlif, Fantastic Mr. Fox, Flambards, Love and Death (Allen), the fourth season of Being Human (UK, duh), the first 4 seasons of Futurama.
Beethoven, Maddy Prior, Talking Heads, Ella Fitzgerald, Visqueen, Scott Joplin, Anais Mitchell, Llan de Cubel, Leonard Cohen, Branford Marsalis, Another Perfect Crime, Sit Ubu Sit, Cake, Stephin Merritt, Prokofiev, Satie, Paul Simon, Finlandia (Sibelius), Hart Morris, The Half Brothers. Rutter's The Falcon. The oboe.

Ethiopian, sushi, raspberries, mushroom pizza, ice cream, buckwheat, whiskey, grapefruit, garlicky hummus, solid dark chocolate, pancakes.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
An oven. Outside. Naps. Hydrogen peroxide. Fingernail clippers. Bandaids. Apples. I could live without a bathtub, but I'd be grumpy about it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
All the shit I don't see/encounter/grok because I'm white, cis-gendered, and not poor. How to not be a jerk. How to learn from my mistakes and not keep making the same ones over and over. What I can and can't know is true and how to tell the difference. Whether and how to express what I think is true.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My cosplay collection keeps growing, but it's hard to tell from the outside because I usually pick characters who just wear street clothes. Malory Archer out of context, after all, is just a woman in a devastatingly stylish suit dress and pearls. Jack Harkness is just a guy in a big coat that mostly covers up his suspenders. You see what I'm getting at. Also I have been known to indulge in the FanFiction.