Chances are extremely good that I won't know what you're feeling or thinking or wanting until you tell me. With words. And I don't expect anyone to know what I'm f/t/w until I tell them. I try to be as clear and communicative about my feelings and expectations as I possibly can, and I'll tell you the truth of myself as I understand it, and I want the same from you.
The only circumstance under which I can imagine myself dating a couple is if I happened to like both members enough to want to date each of them independently. I'm not interested in package deals. That situation aside, my general approach to life is far more both/and than either/or.
It's unusual for me to find myself attracted to a slender person. Call it what you will; I have my tastes. And my tastes will more'n'likely sidle up and flirt if you're a little on the squishier side. And beardy. Not that I expect any of you women to be beardy. Not that it would hurt your chances.
I spent all these years thinking I couldn't be butch because I have and like my long hair and have no desire to cut it off. Oh! *chuckle* I crack me up.
The man who was my partner for 14 years is now my best friend. I've watched friends go through difficult break-ups, and feel incredibly lucky that mine was so peaceful and friendly.
I like things that make my hands and feet warm. And soft things. Sometimes my cat makes me weak with laughter, thereby thwarting my attempts at curmudgenry. I am enthusiastically involved in the local handbell-ringing community. Been ringin' for 30 years and still love it. Mosquitoes think I'm the tastiest thing going, so I'm more inclined to hike in the city than the woods, and have very little interest in camping. I walk to work every day, quilt in spurts, and go to bed with books. I darn my own socks, and once, a friend's, in exchange for brunch. I finished pastry school in June of 2012, and then went right back to full time at my library job with renewed enthusiasm. This year I'm making wedding cakes for friends. There might be steady baking work in my future, but no concrete plans yet.
I'm also of the opinions that a) I have zero obligation to reply to your message/rating/chat/whatever, and b) you have zero obligation to reply to mine. If you're of the opinion that not bothering to acknowledge an attempt at OKC contact is rude, well then that will be a point of contention.