Not judging my friends. One of my close friends recently told me,
"I love that I can tell you anything and I never feel judged by
you," and yes, I asked and she was happy to let me quote her here.
hmm, is that weird to quote a friend? Ha! well, I'm weird!
Things I enjoy, (am really good at?) vary. Here are a few:
Karaoke. Well, mostly just singing, karaoke is merely the vessel
that takes me where I wanna go. Ive found that singing helps me
release feelings in ways I never anticipated. I'm grateful for song
in my life!
Walking. I walk when I am out and don't want to go home, which is
often. I take pictures of odd things. I've started noticing hidden
street art, which has been interesting. I'm discovering that SF has
way more creative depth then I ever imagined. I'm not sure if it
can be found if one is looking for it, but it's there, and it's
Movies. I really like going to the theater alone and watch movies
none of my friends want to see. Mostly stupid comedy movies and
sappy love/ romantic comedies and dramas. I love watching movies at
home in bed, and I dig marathon watching of awesome TV series on
Netflix! I like horror. You get 8 more points if you do too. It's
SO hard to find people to go with me, and I don't like going alone
to horrors. Its not that I'm overly scared, but I can startle easy,
and prefer to have a friend around for that.
Boundaries. Yes I have them, and yes you're going to need to have
them too. I have found that when I set new boundaries with people,
in the moment it may suck, but in the long term, that friendship is
always better off for it. Because I beleive in communication. And
yes, I am aware almost everyone says that. Basically, if someone
does something that I feel uncomfortable with, and it continues to
bother me, I let them know. I'm not mean about it, nor do I want to
tell anyone how they are wrong for hurting me or effecting me
negatively. My intention is always about offering the other person
the opportunity to allow reflection of their actions. It takes a
lot for me to stay mad if you're open to honest communication that
sometimes may be painful in the moment, yet friendship
strengthening in the future, it'll be worth it! Of course, I'll
expect the same from you! It's important to me that you are a
confident (or willing to learn) communicator. Not mean or
aggressive, just self awarness and confidence are huge pluses.