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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–37
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 1:12pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
What's the least pompous way to fill this out?

I'm one to never stop learning, whether it's about myself or the world around me. A college degree still leaves a lot to be desired, and while I'm all for taking a month or two to recharge, mental and physical stasis is death's waiting room.

Relating to that, intelligence is the most attractive quality in a person. You decide what number two is.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
A lot, actually. I taught myself to code and changed careers to software engineering not long ago, and since I lack a computer science degree, a combination of playing catch-up and keeping up with new technologies takes up more than the 40 hours a week in the office. I'm also rededicating myself to health and fitness, having joined a gym across the street from work and cleaned up my diet. Finally, after years of reviewing music, I'm writing my own (in the past couple years, I've become more interested in creating than critiquing).

Oh, and I'm steadily building my German speaking skills in preparation for a trip next spring. I know they speak English in the major cities, but I'd like to at least try to meet them halfway.

I am also learning to get to bed early like an adult instead of staying up late doing any of the above.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing, figuring out what celebrities people look like, problem solving, finding parking and pulling in perfectly (I'm a hit with dads), remembering specific dates (could've made a great history major, if history interested me).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I look like someone they know, usually their cousin, friend or (somewhat awkwardly) ex-boyfriend. Where are all these other "me"s? So far, I haven't found one.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music (current): Titus Andronicus, The Cramps, Swans, Scott Walker, lots of soul
Music (all time): R.E.M., Foo Fighters, PJ Harvey, At The Drive-In, Neko Case, The Minus 5, Pixies, Wilco, GBV, Husker Du, Radiohead, The Raveonettes, Jesus and Mary Chain, Ani DiFranco, Deerhunter, and the type of power-pop that I can only call "uncle rock" (Cheap Trick, Shoes, The Smithereens, Material Issue, Fountains of Wayne). Basically if you know that John Waters quote about books, I feel that way about music, too.

But also books. Favorites include Our Band Could Be Your Life, 1984, American Psycho, Tipping the Velvet, Choke, Does Not Love.

Films: Help!, Good Will Hunting, Six Days, Some Like It Hot, No Country For Old Men, Happiness, Blue Velvet, Mulholland Drive and Lost Highway (ok, anything David Lynch).

TV: Parks and Recreation, Arrested Development, Broad City. Seinfeld remains the all-time favorite, because it's good for your soul.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Twitter (for news...seriously)
well-written software documentation
toothpaste (or if I'm not home, Listerine breath strips)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to look put together/"adult" and punk at the same time.
self-deception (preventing).
extremism in social activism.
code. all of the codes.
the music i'm making.
what my next tattoo will be (and when).
gender/race/social issues.
is this avocado firm enough?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably catching a punk/garage rock show with friends, either at a bar or a DIY venue. My job can wipe me out by the end of the week, so I'm increasingly flopping on the couch with a book once I land.
You should message me if
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- There's something you're extremely passionate about, even if i don't share that same passion. Tell me all about it and why you consider it as essential as breathing.

- You have specific music tastes and roll your eyes when people say they listen to "everything" (there's a Wonka meme there somewhere...)

- Apathy toward sports doesn't matter to you. Every sports channel could fall off the face of the earth tomorrow and I'd be more than ok with it.

- You want to help me break in my antique store croquet set this summer.