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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–37
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
In 30 seconds or less? I'm an optimistic person who believes you should never stop learning, whether it's about yourself or about the world. A college degree still leaves a lot to be desired.

Relating to that, intelligence is the most attractive quality in a person. You decide what number two is.

I love trying a new thing, even if I later decide it wasn't for me. Some people just drift through life with little more than drunken nights and Will Ferrell movies - not me. Why not do something exciting and different?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
A lot, actually. I taught myself to code and changed careers to web development not long ago, and as continuing education is ever-important in this field, that passion takes up more than the 40 hours a week in the office. I'm also rededicating myself to health and fitness, having just joined a gym across the street from work and throwing the garbage out of my diet. Outside of those things, I make time for planning and working toward creative endeavors.

I am also learning to get to bed early like an adult instead of staying up late doing any of the above. A morning person, I am not.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing, figuring out what celebrities people look like, problem solving, finding parking and pulling in perfectly (I'm a hit with dads), remembering specific dates (could've made a great history major, if history interested me).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I look like someone they know, usually their cousin, friend or (somewhat awkwardly) ex-boyfriend. Where are all these other "me"s? So far, I haven't found one.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music (current): Mingus, Johnny Cash, King Tuff, Swans, Motorhead, Royal Trux, Queens of the Stone Age, Chicago garage rock on local cassette labels.
Music (all time): R.E.M., Foo Fighters, PJ Harvey, At The Drive-In, Neko Case, The Minus 5, Pixies, Wilco, GBV, Husker Du, Radiohead, The Raveonettes, Jesus and Mary Chain, Ani DiFranco, Deerhunter, and the type of power-pop that I can only call "uncle rock" (Cheap Trick, Shoes, The Smithereens, Material Issue, Fountains of Wayne. The last of which should not be thought of as a one-hit wonder but masters of the three-minute pop song). Basically if you know that John Waters quote about books, I feel that way about music, too.

But also books. Favorites include Our Band Could Be Your Life, 1984, American Psycho, Tipping the Velvet, most of Chuck Palahniuk's stuff. Currently reading Morrissey's autobiography, and my reading list is about 12 books deep after that. Life's too short not to always have a book going.

Films: Help!, Good Will Hunting, Tourfilm, No Country For Old Men, Blue Velvet, Mulholland Drive and Lost Highway (really, anything David Lynch has done). Happiness is also a favorite, so if you've seen others by Todd Solondz, go ahead and send me a recommendation in all caps to convince me it's a must-see.

TV: Parks and Recreation, Arrested Development, Weeds, Mad Men, Broad City, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, Garfunkel and Oates. Seinfeld remains the all-time favorite.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
besides money, oxygen, water and love?

Twitter (for news...seriously)
well-written software documentation
toothpaste (or if I'm not home, Listerine breath strips)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
self-deception (preventing).
extremism in social activism.
volunteering as a solution to being less wrapped up in my own life.
making my own music.
what my next tattoo will be (and when).
which buddhist school of thought is right for me.
how to take myself simultaneously more and less seriously.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably catching a punk/garage rock show with friends, either at a bar or a DIY venue. My job can wipe me out, so I'm increasingly flopping on the couch with a book once I land.
You should message me if
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- There's something you're extremely passionate about, even if i don't share that same passion. Tell me all about it and why you consider it as essential as breathing.

- You have tattoos. Combine that with glasses and a love for music/film/books, and you've got a pretty good thing going.

- You want to do things that don't involve alcohol. Believe me, I'm not a prude or a priest, and you can't argue with a well-crafted beer, but there's so much more to do in the Chicago area beyond bar hopping.

- Apathy toward sports doesn't matter to you. I like playing a pick up game of this or that in the summer, but watching and following sports never grabbed me.

Also, I haven't updated my answers to OkCupid's questions since I started this profile in 2011, and I don't feel like taking the time to make sure each one still reflects my views. That said, if you are a smoker, live more than 40 minutes away from Oak Park, or are dead set on having kids, move along. Nothing to see here.