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paradigmkissses

22 Brooklyn, NY Cis Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Orientation
Queer
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly other
Smokes
When drinking
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Other
Status
Single
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Polish (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
~in flux~
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Full time intergalactic stray kitten. Figuring it out, pushing my boundaries, healing, loving, adventuring, laughing at myself/ how ridiculous this existence is.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
over analyzing, being really snarky, cuddling, fire spinning/hooping, baking delicious things, telling you like it is, dancing myself into other realms, rocking cat ears, speaking in a russian accent, getting into trouble, pep talks, not sleeping, being present, befriending cats.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Really pale. Weird mermaid/fairy hair. Jewelry in my face.
I was also once told that I looked like "Tori Amos as Delirium." But, that's not usually.

"If Sara has anything, it's opinions"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Favorite authors/poets: Wislawa Szymborska, Robert Heinlein, Margaret Atwood, David Foster Wallace, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Kurt Vonnegut, Tom Robbins, Aldous Huxley, Ingrid Jonker, James Joyce, Brenda Shaughnessy, Italo Calvino, Salman Rushdie, Herman Hesse, Isabel Allende, W. Somerset Maugham, D. H. Lawrence, Shinji Moon, Orson Scott Card, Franz Kafka, Leo Tolstoy, William S. Burroughs, Robert M. Pirsig, Ray Bradbury, Allen Ginsburg, Philip K. Dick, Jane Austen, H.P. Lovecraft, Kate Chopin, Vladimir Nabokov, Thomas Mann, George Orwell, Ken Kesey, John Irving, Jack Kerouac, the list goes on and on and on.

I watch a lot of movies... http://www.imdb.com/list/K1uUNI_dAQ4/

Music: If it inspires movement or thought, I like it. Diggin on baile funk/ cumbia/ tropical bass vibes mostly right now.

I get foodgasms regularly, particularly from: all the spicy things, mothafuckin' AREPAS!, cheese, mushrooms, gelato, indian, thai, figs, beef bourguignon, couscous, mortadella, arugula, falafel, beets, spinach, pork buns, seafood/fish, raspberries, guacamole, dates, sushi, croissants, empanadas, baguettes, I JUST CAN'T GET ENOUGH.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order:
- mountain air/trees
- ritual
- tenderness/intimacy
- movement
- deviance/decadence
- cheese
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
-movement, using the body as a tool for releasing emotional distress/trauma
-gender/feminism/sexuality/intersectionality/etc and how to talk about these topics in more accessible ways
- time travel
- how can i become a tree?
- starting a pierogi food truck

"VULNERABILITY

is not a weakness, a passing indisposition, or something we can arrange to do without, vulnerability is not a choice, vulnerability is the underlying, ever present and abiding under-current of our natural state. To run from vulnerability is to run from the essence of our nature, the attempt to be invulnerable is the vain attempt to become something we are not and most especially, to close off our understanding of the grief of others. More seriously, in refusing our vulnerability we refuse to ask for the help needed at every turn of our existence and immobilize the essential, tidal and conversational foundations of our identity.

To have a temporary, isolated sense of power over all events and circumstances, is a lovely illusory privilege and perhaps the prime beautifully constructed conceit of being human and most especially of being youthfully human, but it is a privilege that must be surrendered with that same youth, with ill health, with accident, with the loss of loved ones who do not share our untouchable powers; powers eventually and most emphatically given up, as we approach our last breath.

The only choice we have as we mature is how we inhabit our vulnerability, how we become larger and more courageous and more compassionate through our intimacy with disappearance, our choice is to inhabit vulnerability as generous citizens of loss, robustly and fully, or conversely, as misers and complainers, reluctant, and fearful, always at the gates of existence, but never bravely and completely attempting to enter, never wanting to risk ourselves, never walking fully through the door." - David Whyte
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dancing myself into other realms
Self-care time with books and writing and stretching
Cuddle puddling with my friends as we plot to create a more conscious, sex positive society
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I enjoy spending time with myself the most.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You feel most at home in the woods and want to go camping/hiking/play in waterfalls together.

You read obsessively, dance well, and have a good bullshit detector.

Intimacy and feelings don't put you off, perhaps you even find vulnerability sexy.

You value authenticity and accountability.

Please teach me Spanish? *edit: I now speak a little Spanish and would love to practice*