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48 • London, UK • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 35–50
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last Online
- Dec 12
- 5′ 9″ (1.75m)
- Body Type
- Mostly anything
- Trying to quit
- Other, and laughing about it
- Leo, but it doesn’t matter
- Dropped out of space camp
- Rather not say
- Relationship Status
- Relationship Type
- Mostly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), French (Poorly)
I live an open, honest life, If you want to label it a little more, try anarchist, hacker. If you don't know what they are or even if you think you do, look them up you might be surprised.
I would like to find someone else to share in my life either a life partner or something more transient but I as I look around here most people I like are either not available, or not attractive to me.
Living the dreams, the little ones: a nice place of my own, good food, interesting books (I read about three or four a week), great days and nights out and cosy nights in.
I live in South East London and like the area having lived on an off there for the last 15 years but I am not attached to it.
At work, I build and administer high end IT systems, usually it is fascinating work and I love the thrill and buzz of making programs, processes and people work, it isn't my life but a good expression of it. I run three teams across 2 continent I mentor the juniors and support the seniors. So I am not a stereotypical low social skills geek. I do the hardcore technical stuff too but don't expect me be able to explain it, at least not unless you know your BGP from your PGP. How. who and what I do at work is a refection of who I am. I am lucky to be able say that.
I scuba once or twice a year, love the macro stuff my ideal dive is only to 5-15 meters watching the life of the reef unfold before me.
I love anything on two wheel bicycles and motorbikes, I have a special place in my heart for the sound and feel of a Triumph triple and the sound of a single cylinder Enfield as you pass slowly through a village in India.
A few years I got lazy and put on more than a few pounds but I did the New Year gym resolution thing and surprisingly I have kept at it. So now I go to the gym or pool 2-3 times a week and walk an hour a day slowly I am reaching my ideal weight but I am probably worse than most women when it comes to chocolate.
I have a nice bum and good legs.
I have kind eyes.
Apparently I am easy going and easy to talk to, to be honest I am usually a bit too wrapped up in moment and the project of the moment to notice.
I am currently a voracious reader, I read far too much mediocrity on my Kindle but like a parched man finding an oasis I love it when I come across a good book, I just finished reading Anne Charnock A Calculated Life best book of the year for me. Quality SCFI Ian M Banks, Alastair Reynolds and Ken Macleod top my list there (why are all three Scottish)? Get me reaching for the big bucks. I also like Kafka, The Trial over Metamorphosis Camus The Plague over the outsider. I love his struggle to be right and do right. and Satre. I have read quite a bit of a philosophy over the years Neitzsche and Taoism stand out, the first for telling you how to get there and the second for being there. I keep promising myself I will read more contemporary literary fiction but I rarely see something to catch my fancy. Maybe you can help?
Film is a big love and has been since I was a freaky little quiet kid watching Saturday Matinee double bills on BBC 2, all the b&w and early colour Hollywood classics. I am a big fan of contemporary Korean cinema, they are producing a lot of really creative and original material. Anything Studio Ghibli, people need to be reminded how to be good to each other. European cinema always has some thing interesting to watch. Don't expect me to be an art house snob however, sometimes I just want people running around beating on each other preferably with spaceships and ray guns.
Proper Chinese food rocks Dim sum. Also a big fan of Thai and South Indian cuisine Dosa's are great.
Watching strangers be kind to each other,
Fast bike rides,
Interesting things to make and fix.
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