I have a large personality, compelling sometimes, but am working on creating more space for others when I'm around.

I just turned 40, and 40 is quite different from what I expected it would be when I was 25: I'm far more grounded, yet less certain. And I think that's a great thing--dogmatism is unbecoming as we get older, but far too common. I'm certainly less married than I expected I would be. And I'm great with that. I'm interested in actively constructing a life without assumptions, making conscious choices about what I really want to do. And I have vague yet powerful notions of doing no harm. (Buddhism is an important part of my life)

All easier said than done...

PS I'm involved in a non-sexual, complex relationship with someone I love. I believe I can love other people too. But if you're interested in someone completely unattached, I might not be the right hottie for you.

yoga. walking. biking around super casually. eating exceptional food. consulting for money. thinking. trying to pay attention.

Well, I'm great at all the things I'm doing with my life, just add kissing.

Wait, I take it back--truly paying attention is hard, and I'm working on it, not yet good at it.

My height (5'11), my energy, my non-traditional attractiveness.

Helpful and not so helpful IMers have led me to believe that I should perhaps be more specific here: I am not interested in semi-anonymous hook-ups; I am not interested in computer sex with strangers; I am not interested in being part of a lie (i.e. you're married, you're not poly, and you're looking to cheat). I am interested in getting to know someone a bit, taking my time, checking the chemistry, maybe having an intense relationship, maybe just having fun. But there are no short-cuts through the awkwardness of dating, even if you're not looking for something serious....