Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm trying this once again. I met two amazing people online over
the last ten years, including one I thought was the love of my
life. Now I'm looking for the next, maybe the last.
In relationships, I feel like though I may be far from perfect,
there are a lot of things I've worked on, and it has really paid
off. I'm a good communicator, I've developed a pretty good
emotional IQ, and I always remember to tell people when I think
they're good at something.
I am open, loving, and looking
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm the office manager for a non-profit that organizes the biggest
party in the city. This came about after working at a university
for nearly 20 years, it's a pretty major career change, but I'm
really proud I was able to survive and adapt in this crazy economy.
You can teach an old dog new tricks!
Outside of that, I put an enormous amount of my energy and time
supporting a local animal shelter. Specifically, I do a lot of work
with cats - getting them adopted helping people find the right cat
for them, and everything from nail maintenance to training new
volunteers how to (safefully) show them to the public. It's really
rewarding, but means I need to plan my weekends weeks in advance,
which means that impulsive trip to the Farmers Market needs to be
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening to people. Restraining cats. Listening to people while
restraining cats. Defusing tense moments between people.
Reinventing myself. Helping people reinvent themselves.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm tall, and I can be shy and a bit silly. Buy me a drink, and
I'll warm up fast, but will get even sillier.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My tastes are too eclectic to list them all, but here's a few.
Ikiru, Reds, Talk to Her
Books: I'm really into short fiction. In that regard, so favorite
authors in that regard are Tobias Woolf, F. Scott Fitzgerald (I
know he's old school, but read "Babylon Revisited" some day and
tell me he's not still relevant, Drown. As for longer works: Love
in the Time of Cholera, The House on Mango Street, High Fidelity,
many, many more.
Music: The Sundays (I made a Pandora station out of them, it's
awesome!), The Beatles, PJ Harvey
, Radiohead, Los Lobos,
Juliana Hatfield, X, The Pretenders, I've discovered this band
officially crazy for.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A soundtrack of some sort, an internet connection, some form of
written communication, water, a way to physically relieve stress,
like running, swimming, or heck, even [sex], and of course,
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
[Cats], about how all human communication fails just a little bit.
How to perform better at my job, How to improve that, how to
improve myself. How I can possibly play a role in making this world
a little better. How I'm going to make a living doing this in this
beautiful but ridiculously expensive city.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Thinking about volunteer gig on Saturday! Often on a bar stool,
making notes and thinking what lovely Mission District take out I'd
like that night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I sometimes fear intimacy as much as I desire it, kind like the
cats I work with.
You should message me if
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you want to take a chance on something, believe that relationships
are something you have to work on daily to make them successful. My
busy season at work has ended, and I'm willing to make the time to
really get to know someone special.
I guess I should add the 800 lb gorilla to the conversation - my
sexuality. At my age, it's not a phase I'm going through. It's what
and who I am. I'm very public - I have to be (I think it's cool and
kind of odd that someone wrote me into an article in Wikipedia)
considering my job. Anyone crazy enough to be with me has to be
willing to live with this.
There's a huge difference between a passing attraction and a loving
commitment to one person. It's infinite.
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