If you are looking for an intelligent, passionate, liberal, physically fit, active, financially secure, chivalrous, romantic guy, I think that is a pretty good snapshot of who I am. If you're looking for a "bad boy" (why do women gravitate to those guys, I don't get it), then stop here, that's not me. To paraphrase Mary Poppins, I'm generally normal and nice in every way. But I don't believe nice guys finish last. Quite frankly, I'm awfully happy in my every day life, so if this is last, sign me up! Going through the breakup of my marriage resulted in a journey over the past 7 years that, with a lot of hard work, has allowed me to truly mature and grow to the point where I really like the person that I am and have never been happier. I'm not "looking for love" (yes, I love using quotes) because I need it, I'm looking for love because I believe it can make a good life better. But, because I am happy, I'm not looking to settle. I've got very high standards, I believe I deserve someone extraordinary (doesn't everyone?) and I'm confident the right woman is out there for me. I'm going to keep looking until I find her. I enjoy the experience of being with a woman that keeps me on my toes, challenges me to be the best I can be, the flirtation, the intellectual stimulation and of course, the physical part of the relationship too. I've been told that I'm a very good/attentive lover and I must agree :o). I've always enjoyed romance and being able to do things for the woman in my life, whether that be surprising her with a special evening, helping her with a project around the house (I'm quite handy I must say) or just some flowers and showing her that she is important to me. I find the simple act of holding hands to be incredibly intimate. I believe kissing is a highly undervalued activity. I think a good relationship involves time dedicated to kissing... a lot.
I'm also passionate about life and the things that are important to me. I think passion is very important in living life to its fullest. Politically and socially I'm quite liberal. If you don't believe climate change is real and/or that nothing we can do will make a difference, then we probably won't get along. I've been known to get out of line at the grocery store if I've forgotten my reusable grocery bags in the car. You see, I'm not a "paper or plastic" kind of guy. I prefer to find my own path and often don't accept the options given to me. Other attributes that describe me? Strong integrity and assertive, I stand up for what I believe in. I consider Fox News, the Tea Party, Rush Limbaugh and Sean Hannity to be among the worst things our country has to offer and I think it is important to speak out about such things. I exercise 5-7 days a week and really enjoy playing tennis, biking, hiking, golf, among other activities. I’m a strong communicator, respectful of women, a good cook (I've been known to make a mean Chicken Marsala with Creme Brulee for dessert), I enjoy watching baseball (I'm a huge baseball fan), going to movies, concerts (particularly outdoors like at the Greek theater or the Mountain Winery).
If you're a single mom and wonder how you could possibly find the time for dating, I know how you feel (well, not the part about being a single mom, the part about finding time for dating...but then, you probably already know that).
I'm a single dad (just in case that wasn't clear), and I'm not sure it is possible to love being a parent more. I'm truly blessed. I love being a dad and I put a lot into it. Throw in a full-time job and what is left? Well, for me, I only have my kids 50% of the time, and I would like to spend some of that time with a woman who is attractive, intelligent, confident, kind, has a good sense of humor (a wicked one is even better), liberal, open minded, good communicator, doesn't expect me to read her mind, can be direct, likes to have fun, doesn't take herself too seriously, enjoys going to movies, concerts, good meals, snuggling by the fire, can appreciate satire. Is that asking for too much? Well, if you're a big fan of the Daily Show then we're almost guaranteed to get along well.