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starlingstumble

42 Sacramento, CA Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 20–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:07am
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Native American, White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Anything
Smokes
Trying to quit
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from law school
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Afrikaans (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), Italian (Poorly), Chinese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Avid conversationalist, voracious reader, casual dresser, passionate kisser. ENFJ, Kinsey 1.5. Friendly, open, quirky, affectionate, sassy. Always ready to laugh.

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I don't have a primary partner right now and am not quite ready for one yet (going through a divorce), but I hope to find one someday. Right now I just want to meet some terrific people and treat them nicely with the hope of being treated well in turn. I'm not looking for one exclusive relationship--I have a lot of love to share. I'm also not out for indiscriminate one-night stands. I'm honest and reliable. I look for the same in a partner, whether it's a short-term or a long-term relationship. Seriously, couldn't we all use more honest love and respect in our lives?

So:
~Please don't message me if you're just trying to find a quick fuck.
~Please don't message me if you're seeking a woman with whom you can have a ongoing but clandestine extramarital affair.
~Please don't message me if you're only looking for an exclusive long-term relationship. As I indicated above, I may one day be ready to commit to a serious relationship, but right now I'm still trying to come to terms with the collapse of my exclusive, long-term, extremely disappointing marriage.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Teaching middle school English; parenting a six year old; reading books; lurking on the internet...I should really find more fun stuff to do.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Oy gevalt, where do I begin?

That was a slightly lame joke. There are many things I'm terrible at and only a few at which I excel.

I'm an experienced, devoted teacher.
I love trying new things and I handle transition well.
My organizational skills are superb.
My close friends say I'm caring and generous.
I'm emotionally brave.
I'm resilient.
I like to believe I'm an excellent communicator.

And here's one I told a correspondent I'd explain in my profile:
I'm skilled with language mechanics, e.g. grammar, spelling and punctuation. I adore a well-written story, article or letter. My appreciation for well-written words is mirrored, for good or ill, by my lack of appreciation for poor writing. I'm tolerant of occasional errors, but I'm not patient with careless writers.
There you go. Forewarned is forearmed.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
When I'm happy and relaxed, it's my smile. A good thing, too--straightening these teeth was costly and time-consuming.
Otherwise, it's probably the third arm sticking out of the side of my head.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I mostly read novels. Some of the many authors I've idolized over the years are John Irving, David Foster Wallace, Mark Twain, John Steinbeck, Charles Dickens, Jonathan Lethem, Neil Gaiman, Agatha Christie, Amy Tan, Terry Pratchett, Stephen King, Orson Scott Card, Anne Tyler, Sue Grafton, Max Brooks, Lois Lowry, Douglas Adams, Arthur Conan Doyle, Brady Udall, Jonathan Franzen . . . I enjoy some nonfiction as well, especially if it's written in a narrative format (Oliver Sacks and Bill Bryson come to mind). Memoirs are cool too-- Augusten Burroughs and David Sedaris, for example.

Beatles, Queen, Guster, Old 97s, Sex Pistols, Jonathan Coulton, Fistful of Mercy, The Heavy, Green Day, Joseph Arthur, Theuns Jordaan, Johnny Cash, Le Mystere de Voix Bulgares, The Decemberists, Black Flag, Depeche Mode, Loney, Dear, Kings of Convenience, Sweet Honey in the Rock, Paul Simon, Sting, The Pogues, Prince, Ani DiFranco, Leonard Cohen, Gogol Bordello, The Ramones, Rufus Wainwright, Me First and the Gimme Gimmes, Tom Waits et al.

Sushi, Indian food, pizza, frozen yogurt, BBQ...

I have eclectic taste in theater and a strong preference for complex but clear character development in films. Also, I adore documentaries. But actually, I haven't watched many new movies in the past several years. What are your favorites? Will you share them with me?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
clean water, a variety of nutrients, sleep, shelter, other people, books, sex, the internet, affection, hope. Yes, that's a list of ten things. Yes, I could live without all but the first three or four. But would I want to? Categorically, no.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how happy I am to be home in California. I lived in Beijing from November 2010 through July 2014. It was a valuable experience in many ways, but I'm glad it's over.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
waiting for you to call me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I bite my fingernails.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
First, please DON'T write a message consisting solely of "hi", "what's up", "how are you", "good evening", or anything similarly insipid. If you can't do better than that, I don't think our communication would be mutually rewarding.

Second, please don't message me if you can't reliably differentiate between "your" and "you're", "there", "their" and "they're", or "then" and "than".
(I mean, unless you actively want me to correct you all the time. Trust me, I will.)

On the other hand, if you make reference in your first message to something I've written about, I WILL value the time you spent reading my profile and will want to talk with you more. This is especially true if our match or friend score is 80% or higher.

So...why SHOULD you message me?

~if you'd like me to accompany you to a play, concert, reading, dance performance, street fair, or any other interesting event.

~if you want to play board games together.

~if you want to show me your favorite movies.

~if you want to drink beer with me.

~if you're a responsible single parent who can offer suggestions and guidance. I'm pretty new at this.

Most importantly, you should message me if you believe it's important to question your own assumptions and are often ready to laugh without restraint.