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Let me use this space to clear something up for people who are unclear on the concept of polyamory (fellow poly folk, you can skip the rest of this answer):
Polyamory comes from the Greek poly (many) and the Latin amor (love). So polyamory refers to loving more than one person. It is a fairly new term, coined in the early 1980's. The definition is currently very fluid. Descriptions of polyamory include:
~ loving more than just one person at a time. This love may be sexual, emotional, spiritual, or any combination thereof, according to the desires and agreements of the individuals involved.
~being involved in (or desiring) multiple romantic and sexual relationships in an open and honest fashion.
~ various relationship styles of responsible non-monogamy.
Polyamory is about love, defined not by societal constraints, but by the parameters that individuals agree on. There are many different configurations of relationships in polyamory, but they have in common honesty and consensuality. A polyamorous person may have more than one person that s/he considers to be a "spouse". A polyamorous person may have one "primary" partner and other "secondary" or occasional partners. While some polyamorists are straight couples who agree they can have other lovers, polyamorists can be singles, triads, quads, networks, tribes, bi, gay, and transgendered folk: any person can be polyamorous.
The key is that polyamory is NOT based on (or accepting of) lies or deception. Polyamory is not the same thing as indiscriminately sleeping around. It is totally predicated on loving honesty. A polyamorist is dedicated to emotional transparency.
What relevance does this have to my profile, you ask? Well, as indicated in my first paragraph, I'm polyamorous. I'm simply NOT looking for one exclusive relationship--I have a lot of love to share! I don't have a primary partner right now and am not quite ready for one yet (going through a divorce), but I hope to find one someday. Right now I just want to meet some terrific people and treat them nicely with the hope of being treated well in turn. Couldn't we all use more love, respect and honesty in our lives?
~Please don't message me if you're just trying to find a quick fuck.
~Please don't message me if you're seeking a woman with whom you can have a ongoing but clandestine extramarital affair.
~Please don't message me if you're only looking for an EXCLUSIVE relationship. Commitment is great; exclusivity isn't for me. As I indicated above, I may one day be ready to commit to a "primary" relationship, but right now I'm still trying to come to terms with the collapse of my marriage.
But please DO message me if you want to TALK about polyamory. It's a really interesting topic and I'd love to engage in open-minded discussion about it with new friends.