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paul16451

39 / M / Bisexual / Available

San Jose, California

The Skinny

Last Online
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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 10" (1.77m).
Body Type
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners, Casual sex
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Taurus and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Artistic / Musical / Writer
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Doesn’t want children
Pets
Likes dogs and Owns cats
Languages
English

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I am compassionate, sensual, and warm.

My Self-Summary

Hi! Well, let's see...lets start with physical description. 5'10", 168, brn/brn, average build. Married a wonderful lady in 2002. We're one of those ex-swinger couples who got tired of the meaningless sex a few years ago and joined the polyamory circle instead, which we find much more appealing. Mostly I'm here to meet like-minded open-minded poly people for friends, possibly more, but like to take things slow. We love new friends and dinner guests, my wife is an awesome cook.

Personally, I have a high interest in musical theater and am currently the musical director of choice at a local theater that played an important part in my growing up. No children of our own and don't plan on any; I consider my work at the theater to be enough for me that I make a very fulfilling difference in the lives of many children. My other interests include sci-fi books and special-effects movies that help you get away from reality. My favorite TV shows are Babylon 5, Star Trek TNG, Xena Warrior Princess, Hercules Legendary Journeys, and Six Feet Under. Also own a cat, even though the animal lover in me primarily goes to canines.

Love to do puzzle books and read erotica.

I'm a great intimacy lover, and don't necessarily want sex in all my relationships. I value and appreciate the rare woman who will respond positively to a request to cuddle with me naked with lots of safe touch, snuggles, and cuddles and no expectations beyond, and have it be nothing but that.

I do have a healthy sexuality when I want it, and watch porn once in a while and even have a few bits on my computer (all with wife's full knowledge and consent.) I believe solo sex is as important as sex with your partner of choice and have a few male toys to help myself out.

Though I'm primarily attracted to females, I like to fantasize about males sometimes and would love to meet a guy that I could primarily be friends with first and have the occasional bit of sexual fun with, only oral and touch though, I am SO not into anal and never will be.

So there's the ramble with all the info...hope to hear your response soon!

What I’m doing with my life

I'm looking right now to advance in the corporate world, something having to do with auditing or running my own document control system. In between I teach musical theater to children, or, at the very least, play keyboard in an orchestra pit for anyone who will have me. I can honestly say that without a show (present or future) on my schedule, my life doesn't feel quite right, except when I want to take a break after an exceptionally busy run. I'd love it if I could make a living out of music, but am also realistic about being able to pay the bills.

I’m really good at

Playing the keyboard, hugs, getting along well with most people, several computer applications, energy exchange through physical touch.

The first things people usually notice about me

My eyes or my smile.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

a) Any of the Narnia chronicles, The Phantom Tollbooth, Robert Heinlein, Terry Pratchett, Douglas Adams, Mercedes Lackey, Piers Anthony. any non-kinky erotica gay, bi, or straight
b) Blues Brothers (original, not the remake!), Rocky Horror Picture Show, Repo The Genetic Opera, nearly anything Star Trek, Kung Fu Panda, Terminator 1&2, and my horribly guilty pleasure, Red Sonja (yes, king of all bad medieval sorcery movies!)
c) Broadway musicals (of course!), 60s-80s.
d) Pizza, clam pasta, clam chowder

The six things I could never do without

Musical theater, the people I love, hugs, my computer, friendly dogs, and warm summer days.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

What my future will bring me, and how to live in the moment.

On a typical Friday night I am

Musical directing a performance somewhere, or socializing with a group...or on a date with someone special.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I have to think about this one. Ask me in person, I will likely tell you. It always gets to that anyway, doesn't it?

You should message me if

You wish to. I'm always willing to meet someone new!