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paullmurray

34 M Herrin, IL

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 25–45
  • Located anywhere
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:17pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of two-year college
Job
Other
Income
$40,000–$50,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Read my blog at http://essentialdivorceddad.blogspot.com/

A friend of mine says I accentuate my flaws too much without showcasing the positives about me. This is what she says:

But you're not showing them who you are, you're just listing perceived flaws about yourself, which most of them are not really about you. You are not your job. You are not your apartment. You are not your messy truck. You are not some staunch hardcore atheist who won't have discourse about Jesus or Buddha or Gandhi or Allah or Muhammed or Ganesh or Whothefuckever. You are actually NOT ambivalent or without ambition or drive, it's just that right now all your ambition is focused on being the best damn Dad in the world for Brad. But you are not just these things. You're also a really sweet guy who, if I asked him to right now, would jump in his truck and drive three hours without a pause to consider having to go to work tomorrow if I told him I needed him. You're the guy who quotes Stephen King and Ray Bradbury and Kurt Vonnegut and John Steinbeck and... remind me another time soon that your choices of favorite authors is very male-centric. Anyway... you're the guy who is passionate about making his woman feel adored and beautiful and cherished and safe. You're the guy who is so damn funny I have practically choked laughing at his jokes and stories. You're the guy who may not have the greatest job in the world but damn if he won't drag himself to it day in and day out to keep the fridge full for a growing boy with a very healthy appetite.
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to be a good dad, working, reading, writing, and trying to master the art of brevity.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at being me no matter what the world might bring or think, being Dad, helping others with their problems while ignoring my own, and I'm quite good at the physical aspects of a relationship.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My beard, my glasses, my hat, and how I'm not worried about what people notice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Grapes of Wrath, Farenheit 451, Huck Finn, The Green Mile, Catch 22
Movies: Citizen Kane, The Green Mile, Shawshank Redemption, Inception, Reservoir Dogs
Music: Alan Jackson, Johnny Cash, Bruce Springsteen, Aerosmith, Loretta Lynn
Food: pizza, pasta, BBQ, Vietnamese when I can get it, anything I've never tried.

I limited myself to five in all these categories because otherwise the list would never end.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My son
My family
My friends
Books
Coffee
Time to think
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Too many things too much.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Mostly spending time with my son hiking or browsing used books or seeking out the nearest White Castle
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've had a vasectomy.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you fall somewhere between wanting to be friends with benefits and wanting to move in together tomorrow. If you have the patience to deal with dating a single father. If I've messaged you. Even if it's to respond with not interested, it's only polite. :-)