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37 Palo Alto, CA Man, Cis Man

Man, Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–47
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 1:59pm
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Post grad
Might want kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm really bad at talking about myself... wait a sec, no I'm not. I had a non-traditional upbringing so I can talk about myself for hours. But I'm more interested in you. Which isn't to say that I'm not an open book, I am.

Partly because I didn't grow up in this country (and other reasons as well), I don't fit into American culture quite right. The things that seem to drive other people, don't interested me very much. So I'm attracted to people who want something different (a phrase I borrowed from a friend).

If you're smiling in your profile picture, I probably "liked" it. I like a nice smile. Don't take it too personally.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to walk the line between serving the causes I believe in (science, justice, community) and more worldly concerns (financial security, having a roof over my head, moderate debauchery). Come to think of it, Silicon Valley makes threading the path between those poles pretty precarious. With respect to worldly concerns, I don't have many expensive tastes but I do enjoy a good Hendricks and Tonic.

I know I'm very ambitious because I download way more podcasts than I can possibly listen to. And I know I'm an optimist because sometimes I watch the current Simpsons in the hope that they might be bearable again.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.

Making salads. I win friends with salads.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My name. People usually hold out for a little while but eventually give in and ask "is that your given name?" One of my co-works loves, and often quotes, my standard response: "yes, *sigh* my parents were hippies". To tell the truth, that's the short answer.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
A few examples, carefully selected to express certain traits or class markings, as is done on this kind of site.

Words: saccharine, callipygian, gestalt, parasol (Spanish).

Books: Lord of Light, Use of Weapons, Discipline and Punish, Name of the Wind, Terry Pratchett, Baby Rudin, not Ayn Rand.

Since Jonah Lehrer broke my heart, I'm suspicious of writers like Malcolm Gladwell and Daniel H. Pink. As a scientist with a working bullshit detector (especially of my own), I'm suspicious of too good a story. That being said, I did like Daring Greatly and So You've Been Publicly Shamed.

Movies: Her, Blade Runner, Juno, Moon, Secretary, Flight Club, Moonrise Kingdom.

Numbers: 1000000007 and 1000000009.

TV Shows: The Daily Show, Colbert, Black Mirror, QI, Babylon, Doctor Who.

Music: VNV Nation, Florence + the Machine, M.I.A., Orbital, The 9th, Underworld, Stravinsky.

I'm not above listening to some saccharine pop music, whatever comes up on the radio when I'm driving. Judge away.

Food: Thai, Chaat, Ethiopian, Salads (see above).

Don't make me choose. I love them all equally... Not really, I just tell them that to get them into bed.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything. When I was small, someone told me I think too much. I looked at them sideways and said "Hmmm, interesting idea, I'll think about that." While that story is apocryphal, I do mull over ideas in my head and run scenarios pretty much non-stop. I've been thinking (ha!) I should meditate to help me let go and clear my head.

Is it fewer rational numbers but less real numbers?

Sometime I fantasize about starting/joining an intentional community based on some weird mix of crypto-crunchy-anarchist-mad-scientist ethos.

I can't decided if I'm more attracted to intelligence, kindness, or capability. Good thing I don't have to choose eh?

What if all my character traits are rooted in my insecurities?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I reference Lily Allen in the next section.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... you do care about clever and you do care about funny.

If you consider the ethical ramification of what you do (in work and play) and you put your actions where your morals are.

If you can come up with a better introductory message than "Hi :)". If you can't find anything in my profile that resonates with you, then I've done a bad job and you should probably move on to the next five million men in your list.

If you're going to make a big deal about "their" vs. "they're" and "it's" vs. "its", at least have the good sense to know those are not confusions of grammar.

If you know why is a raven like a writing desk.