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Last online
Apr 23
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Not at all
Christianity and it’s important
Post grad
Has kids
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Hi! Thank you for getting this far. To start, I'm passionate about sailing and the marine environment. I like marine sciences, oceanography, eco-psychology, Holosync technology, ocean sailing, the Silva Mind system, American History, Politics, peace and justice. I love singing (I'm a tenor in a very good regional chorus and am thinking about joining a barbershop group in New Bedford), reading mysteries. I'm fascinated by the Law of Attraction and energy healing like EFT. I may have read every self help book ever published! I'm a news junkie, relying on three daily newspapers, PBS, NPR, and the BBC. My undergraduate degree is in journalism and American History. My graduate degree is an M.Div. from the Episcopal Divinity School in Cambridge, with a concentration in pastoral care and counseling, as well as liturgics. I am NOT ordained and have no plans to be. My ministry is out in the world, outside the church. Currently, I support myself working as a hospice chaplain and through my writing.

I have a dream -- no more than a dream -- a plan in its very early stages. It is to purchase a sailboat (perhaps a Valiant 50, or something similar) and sail her around the world, collecting data about the marine environment and writing about the voyage and what we find. If it's the last thing I ever do, I am going to make that happen. It would be nice to find a partner with whom to share this adventure and vocation.

Politically, I'm a progressive Democrat, but I've been known to vote for moderate Republicans on occasion. I always try to find common ground with those who do not always agree with me politically. (That's gotten more and more difficult in recent years, I might add). I'm very interested in social justice, human rights, and equality for all people. I'm also a veteran (USAF) and proud of that, though I've come to believe that no war is necessary or winnable. It annoys me that I get tears in my eyes when I hear "America" sung.

I have a wide range of friends from many different walks of life -- rich, poor, straight, gay, young, old, PhDs and high school graduates. I grew up in a wealthy town, but have lived in a depressed city, and felt like I had my feet in two different worlds, neither of which understands the other. I feel very lucky because I could leave where I was and in 15 minutes be in a whole other world. Many people in that city cannot.

I can relate to almost anyone. Sometimes I think about the people I like from the different parts of my life, and realize some of them would dislike each other, or simply have nothing in common. It makes me good at reconciliation -- helping people find common ground.

I tend to have more women friends than men, and and hope my partner will be comfortable with that. I'm faithful and loyal, almost to a fault. Having said that, I am very sensitive to my partner's feelings, and would make adjustments if it ever became an issue.

My spiritual life is very important to me, and I need a couple of hours every day for quiet meditation and prayer. While I'm Episcopalian, I tend to take the best from many religions and spiritual traditions, including the A Course in Miracles and the 12 Steps. I chose not to be ordained, partly because I think the people who need ministering to most probably don't go to church. My spiritual director once told me that the institutional church is too dark for me (all that stained glass) and its vision is very limited. I need to see the horizon, and I can't within the walls of a church.

I'm also worrying now that all this stuff about spirituality will scare a really good partner away. So let me add that I'm not religious, and I don't expect anyone else to be as interested in spiritual things as I am. In fact, I have many issues with institutional religion.

This is another way of saying I'm kind of a complicated person who is still in process of becoming. As for my ideal partner, she can be of any denomination, religion, or none -- but I would hope she understands that there is some kind of force or energy that's larger than we are with which we co-create our lives.

I'm very concerned about the environmental degradation I see all around me, especially in the oceans and bays. Someone told me my ministry is to the sea and its creatures, and maybe they're right. I do volunteer work with the Coalition for Buzzards Bay in the summer, acting as a "Baywatcher," and I'm a regional coordinator for the
Ocean Conservancy's annual International Coastal Cleanup

Personality Type:
Myer-Briggs: INTJ or INFJ (right on the line between the two)
Enneagram: 9 (others sometimes say 2)
Sign: Cancer

That all means I'm highly intuitive, endowed with good insight, trustworthy, introspective sometimes, caring, have a strong sense of justice, a good listener, counselor, and mediator. It also means I'm an incurable romantic, and while I love adventure, home and hearth are very important to me as a place to go out from and come back to. I also tend to act from my heart rather than brain, and I'm trying to find some balance between the two. The downside of being a 9 on the Enneagram is that I tend to be self-forgetting, and that gets me into trouble sometimes.

People tell me I have a very good sense of humor on the wry side. I tend to think it's quirky because I sometimes see things to laugh about that others don't. Life is mostly a riot.

Being part Irish, I have the gift of blarney. It's not BS, but the gift of speaking the truth of my heart in a gentle, sometimes witty, way. I don't know where it originates, but I sometimes am surprised by what comes out of my mouth. I can't help it. I am also convinced the little people actually exist, though I haven't met one lately. I believe in unicorns, and am sure I've seen a herd of them atop Cuttyhunk Island in the fog just at dusk.

I am looking for a woman who loves to sail, read, laugh, walk, go to movies, travel, and loves dogs. She can be a homebody too, as longs as she likes some adventure as well. I hope she is comfortable with closeness and intimacy, playful in bed (sex should be fun!), but also understands that sexual intimacy is spiritual as well -- an expression of deep and abiding love. I hope I am a sensitive and caring lover, as well as being playful sometimes. I'm not interested in casual sex. I want a woman with whom I can share on all levels -- emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical.

I would greatly appreciate a woman who is my intellectual equal (I know that sounds snobbish, but I want an educated woman who understands what I'm talking about and can challenge me to think more clearly and deeply). You've probably heard the axiom that 80% of a relationship in later years consists of verbal communication, so this is really important. So is non-verbal communication. I want a woman who is relatively healthy emotionally, and who is available on all levels -- physically, emotionally, spiritually. Her self esteem and self confidence should be quite good, as mine usually are.

Everybody has some baggage, and that's ok, as long as she doesn't expect me to heal it or carry it. (I have some of my own, and I don't want someone who thinks she's going to fix me. That's my job, and I'm working on it!)

I want someone who can communicate easily, who isn't afraid to be vulnerable, who can trust when it's earned. Hopefully she'll be sensitive, kind, able to be assertive, independent.

I want a woman with me because she wants to be, not because she needs to be. I am also attracted to women with high energy, who love life and dive in heart-first, have a very good sense of humor, and see much to laugh about in life, as I do.

I want a long term relationship, maybe marriage, although I'm not sure it's necessary at this point. If that is part of your heart's desire, we can talk seriously about it if we get that far. I do want someone special to grow with, to continue the journey with, to laugh with...
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a hospice chaplain, working 40 hours a week most weeks. I absolutely love this ministry and have never done anything for pay that is more fulfilling

I'm also a published author, I also do quite a lot of writing and have recently started a blog. I'm rediscovering a deep love for writing and get much satisfaction from the creative process. I'd love to earn a living as a writer. To that end, I have three projects, all of which I hope to turn into books. They all relate to recovery and spirituality in various ways. People say I'm very good at writing. I also recently bought a very expensive digital SLR camera and am having fun developing (!) my photography skills.

During the summer, I give sailing lessons and race a Herreshoff 12. (It is amazing to me that people actually pay me to do what I love most!) I've also done solo long-distance ocean sailing, but I'd love to share that with someone who loves it as much as I do.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Paying attention, listening, observing, sensing people's needs, communicating both orally and in writing, sailing, photography, and (I hope) loving. I'm a good cook too, if I have people to cook for.

I'm also very good at procrastinating.

I'm a good sailor and have cruised and raced both offshore and locally. I love solo sailing, but want someone equally passionate about the sport to sail with. Maybe around the world!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile & eyes, and probably lack of hair
I'm also told my gentle and powerful energy
That I'm left-handed
My sense of humor
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Kyra, by Carol Gilligan;John Irving's A Prayer for Owen Meany & Ciderhouse Rules; Song for the Blue Ocean ; The Bible; Desert Solitaire; Voice of the Earth by Theodore Rozak (of The Making of the Counter-Culture fame); all of Thomas Merton's work; The Odyssey and The Iliad; Sailing Alone Around the World, by Joshua Slocum; Thomas Moore's Care of the Soul & sequels; World Without End; The Color Purple and the Bluest Eye, by Alice Walker; The Prophet; Addiction and Grace and Wisdom of the Wilderness by Gerald May; Morton Kelsey's The Other Side of Silence; The Power of Now and A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle; Saved (by Karin Winegar); Storycatcher, Calling the Circle, & Life's Companion -- all by Christina Baldwin; and The Vision, by Tom Brown, Jr.

Mysteries by Andrew Greeley, Robert Parker (R.I.P.), Faye Kellerman, John Kellerman, Kathy Reichs, Phillip Craig (R.I.P.), David Rosenfelt, and Patricia Cornwall (though I think she has a pathological hatred of psychologically healthy women).

Poetry:Maya Angelou, Emily Dickinson, Robert Frost, Robert Bly, Mary Oliver, T.S. Eliot, Walt Whitman, Shakespeare's sonnets, Pablo Neruda, Rainer Maria Rilke, both Brownings, Samuel Taylor Coleridge, Alfred Lord Tennyson, John Masefield, Rumi, Maxine Cumin.

Music: Folk, Classical, Jazz, Broadway, Choral. Occasionally some traditional C&W. Neil Diamond, Frank Sinatra, Madeleine Peyroux, Jane Monheit, Ella Fitzgerald, the American Songbook, Music from the 50s and 60s (& some early 70s), James Taylor, Carly Simon, Carole King, The Beatles,Roberta Flack. This list could get very long...

Movies: Sleepless in Seattle (I know, I know! I told you I was an incurable romantic.), What the Bleep Do We Know?, Julie and Julia, Turner and Hooch, Joyeux Noel, Schindler's List, Casablanca, Michael Moore's documentaries, most of Woody Allen's films, Fargo, North by Northwest, Rear Window, Julie and Julia, Joe and the Volcano, The Perfect Storm, You've Got Mail, and The King's Speech. I recently subscribed to Netflix and am enjoying that.

Food: Lobster and clams, freshly picked corn on the cob and tomatoes; rare roast beef and yorkshire pudding; baby back ribs; apple, blueberry, and rhubarb pies; chocolate ice cream and hot fudge sundaes; snow pudding (if you know what it is and have a recipe, I am yours forever!); bluefish I've caught myself, barbecued chicken and steak grilled over real charcoal; angel food cake; freshly picked fruit; and Xango juice.

TV: Don't watch much. When I do, it tends to be PBS, Jon Stewart, or the National Geographic, Discovery, and History channels. I will also admit to watching NCIS on a regular basis. I think Hill Street Blues was one of the best written drama series on TV --ever.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Children and grandchildren
The ocean
My dog Gracie (She died in November of 2012, so I guess I should take her off this list, bringing it to 6.)
Good friends
(I know that's 7. Which would you leave out?)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I'm supposed to be doing here on Earth
The love-hate affair I'm having at the moment with organized religion
Sailing around the world with someone I love who's crazy about me!
My children and grandchildren
The environment and how I can make a positive difference
How I can be a better friend to the friends I have
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
A Meeting with friends and perhaps going to dinner afterwards. Sailing in the summer.
If I'm at home (rarely), watching Beat the Press and Bill Moyers' Journal.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Jeez! What do you want? I feel like I've bared my soul here!
No doubt there's more, but I'll have to know someone much better before I divulge it.
Well, all right. One thing: I spend an inordinate amount of time on Facebook, and wonder if there's a 12-Step program that can help.
You should message me if
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You're interested in what you've read, a good communicator, well educated, spiritual (not necessarily religious), and available emotionally. Must like dogs and sailing (or be open to learning). If you like walking on the beach with a dog, skinny-dipping on a warm summer night, traveling, talking about the latest book you're reading, going to the movies and then to dinner for good conversation, then let's talk.