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My self-summary
Want more pics? Just ask. Sorry for the hassle, but I'm not willing to give them to OKC.

Short and succinct summary? Impossible.

I'm quiet, like to be introspective, yet I am very passionate about certain things and go out of my way to do what I think is right in those realms. I'm thorough to a fault, absolutely love to learn, and love to ponder life's uncertainties whilst stargazing.

I'm antagonistic toward jock culture, but I love to be highly physical myself - on my bike riding until it hurts, or backpacking in the mountains for days on end. Sure, I'll watch some sports, but I don't care in the end and would rather be playing the same sports with my friends, perhaps in a mildly competitive manner, but with an overriding sense that the sport is just an excuse to be laughing and playing with your friends, no matter if they are good at it or not.

I work hard - too hard sometimes - and I think I need to learn from people who might be considered "slackers". Since I work for myself, I choose my own schedule and the one thing I do know how to do is sleep in. Corporate employment might be the easy path to a home and security, but the satisfaction of being self-motivated and the freedom to set one's own schedule are both invaluable and healthy.

I can't be bothered to waste my time on TV, but will definitely pick and choose certain series to watch from start to finish: Battlestar Galactica, Deadwood... although that takes forever, since non-interactive pursuits just don't take high priority for me. However, I love nothing more than sharing an intelligent movie (and cuddling?) and then the good conversation that it inspires.

To me the most important part of a relationship, romantic or not, is the depth of conversation, the extent to which I can learn from someone, the stimulation of the mind. Well, sure, who doesn't like the physical aspects, but I guess I find that the physical can follow emotional and intellectual connection.

I can geek out with the best of them, and in fact, I spend a large amount of time as an Open Source contributor, etc., but I don't find that ultimately important enough to make central to how I define myself as a person. I spend enough time in front of a computer, so I would rather use any remaining hours of my day not continuing to have my relationships mediated by technology (ah yes, the irony of saying that *here*....).

I have a strong interest in socio-political issues. I found my politics via punk, which will always be an important part of my life, but I find it objectionable (and too easy) to draw lines with my beliefs - I've found lots of meaning and growth in friendships with people who are situated outside my particular set of worldly opinions.

And yeah, I am quiet, shy, but I like to have fun - PLAY - when the time is right, and I can be loud and boisterous if I need to be. I've been in bands, I still like to dance in my room the music that inspires me: anything from punk to dixieland jazz.

I am thoughtful, thorough, and unconventional.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm vegan, but I don't need you to be. Just no dumb meat-eating jokes. :)

Mostly read online, but am thinking I'd like to change that, possibly by picking up Dune. I wish I had more reading in my life - mostly SciFi & political.

I like to veg out to Hollywood movies, but hardly ever see them. Independent films are usually more thought-provoking I suppose. But I'd rather go take a hike.
On a typical Friday night I am
What's so special about Friday?
You should message me if
You're self-motivated and have your own very full life. You're looking to both learn and teach a partner, and enjoy mutual open-mindedness.

I didn't post close-up pics on purpose. I'm happy to share some in private.

Also important - I recently have had the chance to shift my life away from the Bay Area... my friends and cultural affinity are still in the Bay, but my goal is to end up somewhere more scenic and relaxed, so for now I'm skiing most of the winter in Tahoe, cycling the Sacramento bike trails in the Spring, enjoying the PCT in the summer and would consider being back in the Bay full time only for the right person. :-)