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29 Northampton, MA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–36
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Jan 26
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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The Tao begot one,
One begot two,
Two begot three,
And three begot the ten thousand things.
Tao Te Ching

We actually met on okcupid - went on a few dates and fell madly in love. So the site does work, in case you're wondering. It's also proven to be a great way to make friends.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Each of us has our own profile on this site, Tenon and kristenmelissa. If you'd like to know more about us as individuals I suggest you check those out. Here I'd like to talk about each of us in the context of what we're looking for in this profile.

kristenmelissa is a beautiful, intelligent, and charming woman. Everyone who meets her seems to fall in love with her, and she is genuinely one of the wisest souls I've ever known. She's also complicated. She loves men, and prefers to date and have relationships with men, but the lion's share of her sexual desires are toward women. This has been true for a long time, but it's only recently that she's accepted this part of herself, and felt safe enough in a relationship to actively pursue it.

I, Tenon am endlessly fascinated by women. I don't just mean sexually; although that part is certainly nice. I thrive on female energy of all sorts - I tease little girls, I flirt with teenagers, I sweet talk old ladies. To me interacting with women of all sorts, in all different ways, is one of the great joys of life. Most of my friends are women, most of the people that I seek out and choose to spend time with are women. Needless to say, this has been threatening to past partners.

So we are two complicated people who love each other deeply, who are creating a relationship that holds space for that complexity and allows each of us to grow and explore. We don't have an "open" relationship, exactly - we're very careful about whom we let in and how we conduct things, because we respect the power and fragility of what we have together.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
We met an amazing woman recently and had a great time with her. A few days later we exchanged emails, and she said something that touched me very deeply, because it gets to the core of our approach to life and relationships. She said:

"It's funny because a threesome with an established couple could, I think, make the third feel more like an accessory, but I've had exactly the opposite reaction with you guys. I feel like you care more about my pleasure (and me!) than any of my previous partners have."
The first things people usually notice about me
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I know what you're thinking, so here's what this is not:

--This is not some straight girl who wants to experiment, because everybody on TV is kissing girls and she wants to, too, plus she's insecure and wants to titillate her boyfriend.

--This is not some d-bag dude who's watched too many Girls Gone Wild videos and wants to feel like THE MAN because he has two hot babes all up on his junk, so he's begged and pleaded with his girlfriend until she's reluctantly agreed to indulge him.

--And this is not some skeezy old couple - bored with themselves and bored with each other - who are looking for some hot young thing to "spice up" their lame sex life.

What this is, is two attractive, interesting people - passionately in love and passionate about life - who want to continue to explore their sexuality and ability to share love through the medium of another person.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My candle burns at both ends;
It will not last the night;
But ah, my foes, and oh, my friends—
It gives a lovely light!

Edna St. Vincent Millay
Emma Goldman
Jean-Jacques Rousseau
Jean Paul Sartre
Simone de Beavoir
Henry Miller
Virginia Woolf
Bertrand Russell
George Benard Shaw
Pablo Picasso
Salvador Dali
Frida Kahlo

The list goes on and on. Powerful minds, passionate souls consume life, and are consumed by it. Fears and hesitations are nothing in the quest for experience.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Artistic Expression
Expressing Love
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Communication in relationships - both the importance of it and how to do it most effectively. How to experience life and love more fully.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
We're both very social and yet workaholics, so we like the Roost in Noho. We have many lovely friends who host parties and other outings, so we check those out sometimes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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*Former band geeks*
You should message me if
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You want to try out the Hitachi.

But seriously, we respond better to people who actually want to get to know us.