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Last online
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Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Average build
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
English, French (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm an INTP, evidently. Used to be an INFP, but I guess I'm hardening as I age.

A friend once described me as having "porous boundaries." I would've gone with "selectively permeable," but the idea is basically the same.

The long description linked above is actually a pretty good summary of how I see myself (theoretical, abstract, intellectual, tolerant)--despite the fact that the Myers-Briggs test is pure-cane pseudoscience. I disagree with parts of it, though. I think I experience emotions pretty intensely, even though people tend to think I have none, and I generally empathize with living things. The Lorax was a formative book in my childhood. I'm strongly drawn to movies about impossible love. Another, less preening way of saying all of that is: I'm kind of sensitive.

I care very much about social justice but do too little to promote it. Hot topics: public education, wealth inequity, mass transit.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm an English professor. I work on English Rensissance literature.

For a long time, the work was what I considered to be what I'm doing with my life. Now it's becoming a component in an overall picture, so I'm working on clarifying the others.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading, thinking about aesthetic objects, thinking about ideas, philology and creative etymology, finding the humor in most situations.

I'm pretty bad at making small talk, meeting new people in real life, and remembering names (faces, though, I remember very well).
The first things people usually notice about me
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My alacrity and effulgence.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Lolita, To the Lighthouse, Paradise Lost, Astrophil and Stella, John Donne, Utopia, Dracula, Alice's Adventures in Wonderland and Through the Looking-Glass, Wolf Hall, Flannery O'Connor stories, Elizabeth Bishop's poetry, Bourdieu, Derrida, Foucault, Judith Butler

Movies: Mean Girls, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Barry Lyndon, Star Wars, Persona, Weekend, Grosse Pointe Blank, Aguirre, the Wrath of God, Koyaanisqatsi, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Paris Is Burning, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Cave of Forgotten Dreams, The Passion of Joan of Arc, Bring It On

Music: Ludwig van Beethoven, Igor Stravinsky, Loreena McKennitt, Erasure, Jean Sibelius, Franz Joseph Haydn, Boards of Canada, Steve Reich, Aimee Mann, The New Pornographers, Neutral Milk Hotel, CHVRCHES, Radiohead, Joanna Newsom, Rufus Wainwright, Björk, György Ligeti, early Philip Glass, Antonín Dvořák, Andrew Bird, Neko Case, Béla Bartók, Franz Schubert, Samuel Barber, Vampire Weekend, The National, Pérotin, Fleetwood Mac, Michael Jackson, Sacred Harp, Bulgarian State Vocal Choir, Sade

There are also a few artists who have one or a few tracks I love but wouldn't count as overall favorites: Aphex Twin, Charles Mingus, M.I.A., Beck, Bon Iver, Caroline Shaw, "Jolene"

TV: The Simpsons, The Outs, Battlestar Galactica, Planet Earth, Star Trek: The Next Generation, Torchwood (Children of Earth especially), Absolutely Fabulous, (most of) Twin Peaks, The IT Crowd, Arrested Development, What's My Line?, And As It Is Such, So Also As Such Is It Unto You, and I'm starting genuinely to enjoy Looking

Stand-up: Louis C.K., Tig Notaro, Mike Birbiglia, James Adomian, Gabe Leidman, Miss Coco Peru

Food: Chipotle, Ethiopian, Indian, Japanese, and (at less exalted moments) Arby's.

Buildings: Kimbell Art Museum (Kahn), Church of Light (Ando), Aqua (Gang), Baker Dormitory (Aalto), Deutsche Post Tower (Jahn), Crown Center (SOM), Villa Savoye (Le Corbusier--yeah, yeah), Crown Hall (Mies), National Gallery East Building (Pei). Eventually I'll visit them all.

Artists: Michelangelo, Rembrandt, Rogier van der Weyden, Jan van Eyck, Hans Memling, Hans Holbein, Barbara Kruger, Andy Warhol, Marcel Duchamp, Alberto Giacometti, Sigmar Polke, Sol Lewitt, Eva Hesse, Robert Smithson, Adrian Piper, Jeff Koons, Cindy Sherman, Jenny Holzer, Gerhard Richter, Lorna Simpson, Robert Mapplethorpe, George Platt Lynes, Carolee Schneemann, Felix Gonzalez-Torres.

I've started keeping a list of places I hope to visit: Machu Picchu, Tokyo, Istanbul, Berlin, Rome/Florence/Venice, Amsterdam, Delhi, Buenos Aires, Toronto, San Francisco, Reykjavik, Fingal's Cave, Flodden Field, Giza--it's a continuing list.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This is a genuine eye-roller, but I collect moments, like coins or shells. They seem a lot more indicative of my personality than a list that would include "burritos" and "the internet." Here are six (but there are more):

1. A beach in Washington with tide-pools flushed purple and green, tiny inexplicable bowls of life; 12 years old.

2. My first time seeing a Van Gogh at the Getty; 14 years old.

3. Finals night DCI 2004; my group (The Bluecoats) achieved the highest score we ever had. Leaving the stadium, we were showered with flowers, and I felt like a Roman Gladiator; 19 years old.

4. Seeing the Aurora Borealis as far south as Illinois while I was in college, 2005; 20 years old.

5. Spending a month reading the handwriting of three women who had been dead for 500 years and straining to hear their whispers across the centuries, 2010; 26 years old.

6. Seeing Einstein on the Beach in London, 2012; 28 years old.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Language, poetics, the history of reading, deconstruction, gender and sexuality. Recently, too, my life goals.

More than I want to admit: plot holes in science fiction television.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
up to, effectively, no good.
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you're interested in making new friends.