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29 M Chicago, IL

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Last Online
Yesterday – 8:27pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
When drinking
Very often
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm an INTP, evidently. Used to be an INFP, but I guess I'm hardening as I age.

The long description linked above is actually a pretty good summary of how I see myself (theoretical, abstract, intellectual, tolerant). I disagree with parts of it, though. I think I experience emotions pretty intensely, even though people tend to think I have none, and I generally empathize with living things. The Lorax was a formative book in my childhood. Another, less preening way of saying all of that is: I'm kind of sensitive.

I care very much about social justice but do too little to promote it. Hot topics: public education, wealth inequity, mass transit.
What I’m doing with my life
I've just finished a PhD in English (Renaissance British, specifically--and believe me, I can tell you about it, at tiresome length, if you're interested). I'm in kind of a limbo for the next few months, figuring out what I want to do next. I started grad school intending to become a professor, but several years on the inside of academia has made me rather cynical about it. So we'll see what happens.

For a long time, the work was what I considered to be what I'm doing with my life. Now it's becoming a component in an overall picture, so I'm working on clarifying the others.
I’m really good at
Reading, thinking about aesthetic objects, thinking about ideas, philology and creative etymology, finding the humor in most situations.

I'm pretty bad at making small talk, meeting new people in real life, and remembering names (faces, though, I remember very well).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Lolita, To the Lighthouse, Paradise Lost, Astrophil and Stella, Utopia, Dracula, Alice's Adventures in Wonderland and Through the Looking-Glass, Wolf Hall, Flannery O'Connor stories, Elizabeth Bishop's poetry, Barthes, Derrida, Foucault, Judith Butler

Movies: Mean Girls, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Barry Lyndon, Star Wars, Persona, Brokeback Mountain, Weekend, Aguirre, the Wrath of God, Koyaanisqatsi, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Paris Is Burning, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Cave of Forgotten Dreams

Music: Ludwig van Beethoven, Igor Stravinsky, Jean Sibelius, Franz Joseph Haydn, Steve Reich, Aimee Mann, The New Pornographers, Neutral Milk Hotel, Radiohead, Joanna Newsom, Rufus Wainwright, Björk, György Ligeti, early Philip Glass, Antonín Dvořák, Andrew Bird, Neko Case, Béla Bartók, Franz Schubert, Samuel Barber, Vampire Weekend, The National, Pérotin, Fleetwood Mac, Michael Jackson, Sacred Harp, Bulgarian State Vocal Choir

TV: The Simpsons, The Outs, Battlestar Galactica, Planet Earth, Green Porno, Star Trek: The Next Generation, Torchwood (Children of Earth especially), Absolutely Fabulous, (most of) Twin Peaks, The IT Crowd, Arrested Development

Stand-up: Louis C.K., Tig Notaro, Mike Birbiglia

Food: Chipotle, Ethiopian, Indian, and (at less exalted moments) Arby's.

Buildings: Kimball Art Museum (Kahn), Church of Light (Ando), Aqua (Gang), Baker Dormitory (Aalto), Deutsche Post Tower (Jahn), Crown Center (SOM), Villa Savoye (Le Corbusier--yeah, yeah), Crown Hall (Mies), National Gallery East Building (Pei). Eventually I'll visit them all.

Artists: Michelangelo, Rembrandt, Rogier van der Weyden, Jan van Eyck, Hans Memling, Hans Holbein, Barbara Kruger, Andy Warhol, Marcel Duchamp, Alberto Giacometti, Sigmar Polke, Sol Lewitt, Eva Hesse, Robert Smithson, Adrian Piper, Jeff Koons, Cindy Sherman, Jenny Holzer, Gerhard Richter, Lorna Simpson, Robert Mapplethorpe, George Platt Lynes, Carolee Schneemann, Felix Gonzalez-Torres
The six things I could never do without
The six things I could never do without:
The internet (information wants to be free)

The six things I love just because:
Gingko leaves
The Renaissance
Midcentury modern
Pulp sci-fi
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Language, poetics, the history of reading, deconstruction, gender and sexuality. Recently, too, my life goals.

More than I want to admit: plot holes in science fiction television.
On a typical Friday night I am
thinking about England.

Whether I'm closing my eyes meanwhile depends on my company.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not looking for romantic relationships at the moment. Friends, dates, casual hangouts, and the like. I can explain why if you're curious.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
you look outward instead of--or, in addition to--inward.