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52 M Ames, IA

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6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Not at all
Other, and laughing about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Okay)

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My self-summary
What will it take to turn our planet, and the country in charge of destroying its cultures and biodiversity? What can we do to remove our support from all that is going wrong, and build communities of sanity, support, healing, and harmony? If you think about those questions too, I think we will automatically be good friends. If you don't, what are you waiting for?:)

Really, I'm as involved in global justice as I am ecological living. I love to travel, experience live music, learn new ideas and skills.

Beyond that, I'm one of those friendship first and always types. Bad at games, so I keep trying honesty. Gets me no where, because spiritual partners are rare. If you value honesty in friendship, that is a good start.

I have come to believe in a universe of energy, instead of the dead matter of reductionist science. So we know a lot less than we think we do. Part of our ecology problem, eh? String theory means there is more to the universe than we normally perceive.

INXP the first time, INFP every time since.

I'm very interested in permaculture, ecovillages, social entrepreneurism, self-reliance, season extension, food drying and preservation, solar building and retrofitting, cooperatives, pragmatic and empowering education...

Lots of other things to talk about, but if that interests you, maybe the rest will too.

I am imaginative, committed, and curious
What I’m doing with my life
I work around 32 hours per week as a library cataloger. The rest of the time
I'm mostly thinking and doing what I can for a sane future.
I’m really good at
Listening, problem solving, bullshit detecting...
The first things people usually notice about me
Tall, skinny, bald... Soft voice, centered persona.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
a) Castanada, Vonnegut, Hesse, Alice Walker...
b) Monty Python, Brazil, Syriana, The Corporation, Occupation 101
c) Pat Metheny Group, Bela Fleck, Greg Brown, David Rovics, Karan Casey...
d) Indian, Thai, local fruits/vegetables
e) podcasts: Le Show, Alan Watts, TMBG, Democracy Now, TED talks
f) tv: Daily Show, Colbert Report, Now, South Park, Book TV
I spend a lot of time thinking about
a) Peak oil, global climate change, the dollar slowly swirling down the drain. How does it all play out? What will life be like with economic and ecological stress and unpredictability? How much better set would we be if we prepared now instead of waiting for the shit to start flying?
b) Penultimate relationships--why do we waste our time looking for that ultimate relationship? Until we find the relationship that teaches us the skills we need, the frame that will encompass that ultimate relationship, we are looking the wrong direction. Like climbing a mountain by following a straight line from bottom to top. Why don't we seem to have an instinct to think strategically? When you stare at what you are looking for, does that help or hurt in the hunt?
c) Communication, self-knowledge, functional selves and families. Is trust a goal or a starting point? If the nuclear family is the result of capitalism, what more supportive form will evolve with "ecologicalism"?
d) Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain, he knows whats best for you...
e) Civil society--is reforming government and corporations the best way to re-form functional communities? What about voluntary cooperative organizing? Vote with your feet, hands and minds, create a new future with like-minded people... Bootstrapping through community.
f) The disconnect between our words and our actions. The complexity of using both to change from how we have been programmed to who we would like to be.
g) If we support candidates who are to our right, don't we enable the further migration of our political culture to the right? Shouldn't recognition of Iran's sovereignty under international law be a pre-condition of our support, and undercut the imperial war machine? 50 some percent of our taxes go to support the empire, isn't it a legitimate campaign issue?
h) What is freedom, if not the ability to leave behind boxes, labels and traditional roles, and get to know our true selves? Love isn't a zero sum game. If it's real, it has to be unique. I realize it's kind of like building a bike when you just want to hop on one and ride. But isn't this worth being both patient and creative about?
i) The difference between "romantic" relationships and "spiritual" ones. I think every relationship I've had has ended up on the rocks of romantic expectations. I'm sorry, I always choose to be real, not Hollywood. Anyone got me on that one? A spiritual relationship is two people looking at what is, and imagining what could be. Much different than the programming of our culture.
j) Thinking about how to get some wilderness time this year. Contemplating joining the climate march for a week in NM in May.
On a typical Friday night I am
More than likely home with the kitty, catching up on Daily Shows and Colbert Reports, and reading one of several books always going.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Character flaws: stubborn, overly idealistic, overly introverted and inner world centered. Sometimes impatient, lacking perspective. Too often avoid immersion in other cultures, especially mainstream American culture:)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 31–82
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You are curious about anything I've said, or you just like meeting new people and learning about them.